HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 We broke up about 20 months ago it was quite nasty (he basically just shut me out cold after a row & got with someone else very quickly) I had to rebuild my life (which I've done a fantastic job of). About 5 months ago when feeling I had rebuilt things & reflected I lost it & messaged him basically telling him how well I am doing, what an a*se he was with what he done I even went one step further (I'm not proud of this at all) & slated him & his GF. I'm now feeling like I want to apologise & keep telling myself that all I said was words & that doesn't come close to what he done but I'm feeling myself getting a bit absorbed by this & I can't seem to get it off my mind.. Just need some advice really x
PegNosePete Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 Apologize for your words when he apologizes for his actions. And on that day, Satan will be skating to work! 2
maryjaneholland Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 Girl, you broke up 20 months ago. Move on! If you message him apologising, you're handing it to him. He'll be thinking that you still want him when he's completely moved on. Everyone says a few nasty things when we break up because we are hurt. He'll probably understand already. More so, he most probably have completely forgotten you ever did that, because he has a girlfriend. If he doesn't understand, then let him think you're the girl who slated him and his girlfriend. Why do you care so much what he thinks of you? You're both done. You never have to see him again in your entire life. Let him go and forgive yourself. Move on yourself. 1
Toodaloo Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 He was an arse. He doesn't deserve your apology nor does he deserve any more of your thoughts, time nor attention. Don't contact him again. Leave it be. Go and live life and have a great time. Concentrate on all those good things that you have made happen. 1
Reality015 Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 Move on. You don't know what his response will be. It could take you backwards. I had a similar thing with my ex ex. I went through a stage where I wanted to apologise for something I regret though I thought what's the point it could take me backwards or even worse we might of got back together. 1
Author HeartbrokenNewbie Posted April 16, 2015 Author Posted April 16, 2015 You are all right & I won't apologise I guess I just feel a bit bad about what I said about her (I don't even know the girl) & she didn't really deserve it x
Fufu Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 I should break down 20 months to 86 weeks 608 days 14592 hours 875520 minutes 52531200 seconds. so tell me what's the purpose of apologizing? 1
Meli22 Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 I echo the others saying don't do it! He broke your heart, he doesn't deserve an apology. He wont care, and it will just be an ego boost that you feel bad/have been thinking about him. Let him feel guilty (if he does), and think about why you really want to apologise. Is it to start a conversation? to make him realize how sorry you are? Either way it would set you back I think. 1
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