Can't stop (Updated)

[Bin_hatlan]

So I broke up 3 months ago, doing great, no regrets, everything is super cool, until this morning when something out from no where jumped in my face, I was looking for a new friend's name on Facebook, and unfortunately his name starts with the same letter as my ex's name does, so once I typed the letter my ex's profile and picture pumped in my face, it shocked me, and I had black day ever since, what happened really ruined my day, anyway I posted this thread to ask if any of you know how much time a person needs to be crashed into same unexpected situations without having to feel bad or over missing

 

Thank you

[PegNosePete]

Block him.

Simples.

[Bin_hatlan]

I broke up 3 months ago, but the problem is I can't stop grieving, it comes and go, I stop for 2-3 weeks, then start again for another 2-3 weeks. I really don't know how to go over it. I tried everything I joined a gym, focused on my studies, wrote letters then tore them up (as a process of coping), went out with a lot of friends and still do, but nothing works. I think it really went to another level. Please guide me if you know anything that helps anything.

[medzeer]

I'm always trying to explain to ppl, that all these activities like gym, taking new classes are helpfull, but they are only distractions. The only thing that can actually help you is TIME. We all have our unique timeline of grieve after BU. If you are still not 100% healed it just means that you still need time.

 

But look at the bright side, you say you sometime have even up to 3 weeks of good time, some of us would give everything just for 3 hours of being okay.

 

And remember that 3 months is nothing. If you would be okay after just 3 months i would say you didnt really love that someone.

 

Hang in there and keep in mind, it will get better and one day you will just be indifferent. ( eventhough i find this part the most painful, because i am just afraid of that moment... all of us, we spent so many special moments, with special people, just to at the end, be strangers.)

[Satu]

3 months places you right in the middle of the most difficult part of a breakup.

 

You just have to weather the storm.

 

We don't know when, but it will get easier.

 

Be good to yourself.

[dyna85]

I know how you feel bin_hatlan. I've been nc for going on 4 months now and I still feel it.

 

I feel like I can distract myself a bit, but the bottom line is, I still think of him as soon as I wake up, and whenever it is quiet and I have time to think, it hits me. Oh, and then sometimes even when I'm involved in doing things, it will hit me out of nowhere. It hurts. I wish it would stop too. I wonder how long this process will take.

 

I try to think on the whole, and I look back and definitely see improvements, so I think 'baby steps,' and recognize that I have made some progress.

 

If you look at how you're still not over the person, it can be discouraging, but if you look back and see how you've held on to staying away for so long, and you really do a close look on how far you've come, you will see you've made some strides, and that is what matters.

 

I do think it's amazing too, how after everything that has happened in my life since then, he still has so much of my heart and mind's attention. It makes no sense. Sometimes, I find not trying to make sense of it helps too. It is what it is... you know?