allii Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Around 6 months ago my cousin got married to a man from Switzerland. I'm really close with my cousin and her husband im currently staying with them while I go to college and work. A week before the wedding my cousins husband family came to America to stay with us until the wedding and he actually happened to have a brother who was also 18. My cousin and her husband tried to set us up together and we actually really hit it off. He was really sweet and was a complete gentleman, he would give me his jacket when I was cold etc. we flirted a lot and he joked about wanting to kiss me and then did. He told my cousin that he really liked me and really wanted to get to know me. His mom really loves me and im really good friends with his sister, we still talk a lot. Eventually the wedding ended and they ended up going back to Switzerland. He told me he wanted to come back over the summer or eventually move to America and that he wanted to live near me.We talked a couple weeks after but then we just kind of stopped talking? I'm guessing the feelings kind of faded for him since he's so far away. I still think about him though and have feelings for him. So pretty much my cousins husband has to go back to switzerland over the summer and they invited me to go with them and I said yes. We are going to be staying at his moms house. I currently found out that his brother is also going to be staying over his moms house this summer while he takes a break from school. I'm really nervous because we haven't spoken at all and I don't want it to be awkward. He still asks about me and said he misses me but he doesn't even message me? I'm scared that maybe he's just a player and he will stop talking to me again once I leave for America when the summers over. I will be there for three months so im bound to start really liking him again. I'm not sure what to do since I feel like he's probably like that with a lot of girls and my feelings were really hurt when he randomly stopped talking to me. Should I be strong and not fall for him again or should I just give it a chance if something does happen?
Gary S Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Long distance relationships are tough at best (only 1 in 1,000 workout) and he probably realizes this, so I would not bash him by calling him a player. His only crime is liking you. When you go over there, unless he got lucky and has found a local girlfriend, you two will probably get together again just like old times. That means when you leave, you'll get your heart ripped out again. If he's going to be staying in the same house, I'd consider not going. Unless you can feindzone him - I don't know about that.... you put two people who like each other together under the same roof, sparks are going to fly.
ExpatInItaly Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Be careful, OP. Living under the same roof is bound to stir up old attractions but since you're on opposite sides of the world and both quite young (I gather you are also 18?) it will probably just amount to a summer fling. I wouldn't label him a player, though. He had some fun with you and a daydreamed a bit, but he likely also realizes that a relationship isn't very realistic. Keep this all in mind when you are there. Don't get too invested.
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