katiegrl Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 Maybe he wants to be the happy rejector and wait until he's done with them? I'm just sayin'. You may be right. Hence the reason he's not responding!
Toodaloo Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 Larry its not all that complicated. You are using them for sex. They are using you for sex. All you are to them is a penis to poke into their hole that isn't plastic. You say you "service" them well... At best its going to be OK. The very best sex comes after months of getting to know someones body and mentality. It can't happen after one night. Really it can't. You know that "empty" feeling you have when they go. You sit for a while pondering on why when you have just had sex and are supposed to be happy because they have gone and you have no ties? Well they have that too. Its empty. 5
Author Larry56 Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 Ahh, sorry - I was asleep. Half way around the world here. I'm confused. You are saying you don't want a relationship then wondering why girls disappear. Why would it matter if they disappear? Well, if I take them out and they show some value to me before the banging begins, I do actually want to see them again (sometimes). Some women seem to think that if they give it up on the first night, they're never gonna see the guy again cause they gave up their power. But that's not really happens, it's just that you didn't show any value before giving it up to us. or, we decided you weren't relationship material. A lot of people seem to think it takes a long time to suss out what a person is about. It takes me 2 minutes to figure out if a girl is relationship material. I know exactly how controlling she will be, I know exactly how much she'll care about me in the future, and I know how naive she is. No, I've never picked up girls at a bar, nor have I ever had to use alcohol to get them into bed, All I have is my personality since I've essentially poor and not very good looking. You people have the wrong idea about me. I am broke, but I listen to women's problems. I become friends with them. So I put something back into what they are giving me. I remember things about them they tell me. Stuff that guys with money or good looks could hardly care about. But I know what's important to the women I'm talking to.
Author Larry56 Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 Ps. I don't look for a relationship because most women aren't relationship material anyways. They have the whole. It's all about "me". Most women are spending their time studying/working towards a job that will ultimately bring them financial security, but it will never bring a man to their life. That's where all this kind of "independent women" stuff get's it wrong. Also, did I mention that women today are spoilt little princesses with self-inflated ego of entitlement ballooning their perfectly waxed *******s to the moon? Not saying young guys aren't the same. I'm just saying - that is what I think.
katiegrl Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Ps. I don't look for a relationship because most women aren't relationship material anyways. They have the whole. It's all about "me". Most women are spending their time studying/working towards a job that will ultimately bring them financial security, but it will never bring a man to their life. That's where all this kind of "independent women" stuff get's it wrong. Also, did I mention that women today are spoilt little princesses with self-inflated ego of entitlement ballooning their perfectly waxed *******s to the moon? Not saying young guys aren't the same. I'm just saying - that is what I think. You sound nice!
Author Larry56 Posted April 20, 2015 Author Posted April 20, 2015 You sound nice! I'm not. But that's what women turned me into. This is what you get. Congratulations.
Toodaloo Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 I'm not. But that's what women turned me into. This is what you get. Congratulations. No - thats where you are wrong. You turned yourself into this. Its actually you that is behaving like the spoilt princess... Sounds to me like you have built up a heck of an amount of bitterness and resentment towards women in general. So now you are stuck in a catch 22... You want a fullfilling relationship but just can't let go enough to try and trust again so instead you use women who prove your theory and thus prove you right and make you even meaner and more bitter... Can you see the viscous circle here? Only way to break it is to take time out. Cut out the sleeping around, cut out trying to date and take time to heal properly and get yourself into a frame of mind where you will be attractive to women who are worth more than a quick bang and out the door. The women you are sleeping with see this in you that is why the ones with any shred of dignity are not hanging about. They use you for sex and get the heck on outta there. If you want one to stick around for longer than 5 minutes you have to find a way of protecting yourself from the ones who will use and hurt you but keep your self open for the ones who will be good for you... Your choice. Keep going round and round or find a new path? 2
SolG Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Larry its not all that complicated. You are using them for sex. They are using you for sex. All you are to them is a penis to poke into their hole that isn't plastic. You say you "service" them well... At best its going to be OK. The very best sex comes after months of getting to know someones body and mentality. It can't happen after one night. Really it can't. ^^^ This is pretty much how it is for me. If I've decided to have sex with you on the first night, it's because I'm attracted to you, but not enough for a relationship. Oh, and because I happen to feel like it on that particular night. But I'll probably tell you that up front. If I'm super attracted to someone and think there's potential, then I want to take the time to know them without the distraction of brand new can't keep your hands off each other sex. And oh, the delightful tension of waiting! And also, casual/ONS sex is never, ever mindblowing or adventurous for me. It's pleasant... But utilitarian and functional. There has to be emotional connection for me to have wild, passionate, amazing sex. But hey, that's just me. 1
Toodaloo Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 If I'm super attracted to someone and think there's potential, then I want to take the time to know them without the distraction of brand new can't keep your hands off each other sex. And oh, the delightful tension of waiting! And also, casual/ONS sex is never, ever mindblowing or adventurous for me. It's pleasant... But utilitarian and functional. There has to be emotional connection for me to have wild, passionate, amazing sex. But hey, that's just me. Bit like having a MacDonalds because you can't be bothered to prepare a succulent steak... 2
