neemi Posted April 18, 2015 Posted April 18, 2015 Hey, I'm in the middle of confusion right now, so that's why I need some advice. Long story short. I started dating my ex-boyfriends few months after he divorced from his wife. We dated 2 years, then we got engaged. After being engaged for three months my ex fiance called me out of blue to say he doens't have motivation to continue our relationship. I started to find out what's going on and I saw him one day waiting for a girl who jumped into his car and there were going to a party with other friends. I wanted to trust him, that there is nothing between them. He wrote me in facebook that he doens't want to continue our relationship. After our break, I heard from my ex's sister that they got something going on and that broke me because my ex told me there is nothing between them. We saw with my ex and I asked what kind of relationship they have. He answered that they have slept together. I wanted punch my ex. After this my ex texted me that he was sorry about our break-up and that he's has been made difficult situation. Also he wrote me in txt that he misses me. For a while we kept txt and talking about what he's going to do. When nothing happened, I stepped back and let him go. It was hardest thing to do. After NC almost a year ago I saw my ex with her girlfriend in our common friends's birthdayparty. He was little drunk and we ended to talk. He was messy and very distressed. He said he has been using a lot of alcohol and medicine for comforting him. It wa so sad to see him in that situation. What I was suprised and confused that he told me that he regrets breaking up with me and that he was feeling guilty about that he never went to therapist because I suggest him to go there year ago. He was sorry about hurting me and hugged me. After these party he txted me for being sorry that he burst everything out. He told that he finaly goes to see therapist because he has too many unsolved issues in his life. He thanked me for understanding and hoped that when we see again he could feeling much better. My questions are, why he felt so guilty about that he never went to therapist because I suggest that? And why he wanted me to know that he feels bad for ou break-up? He is still dating same girl who I saw jumping in his car and who I thought was his rebound relationshio than serious one. I notice myself thinking of posibility of second chance. There was bad and good issues in our relationship but I can't trust him anymore. How he ended our relationship was cruel and selfish act. I afraid now that he's hoping we will get back together someday but I don't know anymore. I have grew and changed from ou BU and I'm happier now without him. He said that he has good memoeries with me. I think that memories aren't good reason to get back. Any advice in this confusing situation?
Ruby65 Posted April 18, 2015 Posted April 18, 2015 He's a liar and a cheater. He lied and cheated on you.... now he's lying and cheating on his next girlfriend by being in contact with you and discussing getting back together while he's still with her! So, you know one thing about him: he's not a good or trustworthy boyfriend. Do you really think he's NOT going to cheat on you anymore, if you ever got back together?
No Limit Posted April 18, 2015 Posted April 18, 2015 He cheated and now wants his safety net back. Don't take him back, block him so he can't reach out to you and move on. This is definitely not a guy you want to marry, ever.
devilish innocent Posted April 18, 2015 Posted April 18, 2015 A guy can say all sorts of things. He might even believe a few of them. The bottom line is that he's still seeing his current girlfriend. He must be getting something out of the relationship or he would have ended it. You'd be a fool to believe he only wants you. You're wasting your time thinking about a guy who wants to spend his time with somebody else. You deserve somebody who's only interested in you. You say the trust is gone, and that you're happier now without him. Why would you want to return to any of that drama? Forget about him and move on.
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