GTR King Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 When should I delete my dating profiles?? E.G POF Tinder etc I have been talking to this girl for 3 months (tinder & Text) and have seen her once a week for the last month. we have texted every day for the last month. 1st time we met (In night club) 2nd time went to cinema 3rd time food & cinema 4th time food walk & movie at mine (She met my mum) & showed her round mine. 5th time went to her flat watched FA Cup & other tv and had dominos pizza and cuddled on her soft for the evening (Met her house mate girl) seeing her this Friday food/cinema maybe back to mine & asked her if she wan join us on sat got table at night club and she said let u know but should be fine... she keeps joking/flirting with me via text/when we meet up Haven't ask her out yet but when she was talking to her house mate & house mate said all my friends are taken to can't ask them to come tonight to meet a guy who is lovely. she said yeah I am taken and then winked at me. I said who is it she it's you and smiled at me then hugged me...
Redhead14 Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 When should I delete my dating profiles?? E.G POF Tinder etc I have been talking to this girl for 3 months (tinder & Text) and have seen her once a week for the last month. we have texted every day for the last month. 1st time we met (In night club) 2nd time went to cinema 3rd time food & cinema 4th time food walk & movie at mine (She met my mum) & showed her round mine. 5th time went to her flat watched FA Cup & other tv and had dominos pizza and cuddled on her soft for the evening (Met her house mate girl) seeing her this Friday food/cinema maybe back to mine & asked her if she wan join us on sat got table at night club.. Haven't ask her out yet but when she was talking to her house mate & house mate said all my friends are taken to can't ask them to come tonight to meet a guy who is lovely. she said yeah I am taken and then winked at me. I said who is it she it's you and smiled at me then hugged me... You tell her you want exclusivity with her and that you will remove your dating profile if she wants that with you and, if you intend to live up to the exclusivity agreement . . . 1
Author GTR King Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 Ok thanks she has said she only wants to date me & don't have tinder on her phone anymore & is not on any other dating apps/sites 2
Mrin Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Okay, here's my take on the whole dating profile thing. I certainly see the logic of Redhead14's suggestion. But i'll offer a different point of view: Take them down when you want to take them down. I think we make far too much of the act of taking down the profiles. It isn't like you're deleting them. All you're doing is taking yourself off the market. You can put them back up at any time with just a few clicks. This isn't a big step. Take them down when you want to. Take them down when you feel that you'd rather see what happens with this girl (or any girl) rather than meet someone else. Don't look at it like putting all your eggs in one basket. Rather, think of it as clearing yourself of distraction so you can see where this leads. Don't make a big fanfare of taking them down either. In fact, don't make any fanfare. Just take them down when you're ready. And put them back up if you feel what you have isn't going anywhere. As a personal note: I only took my profiles down twice. Once was because the woman I was dating asked me to. The second time I took them down after my second date with my soulmate using my logic above. I just wanted to take them down and see where things led with her. Also in my mind was that there was probably a good possibility they'd be back up by the end of the month as it was only our second date. I didn't care. It just felt right. We're now 9 months together and blissfully happy. Now - on to this girl - call her up and ask her out. Seriously. Take charge in this situation.
Redhead14 Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Ok thanks she has said she only wants to date me & don't have tinder on her phone anymore & is not on any other dating apps/sites Taking down your profile is really just a "show of good faith" and eliminates any possible insecurity she may have. If a man asks for exclusivity and keeps his profile and keeps checking it, regardless of his intention to use it, it causes some women to question the man's sincerity about exclusivity. You can reactivate it anytime if things go south. But if you like her enough, don't be thinking that way. Think positively If you feel you need to continue to have the site active, you might want to re-consider whether you're really all in with the girl. If there's any question in your mind still, don't ask for exclusivity.
Author GTR King Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 (edited) thanks for the advice I will talk about it when I see her next and suggest exclusivity and see what she says but feels like she just wanna be with me. I feel ready to be exclusive with her I do want to delete my profiles as i have no need for them and don't use them anymore as just wanna concentrate with this girl for now... just wondered when it's best to delete them... Edited April 20, 2015 by GTR King 2
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 Never delete your profile. Just hide yourself from view and unsubscribe. If things don't work out you'll be glad you didn't delete it
Author GTR King Posted April 21, 2015 Author Posted April 21, 2015 Thanks will just delete the apps on my iPhone & not log on as don't need to at the moment
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 Make sure you hide your profile so you aren't searchable.
