Debster Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 I used to be envious of other people's relationships. Now, I'm so happy with mine that I couldn't care less about anyone else's.
glow2 Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Originally posted by Moose But if I had to choose one couple.....it would be the Reagan's. I don't understand the deal about using famous celebrities as examples. Isn't it supposed to be about discussing and expresses opinions, and responding to an OP who's asking ordinary folks what their own experience has been. It's like that thread I was reading recently about : preferences, and if our focus on dating is too superficial...one poster replyed saying it's personality that counts - yet that poster uses a Hollywood actress as her avatar. When challenged by another poster - she defends her avatar by saying "Oh, but it's because Drew Barrymore DOES have a cracking personality"...... Do you really know these celebs personally? Are they your friends? What makes you qualified to speak about their private lives? Oooops! I guess this belongs in the 'rant' forum
tiki Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Originally posted by *~*glow*~* What makes you qualified to speak about their private lives? Wow....good point.
CurlyIam Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Originally posted by *~*glow*~* I don't understand the deal about using famous celebrities as examples. Isn't it supposed to be about discussing and expresses opinions, and responding to an OP who's asking ordinary folks what their own experience has been. It's like that thread I was reading recently about : preferences, and if our focus on dating is too superficial...one poster replyed saying it's personality that counts - yet that poster uses a Hollywood actress as her avatar. When challenged by another poster - she defends her avatar by saying "Oh, but it's because Drew Barrymore DOES have a cracking personality"...... Do you really know these celebs personally? Are they your friends? What makes you qualified to speak about their private lives? Oooops! I guess this belongs in the 'rant' forum I wonder what that says about debster's avatar, LOL! Glow, get off your high horses and stop envying Donot for finding that avatar FIRST (or work with me on a plan to talk her out of it... we'll handle the situation from that point, he he) Chosing your avatar has nothing to do with the validity of your opinions. It has to do Exactly with personal TASTE and personality! The mere fact that you know who Drew Barrymore is means that you have read at least once a tabloid and therefore are no better than any of those people reading it on current basis. We're all subject to it. Do you have to be the waiter serving J. Depp for him to leave you no tip to say that he's a cheap bastard? Or at the same restaurant with Naomi to say that she's plain rude when she's swearing like a you-know-what??? Reputation, reputation, reputation! Everyone talks about everybody else. A LOT! And you don't need to be a famous actor for it. Why the heck are we on LS if not? Personal experience? Says WHO? I'll say whatever it is on my mind, thank you very much! for instance, I'll say that... blonde girls are hot in bed (and no, I have never had one in bed with me!) that's what I've heard!!!
blind_otter Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 At first when I read this thread title I thought, No. But my parents have been married 35 years and they are still very much in love. They almost divorced when I was 7, but they picked up and moved to a different city and made it through their rough spot. Both my older sisters have been with their husbands since they were 14/15 years old (they are 30 and 31 years old, now). I am envious of their relationships. I envy the stability and harmony. The partnership, how everything seems to melt together so fluidly and they can communicate their needs, circumstances, and emotional issues so clearly to each other. I've gone on vacation with these people before, I've lived with them (my sister and brother-in-law lived at my parent's house together when I was younger while they were in college), I've seen their private lives. haha, they didn't like it, but I saw it. There is no drama. It's quiet and serene. They don't seem to need big groups of friends, nights out on the town, or wildly romantic vacations to expensive resorts. They don't care what the other person looks like, and the husbands rubbed cocoa butter on their wives pregnant bellies. Don't get me wrong, they fight, but the underlying assumption is always that divorce is not an option. I've never had that, and I can guarantee it's MY issues that prevent a healthy relationship. Honestly, looking at them, I feel like I never will. It's ok, I can deal with reality. I accept it.
CurlyIam Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 BO, I've NEVER seen (or had) a relationship like the one you've described.
glow2 Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Hi CurlyIam.....thanks for your response - though I have no idea what you're talking about.
