NewfieEd Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 Hi, my cousin introduced me to his friend 6 months ago. They live 1000 miles away, so me and her have been texting, talking, sending pictures for the past 6 months. So I decided to take a trip to visit my cousin and this girl. The day I got here, she told me she was coming down with a cold, the past 3 days she has she is too sick to meet up and not feeling well. The main reason for the trip was to see her. Should I stick around a few more days and see if she wants to hang out? What can I say to her to determine if she genuinely is sick or she is just playing a game?
deathandtaxes Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 I would think you're just a penpal at this point. Somebody to text and chat for the attention. And when the rubber met the road, she bailed. That's my initial take. It's very possible she is so sick she can't see you. Do you know she's sick for a fact? Even if I'm down with something like a cold etc, if there's stuff I still want to do, I just suck it up and do it. But for something this long-distance? Stay around if you want to. I'd be really curious to see if you meet up.
Author NewfieEd Posted April 19, 2015 Author Posted April 19, 2015 I think your feeling is right, she always used to text and since I have been here it's been few and far between, she gives good responses but who knows that's probably just because she don't want to be ignorant. Can I call her out on it? Ask her what's going on and if it's worth my time.
deathandtaxes Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Call her out at your own risk. You can try reaching out again. Or ask your cousin about the friend.
Author NewfieEd Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 She told me yesterday evening she was feeling good enough for company. So I ended up going over to her place, we chatted then ended up sleeping together. I'm really interested in her, but while we were chatting after, she started asking me about my sex life, partners etx. she wanted honest answers on how many girls etx, and I'm not going to lie it has been quite a few. Then she started telling me about her sexual past. Had a boyfriend from the time she was 18-25 said she loved him then he cheated and left, she had never cheated to this point. Then since she has been in short term relationships, has cheated and slept with two married men because she said she knew they would not fall in love and have feelings for her(she was also drinking, not really an excuse). She seems really interested in me and told me she wants to settle down, find a good guy and live happy. All the same she has slept with married men and cheated on boyfriends, is she not worth the effort ?
Redhead14 Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 She told me yesterday evening she was feeling good enough for company. So I ended up going over to her place, we chatted then ended up sleeping together. I'm really interested in her, but while we were chatting after, she started asking me about my sex life, partners etx. she wanted honest answers on how many girls etx, and I'm not going to lie it has been quite a few. Then she started telling me about her sexual past. Had a boyfriend from the time she was 18-25 said she loved him then he cheated and left, she had never cheated to this point. Then since she has been in short term relationships, has cheated and slept with two married men because she said she knew they would not fall in love and have feelings for her(she was also drinking, not really an excuse). She seems really interested in me and told me she wants to settle down, find a good guy and live happy. All the same she has slept with married men and cheated on boyfriends, is she not worth the effort ? Geez, man, you've already traveled 1000 miles, it's too much effort already. "she knew they would not fall in love and have feelings for her" -- She dates people she knows are unavailable and can't have a relationship with her and now she's "attempting" to date someone who lives 1000 miles away. That says something right there . . . 1
Author NewfieEd Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 So true redhead, after reading your comment it really makes sense. She doesn't want commitment, she wants to have fun and then not need to worry about it after.. 1
Mrin Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 So true redhead, after reading your comment it really makes sense. She doesn't want commitment, she wants to have fun and then not need to worry about it after.. Yup. Have lots of sex while you're there. But don't expect anything to come of it.
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