notreal Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 There is much more to this story but basically my GF of 4 months left for a job interview across the country at the start of March. She stayed out there for 3 weeks (her most recent ex before me lives there as well...convenient) and didn't get that particular job but another one. She then came back to our city to get all her things and acted as if she didn't know me...saying we weren't even serious, etc. That was 3 weeks ago and it really messed me up. I still cannot sleep properly. In that span of 3 days she when she was back, I asked her what was going on and she gave vague answers and eventually said to stop contacting her to which I agreed. I told her I needed space too. Well she immediately moved in with her ex and they are together again. My birthday was a few days ago and she sent me a happy belated-birthday email stating that she knows I needed space but still thought she should acknowledge my birthday and wanted to know if I'm well and said "miss ya". Felt like a formality. Basically I should not respond right? This is the first contact in over 15 days. The only thing I want to say is that I one of her family members operation went well since I know that was bothering her for a long time. No contact is the right move here, right?
stillafool Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 Yeah you're right. However I don't think I could pass up the chance to let her know I knew she was now living with a guy. Something like, "Thank you and good luck getting back with your ex. I hope it works for you this time." In the end though it is best to ignore and not respond. She is really something moving in with her ex and now sending you messages. I wonder if her ex knows about the BD wish?
hunk Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 She sounds like a deplorable person and you shouldn't be losing a minute of sleep over her. Seriously, never talk to this girl again. She's essentially spat in your face and laughed about it. If you contact this girl in any form you are as good as a eunuch. I am deadly serious, remove her from your life permanently.
Author notreal Posted April 17, 2015 Author Posted April 17, 2015 Stillafool, I know what you mean about wanting to take the opportunity to let her know that I know she's with him. Even though, I don't think she knows that I know. It took me less than 30 seconds to find out that her "friend's" address was actually her exs. I'm going to try to take the "high road" and just ignore. Maybe when I'm in a better place I can bring it up to her but even then I think it's petty.
Author notreal Posted April 17, 2015 Author Posted April 17, 2015 Hunk. That is what I needed to hear. Thank you. 1
stillafool Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 Stillafool, I know what you mean about wanting to take the opportunity to let her know that I know she's with him. Even though, I don't think she knows that I know. It took me less than 30 seconds to find out that her "friend's" address was actually her exs. I'm going to try to take the "high road" and just ignore. Maybe when I'm in a better place I can bring it up to her but even then I think it's petty. No, if you do let her know you know do it the way I described. Then block her and never speak to her again.
Fufu Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 There is much more to this story but basically my GF of 4 months left for a job interview across the country at the start of March. She stayed out there for 3 weeks (her most recent ex before me lives there as well...convenient) and didn't get that particular job but another one. She then came back to our city to get all her things and acted as if she didn't know me...saying we weren't even serious, etc. That was 3 weeks ago and it really messed me up. I still cannot sleep properly. In that span of 3 days she when she was back, I asked her what was going on and she gave vague answers and eventually said to stop contacting her to which I agreed. I told her I needed space too. Well she immediately moved in with her ex and they are together again. My birthday was a few days ago and she sent me a happy belated-birthday email stating that she knows I needed space but still thought she should acknowledge my birthday and wanted to know if I'm well and said "miss ya". Felt like a formality. Basically I should not respond right? This is the first contact in over 15 days. The only thing I want to say is that I one of her family members operation went well since I know that was bothering her for a long time. No contact is the right move here, right? No contact all the way.. only 4 months relationship. She wasn't even committed in the first place.
Bohonia Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 Do not write her back, she is being manipulative and has no regard for your feelings. No contact cut her off!
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