I feel bad for girls who werent gifted with appearance

[candie13]

yeah... ugly women, stupid men... to each their own !

 

you may be mistaken "not show offish" women with "ugly". If that ugly chick is quite as insightful as you portrait her to be, chances are she's smart.

 

Every smart woman knows that if she gets dressed like an attention-whore, she'll get low quality people who dig attention whores. Maybe that's not her cup of tea. Maybe her cup of tea is to keep a low profile, focus, get a degree, a career, a fantastic understated chic wardrobe and mingle with other career oriented, money making men who have no time interest or disposition to follow shallow attention whores on the social media.

 

Chances are that hot sexy momma will end up with a stunningly amazing sexy truck driver who'll grow a belly in his 30s... you need brains first to get access, then catch yourself a good match, no matter how sexy hot one is. I won't even talk about making that good match stick around...

 

So that sexy chic will have loads of success and lots of fun, lots of attention, thoughout her 20s. Watch out when and with whom she'll end up with, if you really wanna have a laugh and then decide whom it is that you're feeling sorry for

[casey.lives]

a woman's youth and beauty are her primary currency. There is good reason to feel for them, however some people may not want the glamour that comes along with youth and beauty.

[elaine567]

Someone posted this here on LS yesterday on another thread, but it fits this thread to a tee.

 

[thefooloftheyear]

Ive seen it in my lifetime....several times, actually..

 

Yes, beauty opens a whole lot of doors...and if you are a beautiful woman, you kind of have the world by the short hairs, providing she doesn't screw it up...I guess the only caveat is that it will take some work to maintain it..and age will be the ultimate equalizer....for most, anyway...

 

TFY

[salparadise]

The first thing people see is your physical appearance... I heard a saying some time ago that nothing ages worse than a pretty woman's ego...

 

Gosh, true, for so many. I think they fall into two distinct groups. Those who embrace the attitude of narcissistic entitlement and reinforce it as they age, and those who develop a more gracious, timeless style of confidence. It's still impossible for the latter to experience life as anything other than a highly valued specimen, but at least they get it in perspective and don't attribute it entirely to their own virtue.

 

The difference probably comes down to how they were loved as children. The former perhaps being criticized harshly by intolerant parents, yet elevated for physical beauty and sexuality beginning at adolescence. The latter were affirmed as inherently, unconditionally lovable and never needed the validation to see themselves as worthy. I've done quite a bit of thinking about it because I have a conventionally beautiful daughter who turns twenty this year. I hope she gets it.

[Toodaloo]

The pretty girl may have many fake friends but who will be there when she really needs them?

 

I would rather have 30 decent people who actually cared about me than 30,000 trying to get in my pants and boost my ego all day...

 

Just saying. From my perspective the second girl has a better and more fulfilling life...

[autumnnight]

I feel sorry for little boys who think a girl's only value is the outside of her face and her friend list.

[Michelle ma Belle]

I posted this in another forum but I think it's worthy of reposting here;

 

[elaine567]

Someone posted this here on LS yesterday on another thread, but it fits this thread to a tee.

 

#28

I posted this in another forum but I think it's worthy of reposting here;

 

 

Same but different.

[stillafool]

a woman's youth and beauty are her primary currency. There is good reason to feel for them, however some people may not want the glamour that comes along with youth and beauty.

 

Hmmmm...what decade is this? No, a womans currency is her brain. If she uses it correctly she doesn't need youth or beauty to survive.

[Michelle ma Belle]

#28

 

 

Same but different.

 

Haha yes that was me and yes I found a different video I thought cut to the chase

[carhill]

To be honest, I've never felt 'bad' for them, rather viewed them as facing the same social struggles and challenges in life as I have.

 

One interesting aspect I've noted by being alive so long is that folks who weren't gifted genetically in the appearance department, if they live a healthy life, can become surprisingly attractive in old age as the grim reaper gains a foothold on all of us. The key is the healthy lifestyle. Sometimes folks who have it easy in the social department live life to the fullest, including unhealthy habits and vices, and those choices catch up with them as life and time catch up with them. I'm now to the point where I've seen a few die well before their four score and seven (a full life) and I often wonder 'why' and some of it did come down to choices. However, it was a pretty cool life while it lasted so I guess that has value.

[No Limit]

I feel sorry for little boys who think a girl's only value is the outside of her face and her friend list.

