lost_in_chgo Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 obviously someone has never experienced the slimy underbelly of slug nightlife. They certainly do hop. In fact I've seen slugs do the bunny hop. Granted it's very slow, and to the untrained eye may look like slithering and waving in the air, but in actuality, they are wickedly good dancers. Albeit, better at the slow dances. Try video taping it and playing it back on fast forward. It's also not a commonly know fact, but slugs are into CB radios. And when a slug has his "ears on", whatch out because that conversation is going to take a long, long time.
Chris777 Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Why is he a bad dresser? I personally used to not care at all, I would wear the cheapest things I could get at the thrift store. Or something I thought was cool. However I had an experience where my company had a play and as a joke one of my co workers wore a shirt that was exactly like on I used to wear all the time, And It dawned upon me that I must have looked awful. It is sort of like looking at old ridiculous fad fashions, that never should have been. Their is a difference between being dressed up like a ken doll or like those goofball queer eye morons. And being told hey buddy you look terrible by wearing those geeky/freaky/outdated/wore out clothes. Some guys absolutely do not care no matter what. And their is nothing you can say or do to change their mind. I used to be that way to an extent, but it was and is more of a financial issue than a style issue. I am sorry but I will wipe my ass with tommy hillfiger before I will wear it , unless I can get it for under $10. However I have been going through my wardrobe lately as I was recently fired from my office job, and I noticed I had alot of tacky clothes that I bought just for the purpose of fufilling our dress code. Way to wild shirts to matc ha pari of pants, or a supper baggy pair of pants to match a shirt. but after looking at myself in the mirror I kind of freaked. I want a balance of looking nice, but not looking like a freaking queer eye queen, or a boy band reject, or a hip hop has been. I don't know about your boyfriend, but I usually welcomed advice from my ex, unless it was something tacky. LIke when I got fitted for a tux for a friends wedding, I am sorry , but other than a formal occasion, or funeral I will never start wearing my pants hiked up half way between my navel, and my pecs. "He lost weight recently and always wears pants a few sizes too big with a leather belt peeling severely with wear to hold the pants up. " Other than what youve mentioned though Alot of it sounds more like he is transitioning between sizes A few years ago I lost like 80 lbs (gained most of it back) but suring the time, and even now I am in between sizes , and I have bought pants, and shirts, that later on either turned out too big , or too small, only to have to toss them out, because the yno longer fit. Talk to him Don't tell him your embarrassed, but tell him you think HE could have a better style, especially if he is wearing something that just totally makes him the dork. I feel like my firends and family let me run around for years like i had a big hunk of spinach dangling out of my mouth for a job interview , because no one wants to hurt feelings. But I would have been better off, If i wasnt allowed to be the laughing stock. and so would your bf. "His shirts have usually have stains in them and sometimes small holes because they are very old and need to be replaced. " I still have some old shirts that I love, but I honestly have trouble finding new clothes that arent part of some sort of hip hop trend, that I hate, (kind of like the work clothes I mentioned earlier.) For example I love the utility of cargo pants, and painters pants, but I hate how freaking baggy they are, plus the pockets are in usless locations being on my calves below my knees. So I am forced to buy plain jeans, or khakies because the trend is toward a style I find usless, uncomfortable, or not befitting my body style. He owns almost nothing but Khaki dress pants (I mean it, 90% of his wardrobe). So did I , but it was job related, I personally like jean cut pants the best, I have a friend that wears only khakis and he is in construction, and they get shredded, but for some reason he won't own jeans. " He tucks his shirts in so everything is runched up around the waist looking like he has a diaper on underneath it all. " I was forced to tuck in on the job , so i am still in the habit, (even though i am starting to mix it up a bit)though I have seen peoople that look slouchy with their shirts un tucked. Yestreday he just bought a pair of shoes and the heel is so large they look like a women's chunk heel. So he looks like a tall overweight guy with heels on! Yippee! Cant help you there he obviously thinks the showes are cool, or comfortable (I have to wear grandpa shoes for a medical condition, and If i could I would wear others, but I still look and try on shoes , to mostly no avail) , but again I suggest shopping with him, not nessesarily for him, I hate getting clothes too as a gift, I am a function and comfort over form guy any day of the week. And i hate getting things like sweaters where the sleeves are always too long or baggy, and I end up feeling like a freak wearing it. Yesterday, he wore sandals with black trouser socks and a dress shirt and pants until I told him it looked awful with the socks. Sounds like he is open to advice here, Dont completely dress him, but do correct him if he is doing something lame. I know I would appreciate it. Hopefully he would too. I have tried to buy him things but he doesn't like it when I buy him gifts. I really don't want to hurt his feelings. I think it bothers me so much of his feelings for me are that I am "beautiful" in