smg15 Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 NO intentions on seeing face to face? I mean if I'm not interested on someone why the hell would I text them? Wouldn't it make more sense to just put me on the spam list since she never answers my calls? This girl I met on 4/6 has not answered my calls the last 3 times so I haven't been able toset up a second date. She keeps giving me mixed signals because she responds to all my texts right away and texts me after she missed my call but has yet to call me first or text me first. Does situation sound odd to anyone else?
PegNosePete Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Attention, feeling good about herself, ego boosting, time filling, showing off to friends, social status, orbiting, keeping in reserve. Do I have to go on? There are a million reasons, all of them totally irrelevant. The only relevant question is, what are you going to do about it? 2
Vintage79 Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Sure, maybe calls are better, but it's super easy to set up a second date via text, in particular if she's responsive - have you tried setting a second date up via text yet?
Author smg15 Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 Sure, maybe calls are better, but it's super easy to set up a second date via text, in particular if she's responsive - have you tried setting a second date up via text yet? No because it's feels weird to set up a date that way
Author smg15 Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 Attention, feeling good about herself, ego boosting, time filling, showing off to friends, social status, orbiting, keeping in reserve. Do I have to go on? There are a million reasons, all of them totally irrelevant. The only relevant question is, what are you going to do about it? Keeping in reserve? * 3.
Redhead14 Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 NO intentions on seeing face to face? I mean if I'm not interested on someone why the hell would I text them? Wouldn't it make more sense to just put me on the spam list since she never answers my calls? This girl I met on 4/6 has not answered my calls the last 3 times so I haven't been able toset up a second date. She keeps giving me mixed signals because she responds to all my texts right away and texts me after she missed my call but has yet to call me first or text me first. Does situation sound odd to anyone else? No it's not odd at all. It happens all the time. Don't entertain it anymore. Not only that, you've gone too far with the calling. You call her once with specifics for a date. If she doesn't respond, you don't call again. The ball is in her court to return to you and you keep moving with your own life. And, if you call her and she responds with a text, other than to say something like, "sorry I missed your call, I'll call you back by X time or day", you stop responding. 2
Michelle ma Belle Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Sorry OP I need more clarification... So you HAVE met face to face, enjoyed her company and want to set another date but she keeps flaking on picking up the phone? Did I get that right?
Author smg15 Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 Sorry OP I need more clarification... So you HAVE met face to face, enjoyed her company and want to set another date but she keeps flaking on picking up the phone? Did I get that right? Yes we met on 4/6 and had a nice date. We talked on the phone a couple of times after that but I didn't set up a date because I didn't have any money. Do now that I have the money to date that is what I'm trying to do but for some reason she is not picking up the phone. Only talking to me through text messages 1
serial muse Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 (edited) Yes we met on 4/6 and had a nice date. We talked on the phone a couple of times after that but I didn't set up a date because I didn't have any money. Do now that I have the money to date that is what I'm trying to do but for some reason she is not picking up the phone. Only talking to me through text messages How long between the 4/6 date and when you tried calling to set up a new one? I'm guessing she wrote you off as not serious about dating her when she didn't hear about a second date from you within a week or so. I mean, that was two weeks ago now. I'm guessing that when you eventually called for that purpose, you didn't actually leave a message about wanting a second date, either. Did you leave a message at all? She may just think you're stringing her along and doesn't see the point of investing time/energy in you. Texting doesn't require much from a person. Edited April 20, 2015 by serial muse 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Okay. I think I agree with Redhead in that given how people are horrible conversationalists anymore thanks to technology, this behavior isn't out of the norm unfortunately especially if you're under 30. I commend you for wanting to talk on the phone to set the second date rather than text it, very refreshing given (again) how people are so bad and even afraid to talk on the phone anymore. Don't let anyone shame you otherwise. At this point, given that she seems to be giving you mixed signals and avoiding your calls like the plague, I'd move on. Her behavior speaks volumes if you ask me. Anyone who was truly interested in getting together again would not be so evasive. IF, on the other hand, you really want to give her the benefit of the doubt then send her the second date request via text if that's how she wants to play the game. Personally I think it's pointless but whatever. How she responds will let you know where you officially stand with her. Good luck.
Diezel Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 I think you should call 3 more times and see if maybe that way, you can totally take a hint. It's pretty obvious she isn't interested. 1
Author smg15 Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 I think you should call 3 more times and see if maybe that way, you can totally take a hint. It's pretty obvious she isn't interested. I'm used to a girl not responding to my texts or phone calls when she is not interested. Not sending a text saying. ."sorry I missed your call" so I told over over text this morning, I'm a guy with a lot of silly turn on's and she was like..."i like she was like..."cool I like silly guys" This weekend is the last one that I'm going on a date may so I don't see her before may then it's over and im moving on
ExpatInItaly Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 I'm used to a girl not responding to my texts or phone calls when she is not interested. Not sending a text saying. ."sorry I missed your call" so I told over over text this morning, I'm a guy with a lot of silly turn on's and she was like..."i like she was like..."cool I like silly guys" This weekend is the last one that I'm going on a date may so I don't see her before may then it's over and im moving on Why did you write that? I don't think she's overly interested in seeing you again. I'd stop texting her completely. It's clearly not going anywhere, better to channel your energy into someone more receptive.
