One Week of NC

[Satu]

I think sometimes people are a bit harsh on here. The guy is fighting with himself and that's not easy to do. We all have our weak moments, even if the other half of us knows it's a mistake to do certain things. I'm sure the OP is listening and struggling with all this.

 

As we know, its not a smooth linear process.

 

False starts, false endings...

 

I learned that the hard way.

[Simon Phoenix]

Well, you reset the clock again. Hopefully you'll get sick of backtracking and eventually just power through and stick with it, but you aren't there yet I guess.

[j_mysterio]

Right now most of my hope is gone considering I finally decided to give up and I'm feeling less depressed but I still want her. I left it up to her to contact me but feel bad for being rude even though she's with another guy. Its crazy to think I still want her... Never in a million years would I have thought id be in this position but still desire her physically and emotionally.

[seminoles84]

You need to detox and cut any way for future contact from or to her. You are leaving the door open which isn't allowing you to move on.

[PegNosePete]

So you'll be waiting like a puppy dog for her to finish with another guy, and you'll still be wagging your tail and welcoming her home with a happy smile?

 

Man... go look up "doormat" in a dictionary!

[j_mysterio]

Lol I'm detoxing... I posted so you all could talk ***** to me. I'm not waiting like a puppy dog. I was rude last time we spoke. Emotionally I am waiting... Yes, that's beyond my control, physically I am moving forward. Trust me, if I had the option to stop loving her, I would.

[j_mysterio]

Btw... Been working out and someone mentioned my "guns" today. It was nice to have someone notice lol

[j_mysterio]

How in the world can I still love someone full heartedly and hold so close to me that has drifted and began a new relationship with someone else? It clearly is a rebound because she still has feelings for me and it was shortly after our break up. Waiting it out is like a prison sentence where I'm getting stabbed in the heart a million times every day. Legit googling the million questions that run through my mind every second. All of them about her and the right steps I should take to hopefully make her see a glimmer of hope in me. I've been tanning, to the gym, hanging out with friends. Every girl I see doesn't compare to her. The ex isn't perfect at all... But if you had every girl on earth in front of me... I'd pick the one with all the issues and problems because I care for her so much. I'm crazy I know... But I can see her soul through her eyes... I see the girl I love.

[Satu]

A time will come when you will see her as a totally ordinary person.

 

And on that day, your healing will be complete.

[wizer]

Waiting it out is a prison sentence?

 

So stop waiting.

[SLee]

You're not crazy. Your feelings are normal.

 

If you're not already, go full No Contact. That also means all social media platforms in which you could see any of her updates about the relationships. Don't get any news of her business from friends or anything. Not doing any of that will make it worse.

 

It's really hard to feel like a stranger after you shared a lot with someone. Believe me, I'm in the midst of it too. Remind yourself of the things you didn't like in the relationship, even if they're dumb or petty. It helps.

 

Keep going to the gym and hanging out with friends, but do those things for you, because YOU want to be the best you that you can be.

 

Move on. It takes time and work, but it's necessary. Otherwise, you're going to be miserable for a lot longer.

[darkbloom]

If you could make yourself stop loving her there would be no need for this website. Your feelings aren't logical. Accept that. It doesn't have to make any sense.

 

To heal though, you have to let her go.

 

The best way out is always through.

 

It gets better.