Eighty_nine Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 I ran into my ex last night, B. we made eye contact, he smiled and I smiled back. Today he messaged me "did you have fun last night??" I know these are only breadcrumbs, but I responded right away. I thought we should be friendly since we have many mutual friends (and used to be totally platonic friends ourselves) and will inevitably run into one another again. But after exchanging a couple messages, I felt romantic feelings and all sorts of my old anxiety toward him. I stopped responding. What makes this even harder is I got into another relationship after him, with someone, I, who appeared to treat me much better, and then he cheated on me. So I feel especially vulnerable to contact with B. I guess I thought I could have contact with him without feeling anything. Wrong. also, I was dressed up and looking great and I feel like that's the only reason he messaged me... I looked good. Not because he misses me or cares or any of that. Ugh.
ravfour4 Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 I bet he cares a little bit, just in the "eh, I wonder how she's doing, that was kind of weird seeing each other last night" way rather than the "damn she's fine and I want her back" type of way.
Author Eighty_nine Posted April 19, 2015 Author Posted April 19, 2015 I bet he cares a little bit, just in the "eh, I wonder how she's doing, that was kind of weird seeing each other last night" way rather than the "damn she's fine and I want her back" type of way. I think it's more that he thought I looked good and is wondering if he can get me to sleep with him again. He's a jerk and has always feigned intimacy and feelings to get sex. 1
Twigyy Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 I think it's more that he thought I looked good and is wondering if he can get me to sleep with him again. He's a jerk and has always feigned intimacy and feelings to get sex. Then you should know what you should do, since you think he is a jerk.
ZiggyZoo Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 Well, I guess the good thing is that you figured out that contact isn't what you really want after all. Now you don't have to wonder about "What if". And I know it kind of backfired, but hey, at least you looked good too
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