Her story

[theseaofred1982]

She's Been married for 2.5 years. She claimed to be lonely throughout the whole marriage. Her husband is a a porn and video game addict and suspect he might be gay(she found a gay porn video he watched during their anniversary). She lived a loveless and sexless marriage, but he's a "good man." We're coworkers/friends and I was her rebound. She claimed I was the best she ever had and I did everything right. It's over between us and I'm slowly moving on, but I'm very confuse with her situation. He pursued her when she wanted a divorce, no if's and buts about it. Although they moved back together again he apparently stopped trying and wants a divorce, but now she wants to be married to him more than ever? I know nothing will ever come of me and her, I was in love, but i moved on, but i'm confuse about the psychological aspect of this situation. She's in a rut, she recently got a dui, and is in financial trouble and might get fired from her job because of her dui. It's clear to me and her friends that she and her husband are not fit for each other, but why does she want this to work so bad if she was lonely throughout her marriage? I'm guessing she loves to chase, but if they ever work it out and she's in a better position financially she will end up leaving him. Any thought?

[fireflywy]

Doesn't matter. You shouldn't have been with a married woman regardless of her reasons. It doesn't matter what she thinks or does, she didn't choose you and she is choosing to remain married.

 

You don't know if she was telling you the truth about all of this. She is probably cheating you as much as she cheating him.

This is why cheaters CAN'T be trusted. EVER.

 

She's married, isn't choosing you, and you're a fool to keep asking what ifs about decisions SHE is consciously making because you'll NEVER know the answer.

 

Move on and the next time a married woman tries to move in on you, have some honor and respect for the institution and tell her to go fly a kite.