MiaMckenz Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 Hi guys, this is my 3rd time posting about this subject. I took some responses into consideration from my previous post. So you don't have to go back to my previous post, I'll repost it here and i've also added some updates My boyfriend and I have been together for like 2 years now. He’s 27 and I’m 25. This past Saturday my boyfriend asked me to come spend the night over his house, and I told him that I would come to his house then leave to go home after he falls asleep. The reason being, is that i cannot sleep good whatsoever on his bead (it's actually a hard futon), which he knows. He knows i have difficulty sleeping overall and he KNOWS that i cannot sleep on this futon at all. I've told him over and over again, that i cannot sleep on his futon at all because it's too hard and uncomfortable, after sleeping over countless times and waking up tired and miserable. So before driving to his house, he said he shouldn't have to force me to spend the night and that it wouldn't matter if I came over. But, to be the bigger person i still drove to his house, but we were both distant to each other. My reason for me being distant to him is that i find it kinda selfish that he knows i can't sleep well by him, but i'm still came to see him. It's like he just cares about himself in this situation. After about 5 minutes he told me again, "why are you over here if you're going to act this way. I told you that you didn't have to come". So after he said that, I got annoyed and told him that I was leaving since he preferred that I wasn't there. So on my way home, he called me 5 times and texted me saying that he wanted to apologize, but i wasn't having it. He should have never said he didn't care if i was there or let me walk out the door in the first place. I had no urge to speak to him at all, but I simply texted him back saying that there was no need for an apology. Maybe I should have picked up the phone, but I don’t know. This happened last Saturday night, so Sunday afternoon I called him and received no answer then I texted him saying “thanks for trying to apologize, but I wasn’t having it. I’m over the situation now and I love you”. On Monday I received no form of communication, so I texted him again yesterday (Tuesday) and in a nutshell my text asked him to respond if he wanted to talk and if he didn’t then I’ll leave him alone completely So yesterday, I thought to myself “let me reach out again” and since he didnt answer my calls, I sent him a song that means a lot to us and texted him that I love him a lot. I still haven’t received a response to my text or any form of communication at all. So, now its going on almost a week since we've spoken to each other and I've unsuccessfully reached out three times already. I'm thinking if i should just text him today (hoping i get a response) to meet up so we can talk, even if the talk doesn't end well. I'm just tired of thinking about this and want to move on. Thoughts?
fitnessfan365 Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 You probably could have just posted update in the original thread instead of starting a new one. But communication is a two way process. The whole point of calling someone, leaving a voice mail, etc is allowing them to get back to you. If you keep calling/texting him over and over without letting him get back to you, it only drives the person farther away. Since he hasn't returned the previous calls/texts he obviously don't want to talk right now. So leave him alone, and let him get back to you when he's ready.
stillafool Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 No, let him call you as advised in your previous threads. Why do you start all of these threads and never interact in them? You just post a question and never come back. WTF?
preraph Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 Look, I am now in your corner. Your man doesn't care enough about your comfort to get a proper f**king bed and just thinks you should be willing to come over and service his sexual needs. He's a selfish pr**k. No, you shouldn't contact him anymore saying you love him. You should tell his sorry *ss to call you when and if he gets a proper bed suitable for houseguests!! A man is supposed to have an instinct to provide and protect. He's doing neither; therefore, he isn't much of a man.
Redhead14 Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 Hi guys, this is my 3rd time posting about this subject. I took some responses into consideration from my previous post. So you don't have to go back to my previous post, I'll repost it here and i've also added some updates My boyfriend and I have been together for like 2 years now. He’s 27 and I’m 25. This past Saturday my boyfriend asked me to come spend the night over his house, and I told him that I would come to his house then leave to go home after he falls asleep. The reason being, is that i cannot sleep good whatsoever on his bead (it's actually a hard futon), which he knows. He knows i have difficulty sleeping overall and he KNOWS that i cannot sleep on this futon at all. I've told him over and over again, that i cannot sleep on his futon at all because it's too hard and uncomfortable, after sleeping over countless times and waking up tired and miserable. So before driving to his house, he said he shouldn't have to force me to spend the night and that it wouldn't matter if I came over. But, to be the bigger person i still drove to his house, but we were both distant to each other. My reason for me being distant to him is that i find it kinda selfish that he knows i can't sleep well by him, but i'm still came to see him. It's like he just cares about himself in this situation. After about 5 minutes he told me again, "why are you over here if you're going to act this way. I told you that you didn't have to come". So after he said that, I got annoyed and told him that I was leaving since he preferred that I wasn't there. So on my way home, he called me 5 times and texted me saying that he wanted to apologize, but i wasn't having it. He should have never said he didn't care if i was there or let me walk out the door in the first place. I had no urge to speak to him at all, but I simply texted him back saying that there was no need for an apology. Maybe I should have picked up the phone, but I don’t know. This happened last Saturday night, so Sunday afternoon I called him and received no answer then I texted him saying “thanks for trying to apologize, but I wasn’t having it. I’m over the situation now and I love you”. On Monday I received no form of communication, so I texted him again yesterday (Tuesday) and in a nutshell my text asked him to respond if he wanted to talk and if he didn’t then I’ll leave him alone completely So yesterday, I thought to myself “let me reach out again” and since he didnt answer my calls, I sent him a song that means a lot to us and texted him that I love him a lot. I still haven’t received a response to my text or any form of communication at all. So, now its going on almost a week since we've spoken to each other and I've unsuccessfully reached out three times already. I'm thinking if i should just text him today (hoping i get a response) to meet up so we can talk, even if the talk doesn't end well. I'm just tired of thinking about this and want to move on. Thoughts? I would not reach out to him again. The ball is in his court. Make yourself busy with other things in your life. If or when he contacts you, then you can meet to discuss the situation. Reaching out too much at this point will push him away further. If he takes too much longer to reach out to you, prepare yourself to move on from the relationship. Let him cool off and realize you've dropped of the map. 1
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