Philosopher Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 Recently I have had a couple situations on Online dating where I have got a girl's number and she has agreed to meet up. However when it comes to organising an actual meetup, either they are very busy and can only meet in two, three or four weeks time or we have arranged to meet up soon, however they have had to cancel for some reason (usually due to work or illness) and then they are not free for another two weeks or so. Despite that they would continue to chat and they would say that they still want to meet up. Therefore I have decided that if they can not meet up within two weeks after we agreed to then I will tell them that it would be better if we don't meet up at all. I am being too impatient by calling it off if the meet up cannot happen within two weeks? Or is it a case that if they were genuinely interested they would make time for you within the next week or two, regardless of how busy they were?
Gary S Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 Your thinking is correct. You should normally meet within a week. If you wait much longer than that, you usually loose momentum and chances are high they'll reject you.
cottom Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 I have just had this, it took 5 weeks to meet up and then we arranged a second date and she started putting off again. Because she was nervous about meeting for the first time thats why she kept putting it off, and she was nervous again to meet a second time so i called it off
Chr15 Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 They could genuinely be busy so keep talking to them but keep talking to others as well. I know of a few couples who were talking for a month or even two before meeting up and have been together for quite a while. If they keep putting meetings off or you get a feeling they're not really interested then cut contact.
Gaeta Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 Don't waste your time. If they need 2-3-4 weeks to find time to meet you then they don't belong on a dating site. How do you want to maintain a relationship if you are that busy. When I make an online contact I expect to meet within 5 days. It's just a coffee meeting, if it cannot be arranged within a short time then drop it.
devilish innocent Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 The way I view it is maybe their schedule was already filled up because they had agreed to meet other people from on-line dating. It doesn't mean that if things went well once you got the date, they wouldn't be more available. You could take it as a sign that they're not interested. On the other hand, one could just as easily turn it around on you. If you were really interested, shouldn't you be willing to wait for them to be available. I'd suggest taking it on a case by case basis. If you're tired of waiting, and they don't sound particularly promising from the chats you're having, then it's fine to change your mind about meeting. On the other hand, if somebody checks all of the boxes in terms of what you're looking for, I wouldn't necessarily give up on them.
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