Sybil562 Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 I don't mean straight-up gold digging, like using someone to buy designer clothing and shoes or take ridiculous vacations. And I don't mean being supported by someone either. But I mean, maybe being with someone who has a really good job, makes good/great/even a lot of money, and has the ability to buy a nice house or something. Is that wrong?
PogoStick Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 Well, what kind of job and income do you provide?
clia Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 It's wrong if that's the only reason you are with him. 1
Jessie1231 Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 If you love someone who happens to have a lot of money, then no that isn't wrong. If you're dating someone strictly for their money then yes, that seems wrong. My last boyfriend was rich. He loved traveling like I do, so we would take the most amazing trips. It was great. The problem was that our relationship was a train wreck, and no amount of money could have fixed that.
Gary S Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 As long as you love him - Exactly. That said, find someone who is better off than you and you'll have less problems. Now where did my sugar mamma go to?!
changchewsoon Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 There is nothing wrong in wanting to date a person whose financially stable and could provide, provided that this is not the only reason why you are dating him. You could always do a bit of role playing and ask yourself how would you think/feel if he asks you in return what do you have to put on the table?
PumpkinLumpkin Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 I am accustomed to a certain lifestyle that my ex provided me with, and when we split, I managed to recreate that lifestyle on my own. I went on a date with someone who drove a 30-year-old unreliable truck and still used a VCR. Nice guy, but it was a deal breaker for me. Am I gold digger? I don't think so. But I want someone who will be able to provide me what I'm accustomed to…equal or better. And I am not accustomed to pushing an old truck down the street at 3:00 a.m. in the morning.
writergal Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 I am accustomed to a certain lifestyle that my ex provided me with, and when we split, I managed to recreate that lifestyle on my own. I went on a date with someone who drove a 30-year-old unreliable truck and still used a VCR. Nice guy, but it was a deal breaker for me. Am I gold digger? I don't think so. But I want someone who will be able to provide me what I'm accustomed to…equal or better. And I am not accustomed to pushing an old truck down the street at 3:00 a.m. in the morning. Yikes. That would be a deal breaker for me too, and I drive a 15 year old car (that has never broken down fortunately). Financial security to me, is defined as he's a good money manager. Whatever amount that he has, he doesn't waste it or hoard it, but spends and saves it wisely. I don't need gadgets. I grew up middle class, so I'm ok with that level of comfort. I know some couples who have as many as 3 tvs, multiple ipads, multiple cellphones, etc. and none of that interests me as much as spending money on experiences and travel, which I prefer. 1
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