brookepdavis Posted April 18, 2015 Posted April 18, 2015 I'm a little too not over him. We dated all last summer, and had a wonderful time...but fate fell short and the timing wasn't the best. He eventually went back to his ex of several years. At first I wasn't sure why he did this to me, but then I realized it from his point of view and if you still love someone it hurts not to be with them....but they only lasted together for like 8 months. She doesn't like me obvi...and blocked me from all of their social media....and Now he's single, and he unblocked me from twitter...I'm wanting a fresh start...im fully aware that It wont be the same as before but I feel like I need one more go around to be together or to be fully over him. I haven't talked to him since July of last year and I want to do the whole no contact rule but we already aren't talking.....do they always come back? I'm still friends with most of his best friends too, so Im most likely to see him this summer.
SLee Posted April 18, 2015 Posted April 18, 2015 I can't tell you whether or not he'd come back. I honestly don't know, but the only contact from him that matters is a very clear message about getting back together. As in something like, "I want to get back together". I'm in the midst of the fresh start too, so I feel your pain, but the best thing you can do right now is work on YOU. Focus on yourself and making yourself better. Here's a really great website about breakup recovery if you haven't seen it. The person who runs it is amazing: http://www.breakuprecoveryguide.com
Ruby65 Posted April 18, 2015 Posted April 18, 2015 Sweetie, it sounds like he used you as a rebound last summer and went back to his ex as soon as he could. I wouldn't sign up for a second round with someone who prefers his ex to you. They might be over now, but that doesn't mean he'll like you more because of it.... if he truly had feelings for you, he wouldn't have gone back to her to begin with. Better to start fresh with someone new who appreciates your awesomeness! As for No Contact, it's NOT meant to "get your ex back", it's meant to help you heal and move on after a breakup. Best to stick to that -- through the summer too. Please do check out the recovery guide posted above, it will help you!
Fufu Posted April 19, 2015 Posted April 19, 2015 NC is never about reconciliation. If one thinks like this, this person will be forever stuck in the past and unable to move forward in life. I can't tell if your ex will come back or not, I don't think anyone will know. Based on your story, it seems like he treated you as a rebound. If he wants you, he will do something, he will have made some action. Otherwise, I will advise you not to pin all hopes in this guy. Move on, find someone who really wants to be with you.
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