Dodged a bullet

[mortensorchid]

Last summer, I had a few dates with this guy I had met at a local bar. It was within walking distance from my house, I would pop out there once in a while for their pizza. I had met this guy there, I will call him A. He was an okay guy I thought initially, I didn't want to be that woman who ditches the Nice Guy in favor of a loser so I gave him a chance. Some things bothered me about him over time ... He didn't seem like the sharpest tool in the shed, didn't have a lot of friends, we had different interests and opinions, etc. Over time, I decided that it would just be best if I just closed the book and walked away. Part of me felt a bit uneasy about it. I should have been more assertive about it and just said no rather than just let it drift away. And yet, there are a lot of others out there who have done the same to me before. I think there was an inner conflict within me that gave rise to the guilt I felt - I didn't do the right thing.

 

 

All doubts erased this past week ...

 

 

I popped by the bar after not being their in many months and overheard two people chatting about A. Apparently last weekend he got fall down, stupid drunk, threw some chairs through a window, threatened to rape some guy's wife, and the police took him away. Yikes. I dodged a bullet! I had no idea he was an Alpha Male or a wolf in sheep's clothing.

[cessna]

Does throwing a chair through a window and threatening to rape someone make a man an alpha male?

 

I'm doing things all wrong in that case.

[Emilia]

Apparently last weekend he got fall down, stupid drunk, threw some chairs through a window, threatened to rape some guy's wife, and the police took him away. Yikes. I dodged a bullet! I had no idea he was an Alpha Male or a wolf in sheep's clothing.

Well two people gossiping isn't proof of anything. I had been the receiving end of this once when I supposedly did something terrible and it wasn't even what had happened

 

It's called 'chinese whispers'

 

However, if you think that throwing chairs out of windows and threatening rape are alpha male behaviour or 'wolf in sheep's clothing' rather than plain old psychopathy, you have some boundary issues, OP.