Rejected at party

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

So tonight I went to this party with a couple of my friends and there was this one girl who was super flirty towards me when I got there for the first few hours, she wanted to do shots with me, and I was flirting with her a bit and then we did some weed in private in the basement, she was getting really close and I thought for sure she wanted to hookup.

 

Well then out of nowhere she just ****ing ignored me, and then started hitting on everyone else. Finally my friends were leaving and then I saw her mad-flirting with this other guy, so I went up to my one buddy and told him I was taking off (in front of her) and just pretended she didn't exist, and she didn't even acknowledge I was leaving. Wtf is she getting all touchy feely with me if she's going to jerk me around Honestly it made me feel rejected and it sucked.

 

So I got an uber cab and took off home, gotta take another one back tomorrow to grab my car -_- such is life.

 

I know I always try come off as confident and cool, but honestly my self esteem feels like **** right now and its pathetic I cant stand myself.

 

:(:( I'm going to sleep guys

Edited April 19, 2015 by barcode88

[badpenny]

She was high. Drunk and stoned.

She was looking for a big pay-out.

At one point you were supposed to take the initiative, start taking her clothes off, get really fresh and try it on.

 

That would have been her cue to scream, cry 'rape' have you arrested and whack thousands of dollars' worth of compensation on you and retire rich and famous to some house in the country, leaving you languishing in a high-security asylum.

 

But you never even got to the 'grope' level, so as she wasn't getting any from you, she tried some other schmuck.

 

Well, that's my version, anyway.

 

You dodged a bullet, pal.

[ZA Dater]

So tonight I went to this party with a couple of my friends and there was this one girl who was super flirty towards me when I got there for the first few hours, she wanted to do shots with me, and I was flirting with her a bit and then we did some weed in private in the basement, she was getting really close and I thought for sure she wanted to hookup.

 

Well then out of nowhere she just ****ing ignored me, and then started hitting on everyone else. Finally my friends were leaving and then I saw her mad-flirting with this other guy, so I went up to my one buddy and told him I was taking off (in front of her) and just pretended she didn't exist, and she didn't even acknowledge I was leaving. Wtf is she getting all touchy feely with me if she's going to jerk me around Honestly it made me feel rejected and it sucked.

 

So I got an uber cab and took off home, gotta take another one back tomorrow to grab my car -_- such is life.

 

I know I always try come off as confident and cool, but honestly my self esteem feels like **** right now and its pathetic I cant stand myself.

 

:(:( I'm going to sleep guys

 

Not a nice experience for sure. I think though in that situation its very much a hit and miss.

 

 

Words wont really make you feel much better, sleep can help but reality hits the next day.

[h0000]

Such thing happens all the time in parties/bars/clubs. Nothing personal, certainly not worth being upset about.

If you are surprised then you need to get out and about a bit more.

[elaine567]

I guess, you either misread the signs and she just wanted to smoke weed,

or

she is just a massive flirt or unintentionally gives off flirty signs and had no intentions of taking anything further in the basement with you,

or

she saw you as a likely target until some other guy she liked better showed up,

or

she was using you to make some other guy jealous,

or

she is actually in a relationship with this other guy, official or non official.

[elaine567]

Hugs

 

>>>>>>

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

Holy **** lol, can't believe I posted that rant haha.

 

I'm not too bent out of shape about it now after waking up and having some morning coffee Plus I still have my FWB, so in the end it doesn't matter to me - hooking up with this other girl just seemed like a really good idea in the moment

 

Initially she was all over me, grabbing me and ****, and she even let me grab her boobs lol - but after a while she started flaking saying like "oh I'm going to go grab ___ be right back" and I knew she wasn't coming back so I just went and hung out with my friends and talked to other girls. I decided not to chase after her and come across as needy - if we crossed paths I would just tease her and leave, but idk she kinda just turned off on me which is unusual.

 

I never did find out if she was single or not, for all I know I was hitting on someone's girlfriend lol, but I don't think so. No taken person would smoke up in a closed basement room in private with a random guy (I just met her last night)

 

 

I found out from a friend, that guy that she kept hitting on after me is engaged to someone else. And he was definitely returning some attention I saw him holding her hand at one point. Ohh boy can you say drama lol.

 

 

@h0000 I get out fairly often, and honestly I wasn't SURPRISED, I was just more or less pissed off/annoyed. I will say though I haven't been to a house party of this magnitude in a while, we probably had 50 some people and the cops did get called lol.

[gaius]

Eh, never take uber aggressive women seriously. And if you do switch it around on them and take control.

[Gary S]

Well, that's why I always say, you don't have a foundation for a relationship for 2 months, so don't count on anything until then, especially the first time you meet.

[katiegrl]

So tonight I went to this party with a couple of my friends and there was this one girl who was super flirty towards me when I got there for the first few hours, she wanted to do shots with me, and I was flirting with her a bit and then we did some weed in private in the basement, she was getting really close and I thought for sure she wanted to hookup.

 

Well then out of nowhere she just ****ing ignored me, and then started hitting on everyone else. Finally my friends were leaving and then I saw her mad-flirting with this other guy, so I went up to my one buddy and told him I was taking off (in front of her) and just pretended she didn't exist, and she didn't even acknowledge I was leaving. Wtf is she getting all touchy feely with me if she's going to jerk me around Honestly it made me feel rejected and it sucked.

 

So I got an uber cab and took off home, gotta take another one back tomorrow to grab my car -_- such is life.

 

I know I always try come off as confident and cool, but honestly my self esteem feels like **** right now and its pathetic I cant stand myself.

