Meatball Posted April 17, 2005 Posted April 17, 2005 Do you guys ever look at other couples and wish you had their kind of relationship? If so, what is it about them that you envy? For me, I get envious of couples who are wildly attracted and loving to one another. You know, very affectionate and always kissing and "mushy." I guess cuz my man and I have been together for two years and the sparks has died down a bit on his end. I reminisce of the good old days when he couldn't get enough of me. Nowadays, I could probably stand in front of him in lingerie and not get a "rise" out of him.
Lucky Dog Posted April 17, 2005 Posted April 17, 2005 I've only ever envied two other couples one was when I was younger and you could just see the beauty of their love eminate from them - unfortunately she had to leave the country and he was too chicken to give up his job/family/etc. to follow her second is a couple who I have known forever, and they just fit together so perfectly you honestly cannot imagine anyone else in the world for either of them every other couple I have ever met just seems like a convenient pairing up - I must be a pessimist because I only really think that only a very few people ever meet their exact match - it's so rare and beautiful that I really can't even envy it, it's beyond that - one can only admire the gods for getting it so right
johan Posted April 17, 2005 Posted April 17, 2005 I have in the past. But all those people broke up, so I don't envy them anymore. I was never aware of the reality of their relationships, and I probably wouldn't have wanted them if I was. The one relationship I can think of that I would model mine after is the one my grandparents had. They held hands all the way to the end.
Thinkalot Posted April 18, 2005 Posted April 18, 2005 Yes, i have in the past. But as I grow I am realising, nothing is ever as it seems. A couple who seem perfect, probably go home and have a huge fight ...or maybe they go home and dont talk...or maybe they dont make love anymore.... or maybe... etc No couple is perfect. That is a romantic illusion. Giving up that illusion is something I have only starting doing in recent years. It had to happen. otherwise I could have spent my life chasing an impossible dream.
cuties Posted April 18, 2005 Posted April 18, 2005 ah, yes. i completely hear you! after awhile, things are just not the same. you can have what you have and think that it's just great, but there's nothing like those first months when he can't get enough of you... and there's no worse place to go than IKEA when you're envying other couples 'cuz they're ALL over the store kissing/cuddling.
alphamale Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Originally posted by Meatball Do you guys ever look at other couples and wish you had their kind of relationship? No, and this is cause we know every relationship has its problems and none are perfect.
Author Meatball Posted April 19, 2005 Author Posted April 19, 2005 Obviously, no relationship is perfect. Every couple gets into fights. But there are some couples that just seem to be a perfect fit. There are some couples that are truly, genuinely happy and the positives far outweigh the negatives in their relationships. I envy those that seem to be on the same wavelength and have a real deep connection and just "get" one another. Those that smile from ear to ear when the other is around...undeniable chemistry. Those that are IN LOVE versus just loving one another. It's beautiful.
Three of Swords Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 I have definate couple envy. Whenever I see two people looking happily at each other, or kissing each other (in public), I avert my eyes. Cause it reminds me of what I do not have. Sigh but yeah ... I do realize that the next interaction they could have might be a nasty fight, break-up etc. I could always console myself with that ?
glow2 Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Do you guys envy other couples' relationships? Never. Nothing is as it appears. You don't know what goes on behind closed doors.
Moose Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Actually, I'm too busy paying attention to the couple in which I belong. That's more important to me than what other couples are dealing with. But if I had to choose one couple.....it would be the Reagan's. Nancy stood by her man to the end. Endured the days that even he didn't know who he was, who she was, or even where he was at.......she's a rock!
alphamale Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Originally posted by Moose But if I had to choose one couple.....it would be the Reagan's. Nancy stood by her man to the end. Endured the days that even he didn't know who he was, who she was, or even where he was at.......she's a rock! come on MOOSE! you really think Nanc was taking care of Ronnie's day-to-day personal care and medical needs? WTF! They had cooks, butlers, nurses, assistants, maids, orderlies. Jesus H. Khryst man!
laRubiaBonita Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Originally posted by Moose But if I had to choose one couple.....it would be the Reagan's. Nancy stood by her man to the end. Endured the days that even he didn't know who he was, who she was, or even where he was at.......she's a rock! Please! If every husband was like that in the end with massive amounts of money, i would stay by him too. Talk about reaping the benefits!
