Kitkatleen24 Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 So he said he fell out of love a month ago but there will NO SIGNS of it before it happens... It was sudden and within the next few days, we ended up in a breakup. He told me he was already moving on and talking to other girls. I don't understand, i can't even fathom the idea of dating yet he's "trying so hard" on online dating (i could see him online often, a guest can see it by searching). I was wondering if it was GIGS. before he met me, he wasn't even trying so hard at dating. I was his first love & everything... How could he move on so fast? 2 days ago when i told him i'm cutting him off totally from my life, he cried so hard and begged me to stay YET he's still on dating apps. He's not the kind who shows emotions so i was shocked that he cried. we dated for a year and this is the first time i see him do this. Due to me not being able to accept him using dating apps that much, i decided to cut him off.. He knew he was selfish, he needs me and wants me around BUT he don't want a relationship with me. That was the last straw. So i admit to stalking his online dating profile (i can't help it...) and realise he have been even more active. It hurts me to know that he can move on that fast yet tells me all those "lies" 2 days ago...
ravfour4 Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 Seems like he's very unsure of what he wants, def could be GIGS, but it may be someone you no longer want to be with if he's so indecisive.
Author Kitkatleen24 Posted April 16, 2015 Author Posted April 16, 2015 I guess it's due to lack of experience.. It just amazes me that after a year, a guy who always said he will love me forever just suddenly changed so quickly. How could he even talk to new girls now... I've been on nc day 2, and it's so hard. For my past relationships, i was only able to move on if i found someone new... But now I don't even want to date at all.
Toodaloo Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 No its not no contact. You are tourturing yourself by looking at his profile! Get a grip. Your ex told lies (that he loved you), was flakey and not at all what you thought he was. Come on girl time to learn what the word "gumption" means. Have a cry, pick yourself up and make a plan to move forward. 1
PegNosePete Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 How could he move on so fast? Chances are... he didn't move on so fast. He told you he was falling out of love a month ago but chances are that he was feeling it for many months before that. So he has come much further along the moving on path than you have, because he got a head start. So i admit to stalking his online dating profile (i can't help it...) Yes you CAN help it. Are you not in control of your own actions? If you can't resist the temptation then get a net blocker app and block that website. You need to NC his ass ASAP and that means you do NOT check up on his dating profile! 3
Reality015 Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 So i admit to stalking his online dating profile (i can't help it...) and realise he have been even more active. It hurts me to know that he can move on that fast yet tells me all those "lies" 2 days ago... Please don't stalk him online or in any form. You need to go NC & move on with your life. It's not about him this is about you. The longer you hold onto him the longer it will take for you to move forward & get over him. If he tries to contact you the fastest way to get over him is to block him out of your life 1
Fufu Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 He's just not that into you. Block and delete his profile because stalking can turn into obsession and it will be challenging to kick off the habit. 1
Author Kitkatleen24 Posted April 17, 2015 Author Posted April 17, 2015 Hi guys. Back for an update. So he contacted me due to a gift that I sent him (it was postponed & I forgot about it). He asked me what is it for and its not a consolation for not having me. And next moment, I checked that he was online & even updated his profile. So I'm over him. It makes me mad and disgusted at how two-faced he is now. Such a good liar. I finally sees his true colours. I didn't even bother to reply despite how mad I am. Because I don't find a point in it. It's his loss. I was real to him, I loved him more than anything. I don't feel sad, I feel sad for him as he gave up on someone who would never had given up on him. It still hurts me as I'm disappointed that the guy who I thought was the one turns out to be such a loser. I hope everyone here who's dealing with a break up will realise what they deserve. I'm on day 3 NC. And it's a week since the breakup. I mean it's kinda early to be over him, probably I'll slip back to pain tomorrow but for now I'm feeling so much better. I'm not his back up plan & I refuse to be one. But despite everything, I still wishes him all the best. But I won't contact him anymore. 1
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