citoxiuq Posted April 18, 2015 Posted April 18, 2015 (edited) First time caller, long time listener... Short backstory: Split from ex-wife 6 years ago after she had an affair with my son's soccer coach. Dated here and there but didn't get serious with anyone until May of 2014. Was a girl I'd had my eye on for a while (1.5 years at least) but was always too shy to ask her out. Finally did, she said yes, things went swimmingly well for 8 months, or so it seemed Valentine's Day 2015 came the blindside. Of course my dumb*** asked to try and work on it. Was rejected. Asked for reasons why, received everything from 'you're way too introverted' (INTP with very high I and N scores if any of y'all put any faith in MBTI) to 'the timing just isn't right' to 'I knew this wasn't going to work from the beginning but I took a chance anyway' to 'you saw more to this than I did' (note she was the first one to use the L word). Anyway, shortly thereafter I started lurking here. Started full NC on 3/29 and as mentioned in the title finally got around to blocking her number on my phone and put a rule on my email accounts to delete anything that comes from her upon receipt tonight. She didn't break NC but due to the sage advice received here I finally admitted that I was still hoping she would reach out and was getting more and more depressed with each passing day that she didn't. Now that I have removed that possibility I feel relief and sadness at the same time, but it truly is for the best. Anyway, just wanted to say thanks to the people that have shared their stories here and thanks to those that replied to them with advice. Without those things I would be no where near as far along as I am in the healing process, not that I'm terribly far anyway but I would admittedly be in much worse shape. Y'all are good peeps... Edited April 18, 2015 by citoxiuq
Jessie1231 Posted April 18, 2015 Posted April 18, 2015 Good for you. This site is what helped me get through my last break up too. The only thing I didn't do was block his number. We had a nightmare of a break up and I deleted his number. I think having it on my blocked list might tempt me in one of the few moments of weakness I still have. And not having it blocked kind of helps because I haven't heard from him, so it's just a another reminder that he didn't care so I shouldn't either.
Author citoxiuq Posted April 18, 2015 Author Posted April 18, 2015 I hear you. It's easy for me to block because her number will be forever engrained in my grey matter. I actually had to add her contact info back to block it then deleted it again. Sure I can always fetch the number from my blocked list but I could also always do that from my brain as well. Two numbers that I have remembered in the last ten years, one is an old boss, the other is her. Go figure...
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