LooperDooper Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 I'm doing well been alright but it really sinks in seeing your ex skip class and walk in late with her new guy (she lives right beside the university). Just imagine what they were doing. I know I've said I'm going to be a new person for me but this hurts like hell and I'm in class now attempting to be alright. Give me strength and hope this girl who deserves nothing somehow leaves my life.
ZiggyZoo Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 Fake it 'till you make it. I feel for you, I used to have to see the whore my ex-husband cheated on me with and left me for almost every weekend when he got the kids. He'd show up late deliberately and have his shoes all untied, or his shirt inside out, knowing that I assumed they'd just had sex (this was based on a conversation we had had while still together about a friend of mine who pulled the same sh*t) I was telling my sister about it, crying, and her response changed everything. She kind of snorted and rolled her eyes and said something like "Obvious much? What a f*cking loser." It made me see how ridiculous it was I'm not saying your ex is doing it to deliberately rile you, of course, but really...obvious much? What a f*cking loser. Hang in there. I know it kills, but I think that having to see your ex kind of hardens you to them that much quicker. 1
Author LooperDooper Posted April 15, 2015 Author Posted April 15, 2015 It's seriously frustrating. I mean I try and do everything I can to feel good and it works perfectly and then it just goes all back to crap. I've done everything on my part and keep doing it, but every time I see her and now having to see her with her new mate just brings me down for a few days (of course those few days I avoid her as much as possible). But I am so frustrated that I know I can be well on my way if I didn't have to do this every day of seeing her. Like I wouldn't be with a girl close up if I had one just out of respect for her, but I guess I have a much different heart than most people. It's just very very frustrating that I can't seem to get past this because I can't erase her from my life. Don't know how, don't know when, but I seriously hope something makes her disappear from my life like now, if not physically then emotionally and mentally. And ASAP please because this is frustrating me.
fireflywy Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 (edited) Listen to an old man. You are hurting, this is true. You were with this girl and she has someone else. This is also true. You may perhaps feel that you won't find anyone else or won't be happy. Dude, you are in the greatest time of your life. You may not want to date but NOW you are in a golden period of your life. Don't waste it on this woman. Do whatever you have to do, but get out there as soon as you can. If you don't, chances are you will look back on these days and go "Wth? I could have met so many new and wondeful people in college and I only thought about her!" Hell, a lot of us question what we were thinking in college and what we missed even when we DIDNT have heartache. Heed this advice! Dont resist it. Dont say "But you dont understand!" Dont mope, dont hesitate, dont close yourself. Let it be a gift young man. Let this advice be your bible. "I am in a golden age. I wont waste it on her and miss out." Now go and know that she won't be around forever but your regrets and lost opportunities outside of this girl will be. Edited April 16, 2015 by fireflywy
ravfour4 Posted April 16, 2015 Posted April 16, 2015 Damn, that sounds rough man I feel for you. My ex after almost 4 years left and texted the dude in front of me, but always lied about it rather than flaunting it. I can't imagine what it would have been like seeing her walk out to his car everyday. Try to sit in the front row or somewhere where you can't see her walk in and don't look back and make sure you don't have any classes together going forward. It will get much easier when you don't have to see her.
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