Gold Pile Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Here I am at home Saturday evening. Had a date earlier but it went nowhere. It seemed like a sure thing, we've been flirting for weeks, she looked great, and if I my say so, I looked sexier than a rooster wearing socks. With gas and meal expenses I'm out about $40 bucks Her flirting mislead me, maybe I should bill her for half the dinner bill? 1
Satu Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Here I am at home Saturday evening. Had a date earlier but it went nowhere. It seemed like a sure thing, we've been flirting for weeks, she looked great, and if I my say so, I looked sexier than a rooster wearing socks. With gas and meal expenses I'm out about $40 bucks *Her flirting mislead me, maybe I should bill her for half the dinner bill? *It's only money. Don't bother yourself over it. 2
neowulf Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Here I am at home Saturday evening. Had a date earlier but it went nowhere. It seemed like a sure thing, we've been flirting for weeks, she looked great, and if I my say so, I looked sexier than a rooster wearing socks. With gas and meal expenses I'm out about $40 bucks Her flirting mislead me, maybe I should bill her for half the dinner bill? Eh, price of doing business. This is why first dates for me are *always* inexpensive locations. A coffee, ice-cream. Whatever. It's an ice breaker. The 3 course meal at the top restaurant in town comes down the road... 3
Author Gold Pile Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 Eh, price of doing business. This is why first dates for me are *always* inexpensive locations. A coffee, ice-cream. Whatever. It's an ice breaker. The 3 course meal at the top restaurant in town comes down the road... True enough New wolf, your words are wise. (you too satu)
fitnessfan365 Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Haha.. Gotta admit it's pretty funny seeing a poster with gold bars for an avatar complaining over $40. However your sarcasm about sending her a bill for half made me laugh even harder. But that's why you don't text, flirt, call, etc for weeks before meeting. Too many expectations and pressure. Also if you're spending more than $10 on a "first meet" you're spending too much. 4
I_Give_Up67 Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Was this date through OLD? I've gotten screwed over too many times falling into the OLD fancy first date big spending.
fitnessfan365 Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 (edited) Was this date through OLD? I've gotten screwed over too many times falling into the OLD fancy first date big spending. Since they chatted/flirted for weeks, that has to be the case. No guy is going to talk that long before getting together with a woman who's number he got IRL. Plus, who mentions gas expenses with a woman he picked up locally? Haha Edited April 20, 2015 by fitnessfan365 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 OP you invested too much interest in her before meeting. Also skip dinner dates for first dates. Take her out for coffee/beer/cocktails at a reasonable place. Drinks is a lot cheaper if it goes south. I prefer getting a beer with my Women, it helps loosen us both up and be more comfortable around each other. I date primarily via OLD though.
Author Gold Pile Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 OP you invested too much interest in her before meeting. Also skip dinner dates for first dates. Take her out for coffee/beer/cocktails at a reasonable place. Drinks is a lot cheaper if it goes south. I prefer getting a beer with my Women, it helps loosen us both up and be more comfortable around each other. I date primarily via OLD though. You're right bearcode88. From now on it's meeting for a couple of drinks. Fitnessfad 365 and giveup67 figured it out...online date 1
Author Gold Pile Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 Since they chatted/flirted for weeks, that has to be the case. No guy is going to talk that long before getting together with a woman who's number he got IRL. Plus, who mentions gas expenses with a woman he picked up locally? Haha You're quite the detective. You're correct on most counts, except ole gold pile has been known to grumble about gas expenses even on local dates. Sometimes I pretend my car is in the shop, so she can pick me up and pay the gas. 1
Toodaloo Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 GP. Did the moths attack you honey??? I know its hard when you have to drag your "good shirt" out and button on the collar but honey you just have to do these things. Its like washing your hands and face before supper. Now come on be a good boy. The moths would have only eaten the 40 bucks if you hadn't have got ice creams with it... 1
Redhead14 Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Here I am at home Saturday evening. Had a date earlier but it went nowhere. It seemed like a sure thing, we've been flirting for weeks, she looked great, and if I my say so, I looked sexier than a rooster wearing socks. With gas and meal expenses I'm out about $40 bucks Her flirting mislead me, maybe I should bill her for half the dinner bill? What do you mean it went nowhere? Where did you expect it to go? Were you expecting her to have sex with you and since she didn't, you are not going to call her again? Did you like her enough and ask her for another date at the end of this one? What happened? Was this the first time you met in person?
