gd1039 Posted April 17, 2005 Posted April 17, 2005 Ok, for those of you that remember my recent post, and those of you that don't, heres a brief background. There is a girl who I really like, and she likes me, but she's recovering from anorexia so we are just staying friends right now. It kinda sucks, because I can sit there talking with her and I know how much I like her and that I can't do anything about it right now. Well, we were talking about random roadtrips today and she said her friends from her old school wanted her to come visit (5 1/2 hrs away). We both like roadtrips and she asked me if I wanted to go so, as it stands we are going this weekend. Now, I'm not so sure this is a good idea that I go. I know that this isn't going to be some hookup trip or anything and I'm not going to try either. I guess the main reason I don't know if it is a good idea is simply because I don't want to get my hopes up by looking to much into things. I'd like to think the reason she asked me is partly because she wants to visit her friends and partly because she actually wants to go with me, but it could be just so she can visit her friends and has someone to drive so she doesn't have to take the train. Overall, I guess I see this "friends" thing right now as more than friends but less than dating. I also see it as a chance for her to get to know me better (and me her) and hopefully like one another more. I know I shouldn't read into every little thing she does, but it is hard not to, and that is why I'm not sure if I should just forget going... What do you think?
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 How do you expect to transition from friends to something more with out putting time into this. 5 1/2 hours in a car alone? Thats a lot of getting to know each other. What do you have to lose? Be spontaneous! Have fun and take chances! God Luck!
Cecelius Posted April 21, 2005 Posted April 21, 2005 Go and make sure to bring your best cheap moves. Touch her, flirt with her, etc. -- she may be getting over this ailment, but you will get nowhere if you sit there on your hands.
HotCaliGirl Posted April 22, 2005 Posted April 22, 2005 Your gut is telling you that she is inviting you so that she doesn't have to pay for a train and instead have someone drive her. You might end up feeling hurt if she doesn't show more-than-friends feelings towards you and you feel used. On the other hand, you'll never know unless you go and take that risk. Make sure you feed her so she doesn't starve herself again. Maybe she can't travel alone, thinking she won't feed herself.
Author gd1039 Posted April 22, 2005 Author Posted April 22, 2005 Ihavenofreakinclue and hotcaligirl - you both made the best points. I think me thinking that she was only inviting me so she wouldn't have to take the train was just me overthinking things. We decided that if this wasn't a good weekend to go visit her friends that we were going to go somewhere else instead this weekend. I decided that I would go, but some stuff came up this weekend and the trips got called off. The semester ends in a couple weeks though, so once exams are done we are going to take a road trip somewhere. This might actually be better because now we won't have to be so rushed to drive somewhere and come back the next day.
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