Author smg15 Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 Why did you write that? I don't think she's overly interested in seeing you again. I'd stop texting her completely. It's clearly not going anywhere, better to channel your energy into someone more receptive. Well if some of the new prospects would call or make themselves available to talk I could move on.
Author smg15 Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 Why did you write that? I don't think she's overly interested in seeing you again. I'd stop texting her completely. It's clearly not going anywhere, better to channel your energy into someone more receptive. I wrote that because I dont care anymore and wanted to see how she would react
Dork Vader Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Seeing that she wont talk tooyou on the phone and you'd like another date.. Your only option is too ask via text. Keep it casual.. Next time the 2 of you are texting ask her when you can see her again, or if she'd like to go to a baseball game or something a long those lines. We cannot tell you her motives gor only texting. It could be any number of things and all we can do is speculate based on what you say. That's not exactly fair to her. next time you're broke tell her or set up cheap dates like a day at the park or a hike.
BlueIris Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 I wrote that because I dont care anymore and wanted to see how she would react Ah, then you're in power-struggle, bait and game mode. Move on.
Author smg15 Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 Ah, then you're in power-struggle, bait and game mode. Move on. Well atleast I didn't tell her what the most silly turn on's was. Lol
fitnessfan365 Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 (edited) NO intentions on seeing face to face? I mean if I'm not interested on someone why the hell would I text them? Wouldn't it make more sense to just put me on the spam list since she never answers my calls? This girl I met on 4/6 has not answered my calls the last 3 times so I haven't been able toset up a second date. She keeps giving me mixed signals because she responds to all my texts right away and texts me after she missed my call but has yet to call me first or text me first. Does situation sound odd to anyone else? 1) She's communicating she hates to talk on the phone. More women like to text than talk. The fact that you won't take the hint will communicate to her that you lack common sense...LOL 2) Are you actually attempting to make direct plans with her, or are you just hoping she'll bring it up and that's why you keep texting with her? When a woman reaches out and initiates a text that you want to see in person, you don't engage in a texting marathon with her. Exchange a few texts tops. Then cut to the chase and ask when she's free. If she skates around it, say that you have to run and for her to get in touch when her schedule is more definite. Then you allow her the space to do that. It's that simple. I mean don't get me wrong. I hate texting and will always prefer the phone. However, your main goal should be getting a date with her. So if she communicates that she hates to talk on the phone like she has, you simply cut to the chase and make a date by text. Plus, phone calls are more personal and some women have to be more emotionally invested to want to talk on the phone. For now, just get her out with you. Edited April 20, 2015 by fitnessfan365
Author smg15 Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 1) She's communicating she hates to talk on the phone. More women like to text than talk. The fact that you won't take the hint will communicate to her that you lack common sense...LOL 2) Are you actually attempting to make direct plans with her, or are you just hoping she'll bring it up and that's why you keep texting with her? When a woman reaches out and initiates a text that you want to see in person, you don't engage in a texting marathon with her. Exchange a few texts tops. Then cut to the chase and ask when she's free. If she skates around it, say that you have to run and for her to get in touch when her schedule is more definite. Then you allow her the space to do that. It's that simple. I mean don't get me wrong. I hate texting and will always prefer the phone. However, your main goal should be getting a date with her. So if she communicates that she hates to talk on the phone like she has, you simply cut to the chase and make a date by text. Plus, phone calls are more personal and some women have to be more emotionally invested to want to talk on the phone. For now, just get her out with you. Well about to ask her our over text now
Author smg15 Posted April 21, 2015 Author Posted April 21, 2015 Well it appesrs to be officially over which is not too bad because I get to hold on to the more money. But I have to label this "creative rejection" because she basically made it clear that 1. She only wants to text.....keeps me at distance 2. Told me she would call me last night and never did So I decide to purchase another member ship tonight so I can meet someone else. And any date that I have the rest of the year I will be going for the kiss do that way I will have my answer and won't have to come home and guess if she is interested. Lol Btw: out of the last 4 dates that led to no second date, this girl was the best looking which is why this rejection is harder to deal witem.
GemmaUK Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 What is 4/6? Why did you need to purchase another membership to talk to someone else?
Author smg15 Posted April 21, 2015 Author Posted April 21, 2015 What is 4/6? Why did you need to purchase another membership to talk to someone else? Because I have a 75% chance of meeting someone on a paid dating site than a free dating site
Author smg15 Posted April 21, 2015 Author Posted April 21, 2015 What is 4/6? Why did you need to purchase another membership to talk to someone else? 4/6 is when I met her on my day off. 2 weeks ago
GemmaUK Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 Oh! OK. I thought you had had to purchase some second membership or something on a site called 4/6.. Sounds like she is addicted to texting.
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