Kitkatleen24 Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 So me & my SO (LDR) broke up 1.5 weeks ago, i blocked him off a week ago. He tried to reach out to me few days ago regarding some old stuff that i've sent to him & he misses me but i ignored it. So today was my birthday (turned 25 yay?), he texted me saying he was thinking of me. I broke NC & replied him back. We had a short chat, mainly asking " how are you". He said he have been busy (which i think it's a lie). He also claim that he have been trying to get "offline" which means getting a life. But thanks to "stalking" few days ago before i went full NC, i kept seeing him on dating apps and i know he doesn't have much friends. At the end of the conversation, he seems to throw an "open invitation" for me to talk to him again. He said he missed many things about us. I'm sure it's just breadcrumbs but it seems like he is lying about having a good life. Most dumpee would fall back to day 1 after breaking NC but i felt like i'm the dumper? I'm pretty confused. Sorry for the bad english by the way... Do anyone dumpee ever felt this way before? I don't feel terrible but instead i felt good?
Miss Sisyphus Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 I'm starting to feel a little like that. It's like the dumper made the decision, but as the dumpee, you're okay with it. As the dumpee in a 15 year-relationship, I'm feeling like if he doesn't want me, then I don't want him either. Why should I pine away for someone who, for whatever reasons, decided they don't want to be with me? I think we're just feeling okay with the realization that we can survive without the other person. That's good! 1
Author Kitkatleen24 Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 I'm starting to feel a little like that. It's like the dumper made the decision, but as the dumpee, you're okay with it. As the dumpee in a 15 year-relationship, I'm feeling like if he doesn't want me, then I don't want him either. Why should I pine away for someone who, for whatever reasons, decided they don't want to be with me? I think we're just feeling okay with the realization that we can survive without the other person. That's good! Maybe it's because it seems like we feel that we are "better" than them now. Maybe we felt like they owe us a moment of grief and if we knew they are feeling as bad, we just don't feel bad anymore. I don't know, I'm pretty confused about how I'm feeling. But no expectations so no disappointment. Wow you're strong! But it's true, it's their loss! Meanwhile I'm working on being better for myself. I think he's trying to get out there as well. Sometimes we just grow apart. And I think he's experiencing gigs as I'm his first love. I don't deny feeling slightly happy that he's texting me but it's not the kind of "oh yay he wants me back" kind of happy. I don't even know how I feel but I certainly feel better!
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