Impossible for second chance, because wife has mental disorders?

[fireflywy]

Josh.... do her a favor and just let her go. Stop blaming her for everything and just let yer go. Then find a therapist and examine your own issues while avoiding another serious relationship for a LONG time.

[goldway90]

You're right, I need to talk to a therapist. For the fact she was my first love and we've been together for 7 years, its shocking to find this all out. I'm having trouble letting go of her, and I am praying and asking for strength to get over this.

 

I look at it this way, if she admitted out of her own mouth that she did not love me, then there's no reason to love her back.

She's sick, you'll not get i love you stuff trust me, even if she do that it's going to be manipulating you to stay. Run

[JoshCube]

Josh.... do her a favor and just let her go. Stop blaming her for everything and just let yer go. Then find a therapist and examine your own issues while avoiding another serious relationship for a LONG time.

 

Alright, but I think getting into another relationship would help me overcome this one.

[JoshCube]

She's sick, you'll not get i love you stuff trust me, even if she do that it's going to be manipulating you to stay. Run

 

Alright, this will be hard, but I guess I have to do it. As much as I love this woman and want to be with her, her illness is what's ruining this relationship. You're right, 50% of the problem is bipolar, and the other 50% is that she doesn't want to stop it. She kept flying down to the step-father's house to fulfill her incest fetish instead of wanting to get treatment. The first 3 years we were together, she wasn't doing any of this running around. I was hoping I could have turned back the clocks back to 2009 where we were in love again.

 

Thanks for the advice. I will pray to Yahowah, and ask him to give me strength at the court hearing.

[Lion Heart]

Josh, It's ok to be naive. If you feel that being HSd causes you to remain in a naive frame of mind, now that you're well and truly a grown up, it would serve you well to join real life (as opposed to online) social groups, ones that do activities you're interested in. There are plenty of groups you could join unless you're in the middle of a desert or some such. Get out more.

 

In response to your 1st set of questions. Ask yourself if your mother or sister or ANY other females you know behave like WW. Do they? I've had a much longer life than you and probably a broader set of social circles and I've only known one girl who was in a sexual relationship with her father. She later found out that he was her uncle and her real father is an infamous Australian mass murderer. Though I do believe incest isn't only in criminal families. Like many other dysfunctional behaviours, incest happens wherever it does. It isn't restricted. It's a sickness or manifestation of mental conditions.

 

In addition to my answer, it appears you answered this yourself anyway - to your own satisfaction below.

- Her having mental retardation and bi-polar is the root of all her problems.

 

Regarding your confused state, I think it would be very beneficial for you to seek counselling from a specialist ie a psychiatrist or psychologist. I'm sure your sister is a great support for you but you need an objective professional IMO.

If you're even considering fighting for the affections of your VERY WW, then you need more help than your family can provide. You definitely need to be done with her.

 

Good luck!

Lion Heart.

[aliveagain]

(2010) - I introduce her into incest role playing during intercourse. I was getting orgasms all the time, but she never did.

 

Thank the Lord you didn't role play about horses is all I can say.