Kaitlin_256 Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 Well I've known my friend fora good few months now and I liked him from the start. He never acted like he thought of me that way so I thought I'd never have a chance with him so I hooked him up with a girl who was my friend at the time (long story) they've been dating and everything and I've been sad because of it. So I finally told him the other day how I felt about him and he said that he liked me too! And that if I hadn't of introduced him to his gf and told him how I felt earlier that we would probably be together today. Well I was excited that he liked me but I don't know if he would still want to date me. He said he would have before he dated meg. I really really care about him and she doesn't do amuthing but cheat on him . Things have also gotten a little awkward since we talked about that . And this weekend me him and our other friends are spending the weekend together. Should I talk to him about it and ask if he would still date me and everything and risk making it more awkward? Or just leave it alone . I know this is a kinda childish question but I have no one else to talk to for advice and I really need it at the moment. Thanks
HumptyDumpty Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 Leave it be. There's nothing you can do about it! He seems to really like his girlfriend. If you tell she cheats on him...yeah, right, the friend who is totally in love with him, who hooked him up with her friend, tells him suddenly how bad she is, that sounds totally trustworthy! May be it true or not, but it's a thing between the girl and him anyways, none of your business! You messed it up, you introduced him to his new love! I'm sorry but you have to just suck it up and move on! If in the future you both meet again, single and ready for a new relationship, maybe. But the future for now is that he's in love with another girl and not you! You can't do anything about it. Accept it and move on for the time being!
Frank2thepoint Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 So I finally told him the other day how I felt about him and he said that he liked me too! And that if I hadn't of introduced him to his gf and told him how I felt earlier that we would probably be together today. Moral of the story. You should have mustered the courage earlier to tell him how you feel. But now you know. Leave him be concerning romantic pursuit. Be there as a friend for him, be supportive, and all you can do concerning his current girlfriend is allow him to realize on his own if she is right or wrong for him.
GoBlue Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 Hi Kaitlin_256 - My experience tells me that patience is usually what works best. I mean what's the hurry? The real threat here is that you have already started badmouthing his girlfriend (apparently the friend you introduced him to) because you found out he likes and is attracted to you. If she really is cheating on him then it will come out in its own time. There's nothing wrong with developing a stronger friendship because any couple who stays together in a committed relationship do so because they enjoy being together - it's not because they started sleeping together. I don't know how old you are but it kind of sounds like High School age. Relationships are investments and they should not be entered into quickly or without due process. Conclusion - take your time, be patient, and be a good friend.
preraph Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 No. Now you have to wait. You hooked him up with her. I can't imagine why since you were interested in him, but I am chalking it up to a case of "too much giving." Don't give more than you get and he goes first. That goes for everything, not just introducing him. Look , most guys do NOT hang around a girl much who they would not at least be interested in sleeping with once to see how it would be. So if a guy is hanging around, assume he's at least somewhat physically attracted, especially young guys, because that's all they think about it seems like. And why you hooked him up with someone that you now act like is "just a cheater," well, I don't know, but not nice to try to break that up and you'd lose his respect now if you tried that and made a mess. So just wait. Let him simmer for awhile. See if the thought of being with you is enough of a temptation for him to get restless and call it off with her or if he's perfectly content where he is. Do nothing. Start dating other guys and going out with friends and don't just be a sad sack laying around waiting for him because that's not attractive and could prove a waste of time.
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