Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 I'm wondering because i haven't slept with many people to get out there for the sake of it and try to make up for lost time. It seems men don't have respect anymore for the inexperienced woman past the age of 27. I kind of get the impression that men don't want to teach woman in their late 20s and prefer woman to have had substantial amount of sexual and relationship experience. Before entering a relationship, I'm wondering if i should sleep with a few men first just to gain experience as that would make things less terrible, akward and frustrating for the other guy and less embarrassing for me. Plus i would catch up so to speak. It seems these days men wouldn't enter a relationship with a woman whose slept with only a few and can count only on her one hand the number of men she's slept with. The more experience the more respect i would get. What are peoples thoughts? What are mens thoughts?
Redhead14 Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 I'm wondering because i haven't slept with many people to get out there for the sake of it and try to make up for lost time. It seems men don't have respect anymore for the inexperienced woman past the age of 27. I kind of get the impression that men don't want to teach woman in their late 20s and prefer woman to have had substantial amount of sexual and relationship experience. Before entering a relationship, I'm wondering if i should sleep with a few men first just to gain experience as that would make things less terrible, akward and frustrating for the other guy and less embarrassing for me. Plus i would catch up so to speak. It seems these days men wouldn't enter a relationship with a woman whose slept with only a few and can count only on her one hand the number of men she's slept with. The more experience the more respect i would get. What are peoples thoughts? What are mens thoughts? The more experience the more respect i would get. -- Sexual experience and respect are not linked per se. Albeit, usually if a woman has slept with a lot of men, the respect level drops. And, that's a double-standard. If that is the mindset you apply, you will set yourself up for confusion and hurt. It's your self-respect that's important. Sleeping with men just to gain experience with the intent of garnering respect isn't the way to go about it. You should, of course, sleep with a man if you really want to, but don't do it just to get "experience". Let things happen naturally. In the end, if you have a lack of experience and aren't "good" in bed, that's something that the right person will be patient with and help you learn. In fact, it may be a good bonding opportunity. It will be a fresh area for the two of you to explore together
Gaeta Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 You will not gain bed experience by sleeping with several different men. You gain experience when you are in a stable relationship, communication is open and you explore together. 3
Mrin Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 I think you are way overthinking this. First off - for every man who wants an experienced woman in the sack, there is a man who is downright apoplectic at the thought that his gal had sex with another guy. Plus, for all the guys who want an experience woman, it isn't like it is some sort of deal breaker. I'm one of those guys actually. I don't want an experienced woman per se. I want a woman who is comfortable with her sexuality. Comfortable being pleasured and pleasuring me. In giving herself to me - surrendering. So it isn't how many guys you've been with per se but rather your comfort level in your sexuality that should be your focus. So all that being said - your initial idea isn't bad per se. I just think you're doing it for the wrong reasons. There is nothing wrong with wanting to explore your sexuality. Perhaps what you're thinking of doing isn't a bad idea. I wouldn't go out and rack up a bunch of one night stands. All that will do it increase your "number" without telling yourself much about yourself. What I would consider doing is taking a giving lover even if it is just a FWB type arrangement. A guy who can make your body sing. Go let yourself be seduced by him and go into it with no expectations other than some great sex. Food for thought...
Author Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 No men want to teach woman these days. The last guy i slept with told me i was terrible and needed more practice. I had only slept with three others up until that point. He didn't respect me at all and I'm sure my inexperience was a major contributor to this. Needless to say he cheated on me. I hate the idea going into a relationship knowing that the man is about to compare me to all the other woman he's probably slept with and realised that he has to wait until his inexperienced lover is trained up to his expectationS and standards. i wouldn't be able to get over the fact that he's had satisfying sex with many woman and I'd let him down. That's why if i get out there learn a few tricks,.practice on a few different men, I'd be able to enjoy sex and the same level of someone who i could have a relationship with. Just the mere thought that someone would have to." Paitent " with me because their little inexperienced lover is still learning the ropes. It's a bit frustrating for that guy isn't it? No man wants to teach someone past the age of 27.
Gaeta Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 No men want to teach woman these days. The last guy i slept with told me i was terrible and needed more practice. Why exactly did he qualify you as terrible?
