MistaYates Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 My ex girlfriend left me for her old boyfriend. I was her rebound, but i loved her so much. But now i have this terrible thought every single night when i go to bed. I think, here i am, alone, staring at the ceiling, thinking about her, and missing her. While she on the other hand is probably getting plowed till her brains fall out from this guy, and she's loving every single second of it. I ****ing hate that. How pathetic is that. I'm alone, she got what she wanted out of me, cheated on me with him but also cheated on him with me without me knowing lol. Seems like she's getting it all and im still ****ing alone crying about all this. I can't even look at chicks the same way because im still so in love with her.. Anyone else have this?
jen1447 Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 It's normal. The greater likelihood is she's more affected by it than you think, even if she's not as bad off as you. The feeling will go away after a while.
Omei Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 Your love for her is going to go away when you realize you want a woman who doesn't cheat on you and actually want that for yourself, you'll see her in a different light in the near future.
GemmaUK Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 This is not normal, upset yes but thinking as you do is not normal. Don't dwell. Be happy in your life single or learn from this RS but don't dwell. It's a total waste of your energy and time! Get out, get life moving again. You are the one who is able to control your reactions. Control this one - use the bad stuff to make good stuff happen for yourself. She was never for you, you are better off free now and able to find a woman who wants you for you!!
Methodical Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 Feeling like someone has intentionally toyed with your emotions or strung you along hurts. Betrayal sucks. Holding onto this grudge is keeping you from meeting someone worthy of your affection. Time will help, but so will going out and meeting new people.
Author MistaYates Posted April 15, 2015 Author Posted April 15, 2015 I cant even stay home anymore. I'm out all the time with my friends just so im not home thinking about her. Thats literally the only reason i go out. Just so im not alone, and someone is talking to me and being my friend. But there are times where im sitting in bed, alone, and all i think about is my one and only love getting nailed by her old boyfriend. Its destroying me, and i try so hard to get it to go away.
Omei Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 I cant even stay home anymore. I'm out all the time with my friends just so im not home thinking about her. Thats literally the only reason i go out. Just so im not alone, and someone is talking to me and being my friend. But there are times where im sitting in bed, alone, and all i think about is my one and only love getting nailed by her old boyfriend. Its destroying me, and i try so hard to get it to go away. Most people go through everything you just described during a heart ache. Going out more often with friends is normal, and it's good keep them close, if your friends are being there (sound like they are since you're going out all the time) then you have some good ones
Gaeta Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 But there are times where im sitting in bed, alone, and all i think about is my one and only love getting nailed by her old boyfriend. Its destroying me, and i try so hard to get it to go away. Those feelings are normal and we all go through it with each heartbreak. So each time these thoughts are coming back tell yourself to STOP and purposely redirect your thoughts toward something else. Something like : My life if a blank canvas in front of me, what do I want to make of it? You want to meet a woman that will love you and respect you, someone that will fully understand the meaning of commitment, someone that will make you feel even more special than the last one.
TouchedByViolet Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 Dude... ****ing man up and get another girl. According to your post history the breakup was like 6 months ago and you were only together for 6 months... You are both young. Life is full of attractive women. I'm sure another will want you. On and upwards.
Methodical Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 Glad to hear you are going out with friends. It hurts because she was your first and only. There will likely be more before you actually find "the one," but the first is always the hardest.
Author MistaYates Posted April 15, 2015 Author Posted April 15, 2015 (edited) Dude... ****ing man up and get another girl. According to your post history the breakup was like 6 months ago and you were only together for 6 months... You are both young. Life is full of attractive women. I'm sure another will want you. On and upwards. No man. We got back together and she did the same **** again lol. Now im here again. Edited April 15, 2015 by MistaYates
fitnessfan365 Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 How's that saying go? "The best way to get over somebody, is to get behind someone else." But yeah man, it definitely sucks and it's natural to miss someone. However, at least now you'll learn from your mistakes and not get involved with a woman that's on the rebound, or that leaves somebody else to be with you, etc.. Hopefully now the next woman you get involved with, will be fully single with her last relationship behind her. Good luck to you.
Author MistaYates Posted April 16, 2015 Author Posted April 16, 2015 How's that saying go? "The best way to get over somebody, is to get behind someone else." But yeah man, it definitely sucks and it's natural to miss someone. However, at least now you'll learn from your mistakes and not get involved with a woman that's on the rebound, or that leaves somebody else to be with you, etc.. Hopefully now the next woman you get involved with, will be fully single with her last relationship behind her. Good luck to you. Thats the thing man. I wish i could do that, but im still so stuck on her.
Author MistaYates Posted April 16, 2015 Author Posted April 16, 2015 Its been 3 weeks NC. Still wonder about her everyday, and still miss her alot. Still cant get over this..
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