EnigmaXOXO Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 "Envy" implies that you see someone who is happy and say… "Man, that's nice. Sure wish we/I had that." But I think it's more along the lines of 'jealousy' when you see someone with something you want and feel resentful…wishing or imagining horrible things for that other person to make yourself feel better about your own situation. I think there's a problem with that and it means there's some "inside" work that needs to be addressed. No. I don't resent people for being happy or 'appearing' happy. As a matter of fact, I'd love to see MORE of it. Wish EVERYBODY was happy and in love with the right person for them!!
blind_otter Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Originally posted by EnigmaXOXO "Envy" implies that you see someone who is happy and say… "Man, that's nice. Sure wish we/I had that." But I think it's more along the lines of 'jealousy' when you see someone with something you want and feel resentful…wishing or imagining horrible things for that other person to make yourself feel better about your own situation. I think there's a problem with that and it means there's some "inside" work that needs to be addressed. No. I don't resent people for being happy or 'appearing' happy. As a matter of fact, I'd love to see MORE of it. Wish EVERYBODY was happy and in love with the right person for them!! I definately don't feel resentful of my parents' relationship! But I am jealous of it because I haven't been able to achieve it.
laRubiaBonita Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 i am kinda envious of a friend of mine. but it is more admiration than envy....... he and his wife are best friends. They tell each other everything and are totally there for each other.... i just think it is soo great and amazing that they can and are so open with each other..... i hope for that ....
CurlyIam Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Originally posted by *~*glow*~* Hi CurlyIam.....thanks for your response - though I have no idea what you're talking about. Sorry, too much cofeine today. I think that people's avatar is their own private business and IMO, it doesn't make their points invalid - you've said Donot didn't have a point because of her avvie. I use to have Lauren Baccal's pic as an avvie, and I couldn't care less about looks. I sometimes want to be percieved as the woman in that pic, because she looks classy, reserved, yet sexy in a weird way. Does it mean I'm shallow and that I embrace Hollywood's menthality? Hell, no! Then, I think it's impossible to speak out of our own experience. Everyone has an opinion about everything and you don't get to talk out of your personal experience. Everyone who says they do it ALL the time... I personally think they're full of crap .
EnigmaXOXO Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 I definitely don't feel resentful of my parents' relationship! But I am jealous of it because I haven't been able to achieve it. …and I don't "envy" my parent's relationship. As a matter of fact, I'm d*mn well determined to do mine better this time around!! Or at least die alone trying…
glow2 Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Originally posted by CurlyIam Then, I think it's impossible to speak out of our own experience. Everyone has an opinion about everything and you don't get to talk out of your personal experience. Everyone who says they do it ALL the time... I personally think they're full of crap . Ummm....there seems to be some kind of barrier here, I'm not sure what it is, but it's making you unable to comprehend what I wrote. But that's okay...no worries...most of the other posters are are giving their own opinions in answer to the OP's question...which is what I encouraged - and I don't feel 'they're full of crap'..... P.S. the rant was in respect to how some people post about celebrities, as if they have inside knowledge of all the intimate details of that person's life.
CurlyIam Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Don't take my words out of the context, please. I do think no one here can or does speak about things using /reffering exclusively to/ their personal experience. You said: "the rant was in respect to how some people post about celebrities, as if they have inside knowledge of all the intimate details of that person's life." Well, I haven't read her post about Drew, but if she insisted upon knowing ALL her intimate details, you probably were right. If you were reffering to her having a general image of Drew, that the media had formed about her as a celebrity, heck, I think everyone is guilty of doing that, even if those people never met in real life. Like I'll always think that Noami is acting like a jerk to her fellow-models 'cause she's known to kinda slap a lot of them. And I don't need to be on the catwalk to think so!
Moose Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Do you have to be the waiter serving J. Depp for him to leave you no tip to say that he's a cheap bastard?HEY! I resent that!