Gaeta Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Here is my suggestion. Get a FWB and explain to him you are looking to learn. You will have tons of volunteers but pick one. 1
Redhead14 Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 No men want to teach woman these days. The last guy i slept with told me i was terrible and needed more practice. I had only slept with three others up until that point. He didn't respect me at all and I'm sure my inexperience was a major contributor to this. Needless to say he cheated on me. I hate the idea going into a relationship knowing that the man is about to compare me to all the other woman he's probably slept with and realised that he has to wait until his inexperienced lover is trained up to his expectationS and standards. i wouldn't be able to get over the fact that he's had satisfying sex with many woman and I'd let him down. That's why if i get out there learn a few tricks,.practice on a few different men, I'd be able to enjoy sex and the same level of someone who i could have a relationship with. Just the mere thought that someone would have to." Paitent " with me because their little inexperienced lover is still learning the ropes. It's a bit frustrating for that guy isn't it? No man wants to teach someone past the age of 27. The last guy i slept with told me i was terrible and needed more practice. -- this guy was an idiot. He likely doesn't respect women anyway. If I decided to have sex with a man and he did not appreciate that privilege, I'd be out of that bed so fast his head would spin. Needless to say he cheated on me -- he probably would have cheated on you anyway. Not only that, if you are enjoying being with the man, you simply start to explore possibilities and try things. He will let you know if it works for him or not. Just be open minded and creative. I'm sure you know the basics. And, what works for one guy might not work for another. Be adventurous with the guy. Ask him what he likes, how he likes it or just pay attention to his responses to various "acts" Be confident.
Author Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 He told me i didn't know what i wanted in bed because i hadn't had enough experience to have an idea. He liked sex his way and in his opinion that's the only way we were going to have it. He thought it was foolish that i had only slept with a few people and he use to go into detail of the woman he had slept with and how many. I also didn't know many of the positions he wanted to have and i hadn't done them before. That frustrated him and he told me i was terrible in bed.
Gaeta Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 He told me i didn't know what i wanted in bed because i hadn't had enough experience to have an idea. He liked sex his way and in his opinion that's the only way we were going to have it. He thought it was foolish that i had only slept with a few people and he use to go into detail of the woman he had slept with and how many. I also didn't know many of the positions he wanted to have and i hadn't done them before. That frustrated him and he told me i was terrible in bed. He was a retarded jack@ss. His opinion has no value what so ever. 4
DrReplyInRhymes Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 (edited) I don't know about you, but I would prefer a woman with only a few, Enough to understand the basics, but not enough to be considered old news, A virgin I would be weary of, they often want to experience more than just one, But too many previous partners is something I wouldn't consider "fun." Something to consider is that no man I know wants to be with the town pump, The metaphor obviously referring to everyone getting their chance at a hump, I don't care what other people think, it's my own view that I share, Those long listed women....I scream to every man, beware! You will not gain bed experience by sleeping with several different men. You gain experience when you are in a stable relationship, communication is open and you explore together. This. Edited April 20, 2015 by DrReplyInRhymes forgot to quote
Author Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 Actually some men prefer promiscuous woman. i feel close to shamefully virginal hence why I want to sleep with more. I haven't met a single man that's ever respected me. And from my experience men who are teamed up with less experience women usually take advantage of her.
GemmaUK Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 I agree with every single post and piece of advice Gaeta has given you. Find a friend..one you can trust enough to become a friend with benefits and try things out. That guy was an idiot. But learning about your body (and someone else's is fun) - it's how it should be. Read up too on some books for women about sex or articles by women - that is where you will learn the most about you and how your body works. Men get to know what to do with you after a while but each man and woman is different. First and foremost though explore yourself! 1
Gaeta Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Actually some men prefer promiscuous woman. i feel close to shamefully virginal hence why I want to sleep with more. I haven't met a single man that's ever respected me. And from my experience men who are teamed up with less experience women usually take advantage of her. Some men sure.........but is that the man you want in your life? If you want to sleep with more men then you're of age so do what ever rocks your boat but know that it cannot be undone ever. Use protection an be aware majority of stds can be transmitted during unprotected oral sex, and finally don't believe one word these men tell you.
Gaeta Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 I haven't met a single man that's ever respected me. We have already established that the men you've met are worthless. Why do you use them as a barometer? Why do you give any importance to their opinion?
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