symone4781 Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 OK this is a serious question.. I've never been the type to jump in and out of relationships,but I've noticed that a lot of people who do have relationships end up breaking up for whatever reason... Also, Why When a marriage ends the man always blames the woman for it? I mean HE is just as responsible for the marriage / relationship not working out as she is...I personally, would not consider dating someone(man) who can't maintain a relationship because it shows he's immature at the most and there may be some other issues going on with him.. I really don't want to date a man who has a TRACK record of failed relationships, engagements, or marriages.. Because for what ever reason he's not doing something right to keep the relationship afloat.. And before you guys start blaming the women I want to add one more thing... Dating a man with a long track record of failed relationships is worst than dating a single mom lol..I mean really you guys can't maintain a relationship for more than one year lol..Maybe your selfish, immature, irresponsible, cheaters, who knows? But we all deserve a SECOND chance right? I want a man to answer this question without pointing the finger at a woman..
Kbomb Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 I personally don't believe in marriage anymore and once I get divorced I don't think I will ever marry again. Nothing lasts forever and everything in life changes at some point. All relationships are good in the beginning...................
ZiggyZoo Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 OK this is a serious question.. I've never been the type to jump in and out of relationships,but I've noticed that a lot of people who do have relationships end up breaking up for whatever reason... Also, Why When a marriage ends the man always blames the woman for it? I mean HE is just as responsible for the marriage / relationship not working out as she is...I personally, would not consider dating someone(man) who can't maintain a relationship because it shows he's immature at the most and there may be some other issues going on with him.. I really don't want to date a man who has a TRACK record of failed relationships, engagements, or marriages.. Because for what ever reason he's not doing something right to keep the relationship afloat.. And before you guys start blaming the women I want to add one more thing... Dating a man with a long track record of failed relationships is worst than dating a single mom lol..I mean really you guys can't maintain a relationship for more than one year lol..Maybe your selfish, immature, irresponsible, cheaters, who knows? But we all deserve a SECOND chance right? I want a man to answer this question without pointing the finger at a woman.. Uuuuh, excuse me? WTF is so bad about dating a single mom? 2
Author symone4781 Posted April 16, 2015 Author Posted April 16, 2015 Good question.. I noticed that a lot of men and women bash single mothers, but a majority of them can't even maintain a relationship for more then one year...Why judge someone When you're not perfect either??? Being judged sucks?!?! Right?
Kbomb Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 There is nothing wrong with dating a single Mom. If you are a single mom you are not perfect, you are a package. Some men are looking for perfection. That does not exist.
ZiggyZoo Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 Good question.. I noticed that a lot of men and women bash single mothers, but a majority of them can't even maintain a relationship for more then one year...Why judge someone When you're not perfect either??? Being judged sucks?!?! Right? Hey, you're the one who said it.
Riptide91 Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 Hey, you're the one who said it. I'm under the impression she is a single mom and making a sarcastic comment. Easy Ziggy.
ZiggyZoo Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 I'm under the impression she is a single mom and making a sarcastic comment. Easy Ziggy. I'm not only a single mom, but I'm a single PREGNANT mom. These hormones, they are a ragin'.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 Why do most marriages/relationships FAIL?? Probably for reasons relating to both partners not sharing as their highest priority the psychological appeal to steady and continued investment in one another with the greatest gains to come, over time, directly from the personal emotional value to those steady investments. Some get married because they want a steady hot chick to bang. Some get married because the other partner has a lot of money. Some get married mostly as a means through which to escape the undesirable spot they'd been in. Some get married only after being plucked from the throes of some other dead relationship, not understanding/observing that good partners don't generally go looking for prospects within the bounds of somebody else's relationship. And many people marry partners made to seem ideal by the very largest flaws in each side. (a caretaker marries an alcoholic and feels right at home, for having cared for an alcoholic parent at some point, etc.) An addict marries another addict, etc. etc. etc. etc. That is a general summation of why most marriages fail. 1
minime13 Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 Every relationship takes 2 people to either maintain it or ruin it. It is rarely just 1 persons fault. Traditionally, people date for the purpose of finding a mate to spend their life with. In that case, every relationship that you have will fail except (hopefully) the last one. I'm really not understanding, completely, why you ask why most relationships fail, because I'm inclined to believe they're designed to. Dating is the process of finding the things you want and don't want in a partner. It's also practice and learning for future relationships. As far as why most marriages fail? They don't. Most first marriages survive (although it is a small margin of the majority versus divorce). Subsequent marriages, though, are a different story. That, I do not know. Men blame women for divorce for the same reason that women blame men. That goes the same in relationships. It's because it hurts, and it's a failure, and it's a reaction. Also, the partner is typically partly to blame. Eventually, people do find their own faults in the failed relationship, even if they don't want to own up to it, because it does take 2 to tango. Personally, it feels that you may be chasing the wrong type, if you keep having failed relationships. I'd suggest taking a step back, taking care of yourself and your own business, and then sitting down and being honest about what you really want out of a relationship. Look, also, at what you have to offer, and if you have anything you can improve upon yourself. Then go out and look for that. And try not to get bitter or frustrated in the process, because not everyone is compatible. Best of luck.
