Xiang Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 Me and this girl have been toghether now for about half a year. I am rather busy with work and often can go days without seeing her, when i do get free time i want to include her in it. And here is the problem, my GF will almost always pick her BFF (girl) over me. Or other friends, but this is about her BFF. If her BFF is free in the weekends i can't even get in touch with her. Except for when they separate, i noticed this pattern. The moment they break up, she calls me. ONLY then. Until then nah. Am i being selfish? Don't think so. For instance, her BFF got a 1 week holiday break last week. No surprise here, my GF was busy all week with her doing whatever they do. Even canceled on the outing we had, i didn't see her at all this week except for 1 day and a few calls. They are inseparable and i am being treated like a option . She only comes to me it seems when nothing better is about. Talk, leave/stay? Opinions.
Got it Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 How is there any other option but talk. Why wouldn't you have a mature conversation about it?
Author Xiang Posted April 17, 2015 Author Posted April 17, 2015 Do you think her behavior is normal or am i overreacting? I don't want to seem like i am overreacting. Intend to talk this over with her.
preraph Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 It is what it is. Nothing wrong with her wanting to hang with her best friend on the rare vacation. Not nice to cancel plans with you to do it. But Xiang, here's the thing. You can't MAKE her make you Number 1 just because you're a boyfriend. Now, I don't know if you are unreasonable and would just rather she didn't go out with friends, which yes, would be unreasonable and possessive, or if she's really just way more into her best friend. You can't expect her to put her best friend on the backburner just to please you. She has to want to do that. I will agree with you that it is not a good sign that she isn't any more into you than to do that, though. I imagine if you talk to her about that vacation thing, she will just say, But you and I can do that anytime. She and I only have this week. Which is true. But if on a regular basis, she is putting you way down her list of priorities, then probably this simply isn't the girl for you and probably she is not ready for a committed relationship.
Author Xiang Posted April 17, 2015 Author Posted April 17, 2015 She always does this to go out with her bFF. When she just got this 1 week free, i kinda knew i would not see her at all, i expected it. I am not the kind to ask her to leave her friends, god no. But she obviously prioritizes her outgoing with them over me, most of the time.
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