CurlyIam Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 Oh, I'm sorry, J. didn't know you were around! What I meant was... damn tabloids, always badmouthing everyone!
Merin Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 "Couple" I Envy... Ben & Jerry's... Who doesn't Love them!? Nobody has a perfect relationship... but pssshhhh get some icecream and fake it! JK JK JK I'm working on my own relationship all of the time.. so I don't have time to envy others.
Author Meatball Posted April 21, 2005 Author Posted April 21, 2005 Originally posted by blind_otter At first when I read this thread title I thought, No. But my parents have been married 35 years and they are still very much in love. They almost divorced when I was 7, but they picked up and moved to a different city and made it through their rough spot. Both my older sisters have been with their husbands since they were 14/15 years old (they are 30 and 31 years old, now). I am envious of their relationships. I envy the stability and harmony. The partnership, how everything seems to melt together so fluidly and they can communicate their needs, circumstances, and emotional issues so clearly to each other. I've gone on vacation with these people before, I've lived with them (my sister and brother-in-law lived at my parent's house together when I was younger while they were in college), I've seen their private lives. haha, they didn't like it, but I saw it. There is no drama. It's quiet and serene. They don't seem to need big groups of friends, nights out on the town, or wildly romantic vacations to expensive resorts. They don't care what the other person looks like, and the husbands rubbed cocoa butter on their wives pregnant bellies. Don't get me wrong, they fight, but the underlying assumption is always that divorce is not an option. I've never had that, and I can guarantee it's MY issues that prevent a healthy relationship. Honestly, looking at them, I feel like I never will. It's ok, I can deal with reality. I accept it. This is what I mean. People whom you personally know...not people on the streets whose relationship you get a glimpse of for 10 seconds. My grandparents have been married for 57 years and they still hold hands. My grandfather still takes her hand when they cross the street. They still feed each other. They still look at one another as if it's the first time they met.
whichwayisup Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 HEY! I resent that! Ben & Jerry's... Who doesn't Love them!? Yum Yum...
Jtizzle Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 Its just like shakespeare says: all the world is a stage and we are merely players (forgive me if i messed up the quotation horribly,11th grade was ages ago)....yes i agree with sum of the posters above about sum couples acting happy and in love for the public, but yet they go home to seperate bed/houses at nite.. when i was 15 and worked my first job at krogers there was this older couple who would come in every saturday afternoon and the lady would get a box of chocolates and flowers and they would kiss and hold hands while waiting for me to ring them up. if i had to be envious or idolize a relationship it would be theres, or older couples who have been married for 40 Plus years and who are still kickin it strong...those are the relationships i envy most. because it takes alot of patience, time and understanding to be with one person for that long amount of time. but if it came down to young love/lovers i think my relationships i have no and later until i find the right one, will be envied. because i choose dudes who have positive outlooks on life and can laugh and remain calm when life deals them the short end of the stick. My SO would and will be the one that we can go to toys r us and act like kids and buy whateva and we dont even have kids. we'll geniunely and sincerely have a good time together, that when people see us in the streets together, if they are on sites like LS and a thread like this comes up again, they will be mentioning us.
Dreamgirl03 Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 I also envy other couple..mostly i think because its always the really skinney barbie type girls getting the guys and i just feel like the guy i`m with is only with me because he knows me and feels bad for me...and then i look at all these other couples and see them all over each other and it just makes me wish i had that.
7on Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 I envy every relationship because I've never been in one.
nzchick Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 Originally posted by Three of Swords I have definate couple envy. Whenever I see two people looking happily at each other, or kissing each other (in public), I avert my eyes. Cause it reminds me of what I do not have. Sigh Me too! All of my ex bf's arent as mushy as I want them to be!
westernxer Posted April 24, 2005 Posted April 24, 2005 Originally posted by 7on I envy every relationship because I've never been in one. Don't worry... you'll have your turn.
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