mtnbiker3000 Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 Because people don't know how to love themselves and be happy, content, fulfilled and satisfied alone. They feel the need to be in a RS for the wrong reasons and without truly understanding themselves or their partner. Add social media into the mix and watch out... Ticking time bomb!!
mightycpa Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 OK this is a serious question.. I've never been the type to jump in and out of relationships,but I've noticed that a lot of people who do have relationships end up breaking up for whatever reason... Also, Why When a marriage ends the man always blames the woman for it? I mean HE is just as responsible for the marriage / relationship not working out as she is...I personally, would not consider dating someone(man) who can't maintain a relationship because it shows he's immature at the most and there may be some other issues going on with him.. I really don't want to date a man who has a TRACK record of failed relationships, engagements, or marriages.. Because for what ever reason he's not doing something right to keep the relationship afloat.. And before you guys start blaming the women I want to add one more thing... Dating a man with a long track record of failed relationships is worst than dating a single mom lol..I mean really you guys can't maintain a relationship for more than one year lol..Maybe your selfish, immature, irresponsible, cheaters, who knows? But we all deserve a SECOND chance right? I want a man to answer this question without pointing the finger at a woman.. Well, if you think about it, first relationships fail the most, seconds a little less, thirds even less than that, etc. etc. That makes total sense to me. If you have a relationship with a man who has never had a failed relationship, you're almost guaranteed to be his first failed relationship. I think pretty much whoever leaves a relationship is the one who blames the other.. although in your case, I'm guessing that you're getting tired of being blamed. Maybe you're angry at your choices, I don't know. I will simply say that from personal experience, having a lot of relationships helped me in the long run. Of them all, I'd only call one "failed", and that was totally my fault. The rest just didn't last because we weren't a match. They were successes, really. We tried each other on for size, and found out we didn't fit. Perfect. 1
Fufu Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 because most people see relationship as 1+1=2 In fact, relationship is 0.5 +0.5=1. Both individuals need to give in for the good of the relationship.
Jonp219 Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 I hate reading threads with questions like these lol. Mostly, because it's a question I ask myself every single day, and I've come to the conclusion that it just happens. It's one of those questions that encourage hopelessness and irritability within me. I feel like short relationships are a monumental waste of time and the only true purpose for them is sex. This is why I date someone for at least a month or 2 before I get into a relationship with them.
ZiggyZoo Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 I think lack of communication is a big culprit. People don't want to hurt their partner's feelings by bringing up something that they're not happy about, and it grows and grows. Then you get a big fight about something totally unrelated to the real problem, but there's all this built up resentment coming out. And I think too that's how people feel blindsided when a relationship ends seemingly out of nowhere. It isn't out of nowhere to half of the couple. The best breakup I've ever had was from a relationship where we were both very committed and conscious about maintaining communication. We weren't allowed to say that nothing was wrong if something WAS, and on the other side of that, we weren't allowed to get angry at the one who was sharing something that was bothering them. Yes, feelings could be hurt, but we agreed to keep tempers cool. We ended up breaking up, like I said, but it was the most mutual decision I think I've ever seen. I may have wanted it a little more, but he wasn't really feeling it either. So there's that.
carhill Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 Why do most marriages/relationships FAIL?? BBD (Bigger, better deal) In general, people operate in their own self-interest. Associations benefit that. We may assign all kinds of altruistic adjectives but when push comes to shove the organism acts in a manner that preserves and benefits itself. The anomalies and outliers are known as 'doormats'. 3
Jonp219 Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 (edited) I guess it's just better to be single. Humans are mentally disturbed creatures who operate on fear and have no remorse for fellow human life. Relationships are a good reason I've become more of a misanthrope the last couple of years. It's just one big joke one after the other. Edited April 17, 2015 by Jonp219 1
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