barrelwave Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 I'm semi-interested in a lady friend whom I got to know online. I'm taking it slow due to work commitments, and personal side projects. Going slow partly because of my past experiences with relationships. I'm cautious, but I wouldn't flake out or stonewall a person if the interest/attraction is mutual. I think personal space is absolutely essential too. So here's the thing. We don't meet up often lately, due to personal commitments. But I make the effort to text her to let her know subtly that I'm thinking about her. She tells me things vaguely. Had a recent breakup with her ex. Don't think she's over him. Now she's in a mindspace where she wants to focus on herself. And that's a good thing. I like the sound of it. I think part of me is starting to care about her well-being. But is this a subtle indication that me and her, ain't gonna happen? She's travelling this week. No text conversations initiated by her. If she really cares to share things about her trip, like photos and vibe, she would. Right? Friends tell me to give it time. I wanna keep it organic, somewhat in the grey. Honestly, I haven't felt like that about someone in a while. Thoughts?
ExpatInItaly Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 I'm semi-interested in a lady friend whom I got to know online. I'm taking it slow due to work commitments, and personal side projects. Going slow partly because of my past experiences with relationships. I'm cautious, but I wouldn't flake out or stonewall a person if the interest/attraction is mutual. I think personal space is absolutely essential too. So here's the thing. We don't meet up often lately, due to personal commitments. But I make the effort to text her to let her know subtly that I'm thinking about her. She tells me things vaguely. Had a recent breakup with her ex. Don't think she's over him. Now she's in a mindspace where she wants to focus on herself. And that's a good thing. I like the sound of it. I think part of me is starting to care about her well-being. But is this a subtle indication that me and her, ain't gonna happen? She's travelling this week. No text conversations initiated by her. If she really cares to share things about her trip, like photos and vibe, she would. Right? Friends tell me to give it time. I wanna keep it organic, somewhat in the grey. Honestly, I haven't felt like that about someone in a while. Thoughts? She's trying to tell you it's not going to happen. And yes, if she were interested she'd be initiating with you, too. This combined with what she's already plainly told you indicate she's not into it. Why would you want to pursue a girl whose heart is with someone else?
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