SolG Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Bit like having a MacDonalds because you can't be bothered to prepare a succulent steak... Yes! Because you're hungry... And when there isn't any waygu scotch fillet at hand, sometimes the odd McAngus hits the spot adequately... But in all seriousness, I'm stepping away from the piece of meat metaphors now because I'm starting to offend myself! 1
h0000 Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 I would not rule out relationship possibility because we sleep on the firsts date. I will only rule it out if he isn't serious about me anymore after sex . Unless , of course , I don't want to be in a relationship with him. Just because a man is good in bed doesn't mean women will want to be his gfs
Justanaverageguy Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 I'm not. But that's what women turned me into. This is what you get. Congratulations. Aaarrrghh .... another person blaming others for the way they act. Sorry but like toodaloo said ... women didn't turn you into this. You did that yourself. I have a personal issue with people who blame others and don't take responsibility for their own actions. Seriously stop winging, moaning and carrying on like a child and blaming others for who you are. In life you don't always get control over what happens to you - bad **** happens - but you ALWAYS get control over how you respond and react to what happens to you. Don't cop out and blame others. Take responsibility for yourself, who you. Instead of complaining choose to be better. Choose to get better at judging a woman's character. Choose to understand the behavioral traits you have that contributed to your previous past relationship failures and fix them. Choose to learn how to create and form lasting relationships with a quality woman. 2
elaine567 Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 You say you attract women by talking dirty before meeting them, but by doing that you filter out all the ones who may want a relationship with you, who may want to talk to you, who may want to find out what you have in common. YOU are self sabotaging, by filtering out the women who you could potentially connect to, and who could hurt you. So after the dirty talk, little Miss Wannaseemytits shows up and confirms what you KNOW women are like. Self centred users who dump you after the sex. In science it is called confirmation bias. Confirmation bias is the tendency to search for, interpret, or recall information in a way that confirms one's beliefs or hypotheses. YOU think - Women are "spoilt little princesses with self-inflated ego of entitlement ballooning their perfectly waxed *******s to the moon" so YOU deliberately go and find some " spoilt little princesses with self-inflated ego of entitlement ballooning their perfectly waxed *******s to the moon" and then in your world you have proved it - ALL women are " spoilt little princesses with self-inflated ego of entitlement ballooning their perfectly waxed *******s to the moon
Justanaverageguy Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 Yes! Because you're hungry... And when there isn't any waygu scotch fillet at hand, sometimes the odd McAngus hits the spot adequately... But in all seriousness, I'm stepping away from the piece of meat metaphors now because I'm starting to offend myself! But seriously I think food is one of the best ways to actually explain why waiting for sex leads to a higher likely-hood of lasting relationships. Its about how the emotion of attraction works in humans. Most people only think about the very basics of physical appearance, money and personality. Attraction though exists in the mind ... and it needs to gradually build over time. One of the most powerful things to build desire or attraction .... is not being able to have something that you want - in this case sex. Humans always want what they can't have. You said no more meat metaphors so I am going to use cake instead If someone cooked a delicious chocolate cake and put it out on the bench in my house I would smell it and come in and ask for a slice. If they gave me a slice ... I would eat it, enjoy it and say thankyou then probably not think about cake for the rest of the day. I ate it and I don't need cake that often so a slice or two is all I really need. Maybe I might have another one in the evening but I could take it or leave it. If on the other hand they said I couldn't have any cake and they were saving it for dinner - then what am I going to be thinking about all day long ?Chocolate cake and how much I want to eat it! I would smell it in the house, I would see it on the bench. Just begging for me to eat it but not being able to. By the time the evening came around I would be so eager to eat cake I would probably skip dinner and go straight to desert. It's because the "not having" fuels the desire or attraction I have for the cake. Because I haven't tasted it yet I continue to think about the cake - even when I can't see it or smell. My desire builds and builds to much higher levels then it would have if I just got a slice straight away. Replace cake with sex and you have the basic principle of why waiting for sex makes it more likely to form a lasting relationship with a partner. When you get what you want straight away you don't allow desire and strong attraction to form. The other person stops thinking and fantasizing about you and they could basically take it or leave it as to whether they go back for another slice. 1
Toodaloo Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 If on the other hand they said I couldn't have any cake and they were saving it for dinner - then what am I going to be thinking about all day long ?Chocolate cake and how much I want to eat it! I would smell it in the house, I would see it on the bench. Just begging for me to eat it but not being able to. By the time the evening came around I would be so eager to eat cake I would probably skip dinner and go straight to desert. You clearly didn't grow up in my family... Any and all cake is eaten as fast as possible because if you don't someone else will have done... But thats a metaphor for a different subject Really really want cake now... 2
Buddhist Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 No idea. I've never slept with someone I've barely just met.
guest569 Posted April 20, 2015 Posted April 20, 2015 A lot of women want relationships. I dont get what the issue is, what exactly are you looking for? You don't want a relationship, and when you dont get one, you feel bad about it?
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