Gaeta Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 Never delete your profile. Just hide yourself from view and unsubscribe. If things don't work out you'll be glad you didn't delete it If she deleted her profile he should delete it as well. Like Readhead said it's a show of faith. Also it takes 2 minutes to redo a profile! OP: Delete the damn thing, it feels so good to be off of there !!! Offer her exactly what she has offered you. Delete the thing.
Redhead14 Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 If she deleted her profile he should delete it as well. Like Readhead said it's a show of faith. Also it takes 2 minutes to redo a profile! OP: Delete the damn thing, it feels so good to be off of there !!! Offer her exactly what she has offered you. Delete the thing. Doing this will maintain the all important balance of the relationship. She takes hers down, you take yours down. The only reason to leave it up would be that you aren't sure about wanting to be exclusive. If you are, you don't need it. Yeah, if she's feeling insecure because you left it up, it's maybe just "her" problem, but if a man is concerned about the woman's feelings, he will respect them. That is another important feature of a relationship, respect for the other's feelings and doing things to make each other feel secure in the relationship. 1
Gary S Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 Don't delete them yet. If you have seen a girl 3 times in three months, it's not a match. Find a woman who wants to see you at least once a week.
Gaeta Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 GTR: Listen to the women on here. We are telling you we are very sensitive about those profiles. If she took hers down, told you, and you keep yours up, I can assure you she is posting somewhere 'why does he keep his profile up'.
Gaeta Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 Don't delete them yet. If you have seen a girl 3 times in three months, it's not a match. Find a woman who wants to see you at least once a week. A friendly reminder: I have been talking to this girl for 3 months (tinder & Text) and have seen her once a week for the last month. 1
Rko28 Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 she only wants to date you? Keep the profile, until she mentions being exclusive then youre fine to keep it on there!
Gary S Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 A friendly reminder: I have been talking to this girl for 3 months (tinder & Text) and have seen her once a week for the last month. - lol, I think I missed something there. Thank you Gaeta.
Gary S Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 I would stop logging on and delete the phone apps. I would leave it up until she takes hers down. Wait for her to bring up profiles or being exclusive. Welcome to world's biggest cat-and-mouse game, dating.
Gaeta Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 What is wrong with you guys lol, c'mon man up a little! You're the big chasers! Why wait for the woman to bring up exclusivity? and she already deleted her profile !! Isn't that a big cue that it's safe for him to offer exclusivity?
Mrin Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 GTR: Listen to the women on here. We are telling you we are very sensitive about those profiles. If she took hers down, told you, and you keep yours up, I can assure you she is posting somewhere 'why does he keep his profile up'. Quoted for truth
katiegrl Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 What is wrong with you guys lol, c'mon man up a little! You're the big chasers! Why wait for the woman to bring up exclusivity? and she already deleted her profile !! Isn't that a big cue that it's safe for him to offer exclusivity? ^^Totally agree..sheesh!! Changing subjects, Gaeta what's happening with your new guy? Can you post an update? Not here but on the thread you created. Inquiring mind..... 1
Gary S Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 Where did the OP say the lady deleted her profile? I must be sleep-writing again Mirror her... if she deleted her profile, you delete yours. 1
Gaeta Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 Where did the OP say the lady deleted her profile? I must be sleep-writing again Mirror her... if she deleted her profile, you delete yours. Another friendly reminder. I'm gonna start charging you ;-) she has said she only wants to date me & don't have tinder on her phone anymore & is not on any other dating apps/sites 1
Gary S Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 Another friendly reminder. I'm gonna start charging you ;-) she has said she only wants to date me & don't have tinder on her phone anymore & is not on any other dating apps/sites - I gave at the office (thank you sweetie!)
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 Women set the pace of things before it is a relationship (sex/exclusivity). Men set the pace after it is a relationship (marriage).
Author GTR King Posted April 21, 2015 Author Posted April 21, 2015 (edited) thanks I will delete the apps as no need for them anymore I have seen her 5 times so far the 6th time is this Friday and Prob see her Saturday night as well in town. I don't know how to take down tinder/pof/okcupid but don't need to use them anymore. she has deleted the app (Saw her iPhone app wasn't there) and hasn't logged on in 2 weeks & told me she not no other dating sites Edited April 21, 2015 by GTR King
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