melissacus Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 I recently posted on the dating section about a situation concerning my, now ex, boyfriend being a jerk or closing down when there was any sign of conflict. After the post, the next night I got off work at 1030 pm and walked to the bus stop to catch the next bus home. Later realizing buses don't run on Sunday... with only $2 on me for the bus, no card, no friends available, and 40 min walking distance from home, I was stranded in a bad part of town at night. I was texting my ex at the time, told him my situation and that I was scared, that a guy had just driven by very slowly asking if I wanted a ride, and he replies asking what the he'll I was going to.do. I told him I have no idea!! I'm gonna have to figure something out.... no reply. I'm on the side of the street for 40 minutes trying to find a way home. About an hour later I make it home, shower, and get ready for bed. A** face still hasn't texted or called to see if I made it home okay. I was thoroughly annoyed and sent him a sarcastic text saying I made it home, thanks for your concern! Good night instantly he responds, sorry, my phone died and I just turned it on. How did you get home??? I call B.S.! I was tired and angry so didn't respond and just went to bed. About 30 minutes later I get a text from him saying, so you're not responding, awesome. Well I think we should stop talking, you're too emotional for me and I can't deal with it anymore... bye. I wake up from it, am even more annoyed, call him and he doesn't answer.... there are really men like this out in the world? I'm considering going celibate for life.
Kbomb Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 He is trying to move on, doesn't mean he will but it sounds like he has made the decision to try. He may also have another girl and thats why he does not care about you. Men have an amazing way of turning their feelings from one woman to another. You are doing the wrong thing though, You should not contact him anymore. Dont call or txt or anything for 30 days. If he calls or txts you DONT REPLY - for 30 days. After 30 days see how you feel and go from there. This will give you both time to think, him time to miss you and you time to heal. It will also give you back your power. Hope it helps!
Author melissacus Posted April 16, 2015 Author Posted April 16, 2015 Oh, we already broke up, I told him bye and haven't spoken to him since that happened, four days ago. I don't plan on talking to him ever again either. I am happy we stopped talking. He's an *******. Just wanted to share my break up story 3
ZiggyZoo Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 I guess if nothing else, this is something you can look back on when you start to miss him. Remembering that long walk home through the bad part of town will help snap you out of that real quick, I'm sure! 2
Author melissacus Posted April 16, 2015 Author Posted April 16, 2015 Hahaha, ziggy, too funny. Although I don't ever see myself missing him, this memory will definitely snap me out of it quick if it happens! 1
DrReplyInRhymes Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 I was texting my ex at the time This little tidbit, I'm confused to what you meant, Was he your ex after, or when that text was sent? For if he was your ex at that exact moment of distress, He owes you nothing, and certainly not anything over text.
Author melissacus Posted April 17, 2015 Author Posted April 17, 2015 This little tidbit, I'm confused to what you meant, Was he your ex after, or when that text was sent? For if he was your ex at that exact moment of distress, He owes you nothing, and certainly not anything over text. We had broken up about a month earlier and were still talking everyday attempting reconciliation. After this incident, permanent ex's. 1
Author melissacus Posted April 17, 2015 Author Posted April 17, 2015 This little tidbit, I'm confused to what you meant, Was he your ex after, or when that text was sent? For if he was your ex at that exact moment of distress, He owes you nothing, and certainly not anything over text. Just realized that rhymes... 1
jen1447 Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 Oh, we already broke up, I told him bye and haven't spoken to him since that happened, four days ago. I don't plan on talking to him ever again either. I am happy we stopped talking. He's an *******. Just wanted to share my break up story Oh my god ....when I read your original post I thought he was already your ex, and even then it seemed sh*tty that he'd leave you hanging like that. (Assumed that you were "still friends" as they say). But he wasn't exed at the time? Damn GF, that's immediate grounds for termination. I love happy endings. Good job.
Author melissacus Posted April 17, 2015 Author Posted April 17, 2015 Oh my god ....when I read your original post I thought he was already your ex, and even then it seemed sh*tty that he'd leave you hanging like that. (Assumed that you were "still friends" as they say). But he wasn't exed at the time? Damn GF, that's immediate grounds for termination. I love happy endings. Good job. Here's the thing, we are long distance! So I was obviously not expecting him to come pick me up, but to merely respond to me during this as I was clearly scared and stranded... couldn't even muster up an hour later, "you still alive" text?.... bimbo. 1
Author melissacus Posted April 17, 2015 Author Posted April 17, 2015 AND that's not even what bothered me most. What was most annoying is that he got pissed that I didn't respond to his message, which was well deserved, when he didn't respond to my distressed one and have ignored plenty of my texts in the past, which is one of the biggest reasons we didn't work: terrible communicator in a long distance relationship? No bueno.
ravfour4 Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 It sounds like he did reply to your distressed text, but probably just thought you wanted his attention since he was far away and knew he couldn't help you...which was true lol. After you were needy he expected you to continue being that way and got mad when you weren't, which is def rude on his end to expect that and be a jerk back because of it.
jen1447 Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 Here's the thing, we are long distance! So I was obviously not expecting him to come pick me up, but to merely respond to me during this as I was clearly scared and stranded... couldn't even muster up an hour later, "you still alive" text?.... bimbo. Yeah, I'd expect him to at least consult on what to do, and maybe even arrange it on his end. The last thing you need is to have your nose in your phone (longterm) if you're in danger.
Author melissacus Posted April 17, 2015 Author Posted April 17, 2015 It sounds like he did reply to your distressed text, but probably just thought you wanted his attention since he was far away and knew he couldn't help you...which was true lol. After you were needy he expected you to continue being that way and got mad when you weren't, which is def rude on his end to expect that and be a jerk back because of it. Hm, I'm not sure what you mean by needy. We were talking about the masters golfing game over text and I had expressed that I was stranded in a ghetto part of town with no money or friends to pick me up. He then made one reply to that, "what the hell are you gonna do?" Then didn't respond after I told him I wasn't sure. Then when I got home and was getting ready for bed, almost two hours later, I texted him sarcastically, he texted me back instantly with a bull**** excuse as to why he didn't respond (probably forgot because was watching Netflix), I didn't reply because I was irritated to no end, then half an hour later he texts me again saying I'm too emotional and doesn't want to talk to me again.... maybe I didn't tell it clearly first time around, haha.
Author melissacus Posted April 17, 2015 Author Posted April 17, 2015 Yeah, I'd expect him to at least consult on what to do, and maybe even arrange it on his end. The last thing you need is to have your nose in your phone (longterm) if you're in danger. My thoughts exactly. My gf ended up calling me back, she wasn't in town, but she paid/arranged for a cab ride home for me.... can always count on your girls.
jen1447 Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 Hell yeah. Is that how you ended up getting home?
Author melissacus Posted April 17, 2015 Author Posted April 17, 2015 Hell yeah. Is that how you ended up getting home? Yes! I was considering walking after about 1/2 hour of pondering ideas on how to get home..thank God it didn't come to that.
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