emma16 Posted April 17, 2005 Posted April 17, 2005 I am ging to sum this up quick my ex broke up with me Christmas Eve beucase he was getting pressure from the boss to date their 18 year old daughter. So at the time I was pregnant and lost the baby in March. He knows I work at a bar and knows which one it is and has stayed clear of there since the break up until Friday and Saturday. He came there and brought the new girlfriend there and he knows I am going to be there. I made sure I had a good time both nights and I did it seemed like it made her mad beucase he was off talking with numerous people that him and I both no. Why is he coming around now he knows that I am trying to get over him and the way he treated me and it just feels like a set back. Why do guys do this? Why couldn't he just stick to the bar we had to go to all the time beucase he was brown nosing to the boss?
westernxer Posted April 17, 2005 Posted April 17, 2005 Why don't you tell the bouncers to keep him out?
XBGoofBall Posted April 18, 2005 Posted April 18, 2005 Maybe he feels you did something to hurt him and this is his way to get back at you. Or he's sick in the head and has issues with letting go. I usually try to avoid my ex for as long as it takes to get past it and move on. But yeah, if bouncers work there, ask them to keep him out because of bad blood. He shouldn't be showing up at the door, especially with his ne GF. That's just vindictive.
Author emma16 Posted April 18, 2005 Author Posted April 18, 2005 Well no bouncers work there. Its a small town thats why an 18 year old girl has no problem getting in. First his boss and the bosses daughter and some of his older friends from him boss kept telling him I wasn't pregnant so I took a pregnancy test for him. His new grilfriend still never believed I was pregnant but I am getting realdy to mail the medical bills for his half. He is probably unsure if I lost the baby r had an abortion. He was with he right when we broke up so I am not sure what his deal is and to come back to the bar two days in a row. I don't know what his problem is. Maybe its his way of saying I am happy move on with your life, but I know he is happy or at least I think. I am not sure I am not dating anyone maybe he is checking up on me I have no clue how guys think at all. I just wish he wouldn't come around I mean we don't talk the break up was bad I was and will admit somewhat psych because of having a baby and him just talking off with another girl beucase of the job I am pretty sure he hates me as much as I hate him for the way he treated me. Not sure if I sould even bother mailing the bills that are left after insurace or not? I also love that fact that his girlfriend gets all pouty beucase no one at the bar will talk with her alot I mean just high beucause alot of the people taht work for her dad hang out at the bar I work at.
XBGoofBall Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Well, there seem to be alot of issues going on there, but what breakup doesn't have issues in the end? You should use the opportunity to make the bar you work for an extra dollar or two, you know? Just make the drinks alot weaker at the regular bar price for that night. Save your tavern some money on less alcohol and they have to buy more to get as crunked as they usually do. Just don't let anyone you work with or for on this secret. Remember, if you are the bartender you have the upper hand. I'd say the guy has balls or no brains to order drinks from an ex girlfriend with his new girl at his side. He's just asking for the taking. Think about it.
WithOrWithoutYou Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Originally posted by emma16 I am ging to sum this up quick my ex broke up with me Christmas Eve beucase he was getting pressure from the boss to date their 18 year old daughter. So at the time I was pregnant and lost the baby in March. Let me get this straight. You were pregnant with his child in December, and at that point, he left you ON CHRISTMAS EVE, to go date the Boss' daugher because he thought he could get further with his boss by dating the daughter than by dating you? UGH. I'm sorry you lost the baby, by the way. He knows I work at a bar and knows which one it is and has stayed clear of there since the break up until Friday and Saturday. He came there and brought the new girlfriend there and he knows I am going to be there. ... Why is he coming around now he knows that I am trying to get over him and the way he treated me and it just feels like a set back. THIS particular guy does this, because he is an total, scumbag, loser, shallow, flaming a**hole. I know it hurts now, but you are much better off without him. After what he did (which is horrible), having the decency to stay away from your place of work is the absolute bare minimum he could do. Why do guys do this? Not ALL guys are like that hon. Why couldn't he just stick to the bar we had to go to all the time beucase he was brown nosing to the boss? Refer to answer to question above. Too bad there are no bouncers, as it was an excellent suggestion. The GF is 18? If he orders her alcohol, call the cops. Heh, and I know where I'd mail those bills. Sorry, but this post made me mad (not at you hon, at the jerk you used to date). You will find someone who is a decent person in time. In the mean time, don't spend too much time getting over this guy - he just isn't worth it.
Ty Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Well all I can say.. If he left you just to brownnose.. He obviously didn't care about you that much. You'll find someone much better.. You were pregnant with his baby when he left you? If thats the case, he's a scumbag
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