Moose Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Yeah, you guys go ahead and believe what you want to believe.......she loved that man a great deal. Didn't matter how much money he had....and yes, she did take care of him on a daily basis, ALPHAMALE........just because they had maids, orderlies, nurses, assistants......doesn't mean a blessed thing. Mrs. Moose and I have hired help too.....does that mean we don't love and take care of each other? Sometimes......take that back.....most of the time, I don't understand your logic.
tiki Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Hillary loves Bill too. Hell no, I don't envy relationships. Mine needs all of my attention I can spare.
Naive Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 No, actually I think we are one of the relationships that are envied by others!!!
alphamale Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Originally posted by Moose Sometimes......take that back.....most of the time, I don't understand your logic. the logic is that it's a much much easier situation to deal with if you have money, power and a LOT OF HELP. i would be more impressed with a spouse that did the same thing and stuck by an ailing husband if they were middle class and had she had little or no help. I don't dispute she loved him a lot.
JadeStar Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 I have to say I have been envous of a couple I know. Of course its my counselor and he uses his family as examples alot and has said that in his 22 year marriage its not always been the best it is now. Its work lots of work. There have been times though I felt he would use them as examples so much that I would think to myself, you know sometimes things aren't always what people make them out to be. However, I guess sometimes they are exactly what people say they are. Jade
EC Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 I was never envious of couples...but lately I have been but only because my bf is far away. So every time I see a couple out at dinner, or holding hands walking in the park..it reminds me that i have someone and I could be doing that but I can't because of the distance. Its really depressing.
GirlDown Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Originally posted by ~Naive~ No, actually I think we are one of the relationships that are envied by others!!! me too, naive. little to problems here. if we fight, we fight over the littlest things and end up laughing about them anyway. then we have sex. god, i love him. i think the most important thing in a relationship is a sense of humour...those who don't have it tend to be more envious of those that do.
GirlDown Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Originally posted by EC I was never envious of couples...but lately I have been but only because my bf is far away. So every time I see a couple out at dinner, or holding hands walking in the park..it reminds me that i have someone and I could be doing that but I can't because of the distance. Its really depressing. but at the same time, that couple may be taking for granted what they have and what they're doing, and it only makes you appreciate it more when it's your turn!
whichwayisup Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 I don't because the rule of thumb is - Ya never know what goes on behind closed doors in friends/families relationships. Some people put on fronts and make their relationships look more 'glamerous and affectionate' than it really is, a show for other people. I'm happy with my relationship. I don't compare it or wish it was like somebody elses as each of us are different and unique. And different dynamtics too.
Illusion24 Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 I'm never envious of anyones relationship...I just hope for the best whether it's a friend or someone I care about...I just want everyone to be happy and to be treated the way they should be... I try to make my relationships fun and exciting...I don't like to worry about others peoples relationship because nothings perfect, and I got my own s*** to worry about...
alphamale Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Originally posted by whichwayisup I don't because the rule of thumb is - Ya never know what goes on behind closed doors in friends/families relationships. Some people put on fronts and make their relationships look more 'glamerous and affectionate' than it really is, a show for other people. Exact-a-mundo WWIU. These are the "perfect" couples you read about in the newspaper where either the hubbie or wifey one day go insane and kill their kids and their spouse and then set the house and themsleves on fire.
whichwayisup Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 Exact-a-mundo WWIU. These are the "perfect" couples you read about in the newspaper where either the hubbie or wifey one day go insane and kill their kids and their spouse and then set the house and themsleves on fire. Two words...Amityville Horror!
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