 

These "little boys" won't change this way of thinking until their first divorce.

[elaine567]

To be honest, I've never felt 'bad' for them, rather viewed them as facing the same social struggles and challenges in life as I have.

 

One interesting aspect I've noted by being alive so long is that folks who weren't gifted genetically in the appearance department, if they live a healthy life, can become surprisingly attractive in old age as the grim reaper gains a foothold on all of us. The key is the healthy lifestyle. Sometimes folks who have it easy in the social department live life to the fullest, including unhealthy habits and vices, and those choices catch up with them as life and time catch up with them. I'm now to the point where I've seen a few die well before their four score and seven (a full life) and I often wonder 'why' and some of it did come down to choices. However, it was a pretty cool life while it lasted so I guess that has value.

A friend of mine's brother dated and actually married this older woman, who was stunning. He was 25, she was 40, but she was head-turningly beautiful. We all thought wow what must she have been like when she was 20? One night we all found out, when she showed us her pics, not ugly, but not pretty either, just nondescript really. She had definitely improved with age.

[hotpotato]

I dont feel bad for your less attractive friend. Really, a woman only needs to be not too ugly to be attractive to men. I have no idea what your friend looks like. Im sure shes fine in the looks department. If she wanted, she could have a lot of male followers by posting sexy pics. Maybe shes happy with the friends she has, and theres more to life than social media 'friends.'

[Rejected Rosebud]

no matter what people's photos look like I don't think that facebook popularity means that much in real life, OP I think you are taking that way to seriously and also judging women that way is very unpleasant.

[elaine567]

Some very popular people are popular on social media because their page is interesting, they update frequently or let people into their personal life via social media. Some pages are more like soap operas, everyone waits for the next installment. Some court popularity and like the "celebrity" status whilst others just use social media as a means to keep in contact with close friends and family, or to contact those who share their hobbies/interests.

OK "hot" women are always going to get men ogling at their pics, but does that make them truly "popular" or just lusted over?

[toolforgrowth]

Some very popular people are popular on social media because their page is interesting, they update frequently or let people into their personal life via social media. Some pages are more like soap operas, everyone waits for the next installment. Some court popularity and like the "celebrity" status whilst others just use social media as a means to keep in contact with close friends and family, or to contact those who share their hobbies/interests.

OK "hot" women are always going to get men ogling at their pics, but does that make them truly "popular" or just lusted over?

 

Great post. Hot women may get a lot of attention, but is it the kind of attention that leads to a healthy, lasting relationship? I kinda doubt it. Maybe that's the only kind of attention the woman wants, or maybe she has some other reason. Either way, we don't really know what her motives are, all we can do is guess.

 

On the flip side, it's easy to guess the motives of the men who are giving her all this attention.

 

Beauty isn't forever, but intelligence and mutual interests are...or at least they last a lot longer.

[Leone13]

I don't think any woman, unattractive or otherwise, needs you to feel sorry for them. True happiness comes from within. Having a hundred people chase after you or compliment how you look in your latest selfie, is not what makes a woman feel good.

[Eggplant]

It frustrates me how women are not supposed to be loners. What if she doesn't want lots of friends? Or what if she's socially incompetent but has a million other assets?

[calvincline47]

I hate to say it - it really represents real life in most aspects. Maybe you are from older generation, but for youth it is true. Popular people in real life are popular on social network. I saw this correlation countless times.

 

This isn't really true.

 

I'm practically a hermit and have over a thousand friends on Facebook.

 

Though, to be fair, I built up this friend list pre-military (and pre-PTSD, which is the reason that I'm a hermit). Prior to this, I was friendly and outgoing. Now, I'm quiet, angry, and keep to myself.

[xxoo]

She may be quite content and happy as she is, with loving relationships and a satisfying life, and confused by your pity.

[jay1983]

It's men and women. Men can compensate for looks with personality and money is over exaggerated. I know I didn't get the shorter end of the stick genetically and less attractive men have it tough.

[TrevorDia]

These girls who "weren't gifted with appearance" - you may think you're doing them some great favour by throwing them a sympathy friend request, but 99% of them really don't care what people who go trawling the internet looking for attractive females to stalk think of them.

[BlueIris]

Oh, you needn’t feel sorry for women who aren’t beautiful. Many people value other things as much or more than they value beauty. Lots of average and physically unattractive women are very happy and successful.