 

:(:( I'm going to sleep guys

 

barcode, please try not to take this personally. She did not reject you as you never came on to her, so there was nothing there for her to reject! Unless you are not telling us everything, and you DID make a move on her, and she rebuffed you. Is that what happened?

 

The girl is a flirt. Extrovert to the nth degree. Life of the party type flitting from one person (guy) to the next. Not uncommon.

 

It is nothing to feel rejected by, it's just her personality.

[Hawaii51]

You're dealing with a young woman who is taking multiple mood changing substances.

 

 

And heaven's sake, just smoke weed next time.

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

You're dealing with a young woman who is taking multiple mood changing substances.

 

 

And heaven's sake, just smoke weed next time.

 

We did smoke weed - twice? Lol. To my knowledge she wasn't on anything else, my friend whose house it is doesn't like drugs there, and he was reluctant about weed.

 

Well, that's why I always say, you don't have a foundation for a relationship for 2 months, so don't count on anything until then, especially the first time you meet.

I wasn't interested in a relationship lol.

 

barcode, please try not to take this personally. She did not reject you as you never came on to her, so there was nothing there for her to reject! Unless you are not telling us everything, and you DID make a move on her, and she rebuffed you. Is that what happened?

 

The girl is a flirt. Extrovert to the nth degree. Life of the party type flitting from one person (guy) to the next. Not uncommon.

 

It is nothing to feel rejected by, it's just her personality.

 

I did make a move on her and was soft rejected. She didn't stop me, but afterwards she stopped seeking me out, and never flitted back to me. I responded in kind by doing the same.

 

She is similar in some regards to my FWB, except that you're correct she's super aggressive. The other girl I'm seeing is a lot more shy, and I think we click better. I'm not used to the super aggressive types, and I think I honestly should have blew her off and played hard to get a bit more, instead I cut to the chase and went after what I wanted.

 

I was drunk when I used the word "rejected", probably a bit dramatic considering this girl would be a fling at best, but it did suck getting blue balled for the night all that sexual tension and then it evaporates.

 

 

I just got my car back too - Uber cabs are awesome! It was only $9 back last night, and $8 back to my car today - not too bad.

[smackie9]

She wasn't there looking for a BF, she was there looking for attention from anyone that will give it.....better known as a c ock tease.

[Gary S]

 

I wasn't interested in a relationship lol.

 

 

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- When you go against the laws of love, you will find a lot of rejection.

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

- When you go against the laws of love, you will find a lot of rejection.

 

There's probably some truth to that, I won't deny. I guess she's pretty close with a couple of my other friends, so I'm glad I didn't make an ass out of myself and mostly played it cool

[preraph]

That type stuff happens to literally everyone, especially at parties. Someone else came in she was more interested in and who she probably had been after for awhile. When you barely know someone, they are allowed to be fickle. But yes, it can seem really rude. So now you know she's rude.

[Versacehottie]

I think her actions had everything to do with herself so don't project it onto yourself in any way. Sometimes when girls have nights like this they take it to the nth degree and with the attention she was getting from you, she got cocky because of her altered state and wanted to be desirable with others too. I think it had so little to do with you--it was all about her and her ego.

 

I can see why it hurts if you were thinking a hookup would turn into gf material or a chance at that. Means she wasn't considering you like that. There could be a million reasons why that wasn't the way she looked at the situation that night. Unless you wanted to date her and she's normally relatively stable and not attention-seeking, then I would let it roll right off your back.

[SJC2008]

So tonight I went to this party with a couple of my friends and there was this one girl who was super flirty towards me when I got there for the first few hours, she wanted to do shots with me, and I was flirting with her a bit and then we did some weed in private in the basement, she was getting really close and I thought for sure she wanted to hookup.

 

Well then out of nowhere she just ****ing ignored me, and then started hitting on everyone else. Finally my friends were leaving and then I saw her mad-flirting with this other guy, so I went up to my one buddy and told him I was taking off (in front of her) and just pretended she didn't exist, and she didn't even acknowledge I was leaving. Wtf is she getting all touchy feely with me if she's going to jerk me around Honestly it made me feel rejected and it sucked.

 

So I got an uber cab and took off home, gotta take another one back tomorrow to grab my car -_- such is life.

 

I know I always try come off as confident and cool, but honestly my self esteem feels like **** right now and its pathetic I cant stand myself.

 

:(:( I'm going to sleep guys

 

 

It's simple bro, she was thirsty. You didn't give her a drink so she went to the next fountain. Rinse and repeat...

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

It's simple bro, she was thirsty. You didn't give her a drink so she went to the next fountain. Rinse and repeat...

 

I gave her a sip before i let her take a drink I'm just surprised she latched onto an engaged guy after me... O.o

 

But yeah Versace I'm not beating myself up over it, I know it's her not me. I'm taking my FWB out bowling next weekend so that'll make up for it

 

I can at least say my intentions are honest. I didn't hint to this girl that I wanted her anymore than just a hookup (her behavior reflected the same). My FWB and I are non exclusive, and I'm not cheating on someone I'm engaged to like the dude who was holding hands and **** with her after me.

 

+1

[alsudduth]

No taken person would smoke up in a closed basement room in private with a random guy (I just met her last night)

 

 

HA! It might be a bad choice but I totally would "smoke up a closed basement room in private with a random guy" if it was good weed.

[wizer]

You're dealing with a young woman who is taking multiple mood changing substances.

 

 

And heaven's sake, just smoke weed next time.

 

He'll see the merits in your advice in about another 10 years.

[Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646]

HA! It might be a bad choice but I totally would "smoke up a closed basement room in private with a random guy" if it was good weed.

 

It was her weed though, I was just partaking lol. Nothing in it for her because its already hers