his eyes. That I put an effort in for him and he doesn't give a crap about making an effort on his appearance. I am so attracted to him on the inside and the outside some days dissapoints me. Who doesn't feel tha tway sometimes though I mean I used to mope that my ex tried to dress all old and grandma like, and T o a certain extent I guess I am maturing , as I haver moved off of t shirts, and golf shirts to button ups, but I will still try stuff. I got a sweatery like shirt from my aunt as a gift , and I have tried wearing it a few times, And I guess it does look ok on me, but it is not something I find particularly useful wearing ( i am an artistn and I feel more naked without a pen and pad in my shirt than I do wearing fancy clothes) But have you tried just telling him that you think he would benefit from updating some of his wardrobe? and just be excited about it, I guess no one wants to be changed, but it is like my ex I really wish she had wore more youthful looking clothing when we were married, She seems to now, but still ends up wearing wierd stuff too. but she seems to be playing the harlot now i think. I know another big issue i had was hair, I am sorry , but i don't think a chick should have hair that even remotrely resembles a guys , I will never find the Jamie lee curtis, butch cut hot on a girl , sorry. I do think some things have changed about me as I have gotten older I see t shirts as mostly juvenile, unless I am painting, or out in the sun, or on vacation And maby part of it is the fact I am single, and my daughter has been asking for a step mom lately. But I am starting to become more concerned , with not looking like a slouchy 10 year old with a beard and a gut. BUt people mature at different ages, as I am almost 30, my ex is like 36 and seems to be regressing.
Mz. Pixie Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 I'm struggling with this issue a bit myself- isn't it funny how on LS we all have the same problems?? My bf has a very extensive wardrobe of expensive clothes. He probably has 85 pairs of pants- he has at least six or seven suits and 30 or more button down Polo dress shirts. He has a 100 percent cashmere sports coat! His mom loves to buy him nice clothes and she does. When we go to a nice place where he has to dress up he will and he looks fantastic! Here is my problem though. He dresses like a jock most of the time. He's a teacher so it's khaki pants and polos to school. If it's cold he will throw on a sweatshirt on top of that with tennis shoes. He has like 15 pairs! When he gets up in the am before school he showers and dries his hair with a towel. Most of the time he doesn't shave. He's not really hairy. He has to shave and dress up most days for his night job so he will do it later in the day. On the weekends sometimes he will want to run around in sweats! I've never dated someone who dressed as much of a jock as he does. Sometimes on the weekends I will ask him to shave before we go out somewhere! I can't stand a five o clock shadow- even on Brad Pitt! I make it a point to compliment how nice he looks when he does put in an effort but beyond that I'm not sure what I can do. He has the clothes, he just doesn't wear them!
Groovy Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 I find it interesting one thread stated the date had "holes in his underwear" and many gals have great boyfriends who just have no clue how to dress. My guy is clueless here too. Let's face it, if I slummed around in my sweats out with friends, had underwear and clothes with holes and stains or was 3 sizes too big my guy wouldn't be attracted to me! Why men don't get that we'd like to see the appearance more tended to the same way they like to see ours is beyond me.
brashgal Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Originally posted by Mz. Pixie My bf has a very extensive wardrobe of expensive clothes. He probably has 85 pairs of pants- he has at least six or seven suits and 30 or more button down Polo dress shirts. He has a 100 percent cashmere sports coat! His mom loves to buy him nice clothes and she does. When we go to a nice place where he has to dress up he will and he looks fantastic! His closet must be enormous!
Adunaphel Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Please don't "accidentally" trash any of his clothes. Trashing clothes without permission and/or knowledge is in the "very hard to forgive" list for some people. I'd find it a lot easier to forgive my bf (or anyone else) for stealing from my wallet than for trashing my favourite t-shirt.
Mz. Pixie Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Yeah, Brashgal it is. He has the whole HUGE master bedroom closet (that was made for two) for himself. Both sides are full as well as all his dresser drawers (except one). The bottom is lined up neatly with shoes on shoe racks. He has a special thing for his belts and even one of those shoe polisher things. The wierd thing is, he only wears about ten pairs of those pants. He keeps things like jeans, sweats and shorts in drawers so what's hanging is all dress pants. He literally has one tie that cost more than a expensive purse I have! He has over 100 baseball caps- luckily all but about 25 of them are in tubs in the attic. He collects those though so it's okay. I joke with him all the time about where he thinks he's going to put my things when I move in after we're married. He says he's going to go through things in his closet and move winter items to a hall closet and consolidate some pants that he doesn't wear. I just think it's wierd to have all this nice stuff and not wear it!
HoldOn Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Originally posted by followingthru maybe you should set his closet on fire. I see you!!!! Shouldn't you be taking notes?
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