Hiding feelings from a crush is a sign of respect

[Adrian88]

Especially for men crushing on a woman it is a sign of respect for a man to keep his crush feelings private as long as possible. Men who are quick to reveal their feelings to their crush and wear their feelings on their sleeve show they have no respect for her. It tells her that you value your feelings more than hers and have not at least thought to consider the possibility that she does not feel the same way and that perhaps telling her how you feel could attack her comfort level and damage the friendship.

 

When a man such as myself goes to great lengths to conceal my feelings from my crush even to the point of making it appear to mutual friends that I do not like her in a sexual or romantic way then I am respecting her. I am being considerate that just because I feel a certain way does not mean she feels the same way. By hiding my feelings I do not presume how she feels or project my high interest on her and I am looking at things with an unbiased mindset.

 

So if you have a crush on someone and you are not sure what to do then do nothing and keep your feelings private. This way you can't do anything wrong. If you feel tempted to do special favors for them then make sure you are willing to do it for other coworkers and friends at the same time so that your crush does not suspect anything.

 

These rules especially apply to men who work in occupations as police inspectors. Police inspectors especially have an obligation to hide their crush feelings.

Edited April 15, 2015 by Adrian88

[pteromom]

I disagree, unless you are in a situation where there is no possible way the crush would date you.

 

If she's married, or if you are her supervisor or student, or if she's your best friend's GF, then YES, keep your mouth shut and never admit your feelings.

 

But if it is someone you could actually date, I would recommend approaching her and asking for that date ASAP. Don't let the crush linger until it is larger than life, and the fear of rejection from the person is crippling. Just go for it.

 

If she says no, you can MOVE ON, rather than wasting weeks, months, or years pining for someone secretly.

[Hawaii51]

Just because you did it, Adrian88, or think that it's respectable and the right course of action, doesn't make it so.

 

It's unfortunate you don't really understand what a crush is.

[Frank2thepoint]

This sounds exactly like some member by name of Darren, or something, used to say in his posts. Is there some kind of cult surrounding this type of thought?