Trying to understand this girl!

[dd246]

Hello everyone. I have a pretty lengthy story i'm about to post. Hahah. I'm just looking for any ones thoughts or inputs. So here's the story.

 

I met a girl on tinder last summer. We spoke for a little over a week and she would slowly stop responding to my text messages. So I got the hint and figured she was talking to someone else and stopped speaking to her. About a little over a month ago I messaged her on Facebook to see how she was. Random of me to message her; I know it was a shot in the dark to find out if she was single and i had nothing to lose. Found out she broke up with her boyfriend back in November and she said it was not a healthy relationship. So we continued our conversation over texting. I'm not one that's really into texting, but the first night of talking we spoke until about 3 in the morning. A day or two later I ask if she wants to meet up. She tells me she's busy until after Easter, which at the time was almost a month away. So i was teasing her in a light fun way and said there is no way your busy EVERY day! So we decided to meet a day during the week. The day before we were suppose to meet up I remind her of where we are going and what time. I get no response. I had a feeling she was getting cold feet. So about a few hours pass and i text her and say don't get cold feet on me now. And she confessed and said she was but won't bail on me. I told her it's okay if your not ready. She ended up explaining and telling me she doesn't want to date anyone and saying she's happier single. She tells me she's had very bad relationships. She said shes been abused, cheated on, and stalked. Continues to tell me she doesn't want to get hurt. I kept telling myself I should stop talking to her, but we both enjoyed talking to each other. We continued to text/call close to a month every day. We got comfortable with each other and began talking sweet to each other. May sound corny but we would text at night and say how nice it would be to be laying next to each other and kissing. We even had a night where our questions got personal such as sexual. She told me shes been avoiding guys and i told her i'm glad you didn't avoid me and she agreed. She seemed really into me. After Easter I asked if she wants to meet. No response. SO a few hours pass and i said why are you afraid. she tells me she doesn't want to get hurt. I said you need to take risks and chances in life and no matter what happens you learn from every experience. I said I don't want to put pressure on you. She continues to explain she has no desire to date someone and wants to focus on her job. So i told her I don't want to speak like we do everyday and have eagerness to meet her if i know nothing will become of it. I guess you can say I ended the continuation of speaking to her because i'm not going to keep texting someone if I won't meet her. I told her i'm not going to completely blow her off and said I would still keep in touch. But i told her when she is ready to meet me don't hesitate to tell me. The ball is in her court. It doesn't bother me much that we don't talk but what is bothering the hell out of me is why was she talking to me everyday and doing all this sweet talking, but doesn't want anything from it. I think i became her "Text Buddy" and I think she felt good of me boosting her ego. Women are difficult to understand! I need answers! haha. Ladies please give me input

[ExpatInItaly]

My guess? She's not totally single. She's talking to other guys too.

[smackie9]

There's nothing to understand, you are quite well aware girls are attention whores, and you detected that she is one. Move on and spend time on someone who does have a real interest in you. It's true, if a girl really likes you, they let nothing get in the way, not even a bad relationship or hurt in the past. when they come up with excuses that's when you put on the brakes and get out of there.

[Gary S]

If it did not work out the first time, what do you think your odds are the second time?

 

You get one shot per girl per lifetime.