Author Gold Pile Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 GP. Did the moths attack you honey??? I know its hard when you have to drag your "good shirt" out and button on the collar but honey you just have to do these things. Its like washing your hands and face before supper. Now come on be a good boy. The moths would have only eaten the 40 bucks if you hadn't have got ice creams with it... Hi Toadaloo My warm weather good shirt or my cold weather good shirt? This time of the year it's hard to choose. I've been attacked by an Owl, a bear, and a raccoon (my date said it was a rabbit), but never a moth. but YPIWT(your point is well taken) one does have spend a certain amount of money in pursuit of passionate partners. 1
road Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 You're quite the detective. You're correct on most counts, except ole gold pile has been known to grumble about gas expenses even on local dates. Sometimes I pretend my car is in the shop, so she can pick me up and pay the gas. Character flaw to lie when you claim to want an honest relationship. And $40 is not an expensive dinner date for two. Dating is work. As with any job a man can get fired at any time. Fired when you ask for her number. Fired after you get her number but did not know it until you find out when the pizzeria asks for your order. Fired during or even after dinner.
fitnessfan365 Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 except ole gold pile has been known to grumble about gas expenses even on local dates. Sometimes I pretend my car is in the shop, so she can pick me up and pay the gas. Hahahaha :laugh::laugh: You're funny man. A lot of your posts have made me laugh. Still love that thread you made where you and your friend tried picking up any single woman in the bar and you got stuck with the "Skeletoid". Classic.
Author Gold Pile Posted April 21, 2015 Author Posted April 21, 2015 Hahahaha :laugh::laugh: You're funny man. A lot of your posts have made me laugh.......... Aw shucks
Author Gold Pile Posted April 21, 2015 Author Posted April 21, 2015 What do you mean it went nowhere? Where did you expect it to go? Were you expecting her to have sex with you and since she didn't, you are not going to call her again? Did you like her enough and ask her for another date at the end of this one? What happened? Was this the first time you met in person? Hmmm, Good points Redheap14, maybe my assumption was incorrect. Perhaps I should contact her and offer her a chance to treat me to dinner for our 2nd date. I like how you think Red
joseb Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 So when you said it "went nowhere" you didn't mean that it was a terrible date. You mean that it didn't end in sex? Seriously?
Toodaloo Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 Hi Toadaloo My warm weather good shirt or my cold weather good shirt? This time of the year it's hard to choose. I've been attacked by an Owl, a bear, and a raccoon (my date said it was a rabbit), but never a moth. but YPIWT(your point is well taken) one does have spend a certain amount of money in pursuit of passionate partners. Oh definitely the warm weather good shirt. You can save cash on water for the shower and deodorant then! Deff ask her to treat you and pick a really great restaurant so you know how much you are worth to her...
PegNosePete Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 Her flirting mislead me, maybe I should bill her for half the dinner bill? Why not? What have you got to lose? Worst case: she never speaks to you again. Best case: she gives you $20. That sounds like win-win to me. 1
Author Gold Pile Posted April 21, 2015 Author Posted April 21, 2015 So when you said it "went nowhere" you didn't mean that it was a terrible date. You mean that it didn't end in sex? Seriously? Joseb, indeed the majority of my 1st dates (I choose them carefully based on favorable odds) end with a homerun. So yup I'm disappointed when they "go nowhere". But as redhead poster points out....I should perhaps see if this can become a delayed success with a 2nd date. But naturally I'd like any second date to be paid for by her, fair is fair.
Redhead14 Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 Joseb, indeed the majority of my 1st dates (I choose them carefully based on favorable odds) end with a homerun. So yup I'm disappointed when they "go nowhere". But as redhead poster points out....I should perhaps see if this can become a delayed success with a 2nd date. But naturally I'd like any second date to be paid for by her, fair is fair. Yes, I understand your "fair is fair" thing, but it's really customary for whomever initiates the date to pay. If a woman is saavy at dating, she will at least offer to pay by the 3rd date. Two dates as a "show of good faith" from the man is reciprocated unless it's clear that the man just always likes to pay for the woman. In the past, when I got to a third date, I'll excuse myself to go to the ladies room after the order is taken and take the waitress aside to give her my card to run before the bill is even brought to the table. This eliminates the fumbling and appearance of the "fake offer" to pay
Gary S Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 Consider it a practice date.... the school of hard knocks still costs money 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 First dates don't always go well. I had one "Bleh" 1st date, and then we ended up going on 5 more dates before we broke it off, but things heated up quite a bit between then If things aren't going at least BETTER by the 2nd date, then you can eject I think. The first date is just getting comfortable around that other person (especially via OLD).
wizer Posted April 21, 2015 Posted April 21, 2015 Joseb, indeed the majority of my 1st dates (I choose them carefully based on favorable odds) end with a homerun. So yup I'm disappointed when they "go nowhere". You're just looking to get laid, you're not looking for a relationship. I hope for your sake and hers that you make this clear in your dating profile. Otherwise you're just wasting a whole bunch of time. Women who screw you on the first date are not, generally speaking, good relationship material.
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