Elliseena1909 Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 I've been seeing this guy for just under two months and everything at the beginning was fine, we got on well, he made me laugh, he compliments me all the time and tells me how he sees himself with me in the future in a relationship, wants to go travelling with me and tells me that he cares about me. We have slept together already however he has still be kind and thoughtful, making me dinner and breakfast and buying me cute things now and again. However I stayed at his yesterday and after he made me breakfast his mood started to change, I accidentally knocked a drink over and he got really angry about it even when I said I was sorry and offered to help, eventually laughing about it after but was worried how much he overreacted. Other things later in the day made me think he wasn't as bothered all of a sudden, he kept teasing me in the sense that he was calling me names and been less touchy than usual. He said he didn't want to go out because he thought he looked fat even though he didn't and said that sometimes he felt a bit depressed. Sometimes he would say things like "your really grumpy or say comments mean comments about only to say after I'm joking and that I sometimes take things too seriously, which I think I don't but it's hard to read him. Cutting the story short I said he seemed very bipolar that day, hot and cold, he agreed saying he had been a d**k and did say sorry but I didn't feel he meant it. I said I was off out that night and he jokingly said that I better not go with anyone else cause it would bother him, even though he knows I wouldn't. I do really like him and want something to come of it but I don't want to fall for him if he ends up being another *******. Is it me overacting? Does he actually like me? Or am I wasting my time?shall I see how things go?
badpenny Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 No, no, no, no, no... Under 2 months and already you have feelings of disquiet regarding his fluctuating moods, burst of anger, and up-and-down emotional insecurity? No. Really, absolutely, No. This is at this level now, after under 2 months. You don't want to be here in 2 years talking about emotional abuse with an emotionally-unstable control freak. (And you even mentioned 'bipolar'! He may be exactly that!!) No. Leave, give this up, because honestly, my gut instinct is to fear for you. 1
jen1447 Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 I'd cut it right now. Your intuition's telling you something's off. I hate to be doom and gloom to people in new relationships, but I see some potential abuser/controller traits in the things you described. Trust me, you don't want to go down that road. 1
Gary S Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 If you are having problems at nearly two months, it's only going to get worse, not better. He's got attitude or mental problems.
Toodaloo Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 I'd cut it right now. Your intuition's telling you something's off. I hate to be doom and gloom to people in new relationships, but I see some potential abuser/controller traits in the things you described. Trust me, you don't want to go down that road. Just want to highlight this.
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