cottom Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 Started on Tinder, had good convo, moved to facebook then texting. I tried to meet up for a month and she would say yeah and then blank me until after the arranged meet time so it didnt happen or she was constantly busy. She later came out and said she has panic attacks and is diagnosed anxiety. We finally met up on monday after a month of trying, she seemed fine but she later said how scared she was. She met up with one guy before off OLD and it was a disaster when he made her pay for the meal etc, and she had a past bf for a few years who she found out was sleeping with his flat mate behind her back. After meeting up, i couldnt tell if she was into it or not, we carried on texting like normal, she would text to say have a nice time at a certain thing i was doing or asking how something was. But then when i tried to arrange a second date she went back to avoiding the question or pushing it back. Eg, i ask if she iwants to go for a drink on Thursday, she says yeah, i ask what time she says shes in bed now she cba. So i arrange friday, she says yeah, friday comes she says weekend because she is doing some work. Saturday comes and she says she is busy for the next 2 months... But the text messages got a little bit wierd from thursday onwards, i said i feel your not interested now? she says well it would be boring if i didnt play hard to get and that she is interested. Friday i text asking her if she wanted to go on this day out on Saturday and she says "i dont think i can be in a relationship, i get scared about it" without me even mentioning it. I said well maybe im too street to be your prince, she says well i can teach you how to be royalty as if she does want me. We text a few hours from talking and i put a status on facebook about how 90% of relationships are choosing where to eat and what film to watch, she text asking who it is cause she thinks she had competition for me. Yesterday after ditching our plans again i told her i think shes leading me on and she could just say she isnt interested or doesnt like me rather than avoid me, she says: "I dont not like you" What the hell does that mean, why the double negative, if she was interested she would say yeah i do like you. And then a few hours of texting later i get: "i didnt think it was right and you should always go with your gut feeling, i wish you the very best with everything and in all honesty hope one day we meet ahain maybe for a drink or chat..." So we left it there, but i dont understand how she suddenly flipped like that leading me on all week changing her mind about not being interested or was she never interested, just didnt know how to turn me down or what the hell did i do wrong? I dont get what the hell happened at all
Larry56 Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 Well I believe she was on the knife-edge about you all along. Dude, I've been in the same position, girls who take ages to meet up are the ones that really aren't worth your time. Don't believe all the "she had anxiety" stuff. Seriously, girls love wasting your time, especially if they get to be entertained without giving you anything YOU want. A lot of women have to miss you/think/obsess about you to really be into you. I think this one is gone, you just gotta accept it. Best thing to do is move on to someone else and if she drops you a line again, try make a date or tell her to eat it.
Author cottom Posted April 19, 2015 Author Posted April 19, 2015 I think i agree, the mixed signals are the main thing that got to me, her telling me shes interested, she liked being with me and then suddenly flipping and saying out of the blue she doesnt want a relationship, then flipping and saying she does want me a few hours later. Then she tells me she wants me then says it doesnt feel right, across a 3 hour time delay. Like do i stick around in case she flips again?! I dont want to stick around but now shes stuck in my head, she isnt a 10/10 looks but her personality was everything i wanted, she was the good girl, exactly the same as me in every way, like we were mentally twins or something.
Gary S Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 Mental problems are often dealbreakers. Just because she is beautiful and breathing does not mean she's good relationship material.
katiegrl Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 Well I believe she was on the knife-edge about you all along. Dude, I've been in the same position, girls who take ages to meet up are the ones that really aren't worth your time. Don't believe all the "she had anxiety" stuff. Seriously, girls love wasting your time, especially if they get to be entertained without giving you anything YOU want. A lot of women have to miss you/think/obsess about you to really be into you. I think this one is gone, you just gotta accept it. Best thing to do is move on to someone else and if she drops you a line again, try make a date or tell her to eat it. I have to admit, I do agree with this.^^ But it is not gender specific, men do the same thing.
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