logan415 Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 Is OkCupid fake? Is it full of bots because I got about 17 views since I open my account few weeks ago. I also got about 9 likes and one of the likes I decide to message her but never heard anything back from her so I assume she was a bot. Recently, this quite attractive Filipino liked my profile and I like hers in return but never sent her a message if she is real. I'm beginning to think this site is a complete joke and a scam even though its free but certain features you want you have to pay. I have Indian mixed along with other racial backgrounds in me and its way too hard to believe that American women will even have the slightest interest in me.
shvrk Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 How is your profile? Pictures? Answer any of the questions for matches? Sorry for assuming, but I assume you might be a guy. I've heard that guys on those site don't receive much attention at all. Personally I think OkCupid is a joke. I have, however seen people on there that are also on POF and have spoken to them so it's not fake. A lot of people also do not take those sites seriously either, looking for hookups etc...
ascendotum Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 huh. you jump to this conclusion just because 1 girl did not respond to you. lol Welcome to OLD. Lots of guys have found just because a women looked at your profile or even liked does not man they they will initiate a message or even respond to your message. I know it seems weird for a women to like your profile but then ignore your msg but yeah it happens to guys. Plenty of guys need to send out dozens of msgs before they get a response. $ subscription sites have the greater incentive to have fake female profiles.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 I dated a girl off OK Cupid before... Its real
fitnessfan365 Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 That site is notorious for having "chatters".However, that's not to say there aren't women on there to date. There are plenty that I have gone out with on OKC. You just have to be selective and observant. 1) If she responds without viewing your profile, delete it. 2) If her response only answers your question and says noting else, delete it. 3) If she hasn't asked you at least one thing about yourself within three emails, delete her. 4) If you've exchanged 3-5 emails, ask for her number, and she says "I still want to email more" delete her. But if she views your profile, sends a good first email, and makes an effort to get to know you as well within three emails, ask for her number. If she gives it to you, text her so she has your number. Then set a time to call, call her, and if she's cool, make plans. 2
writergal Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 Online dating websites aren't fake. But they do have fake profiles that are active or inactive. Match.com has had lawsuits filed against it for alleged fake profiles which is just Match's way of keeping the online dater hooked via winks and fake messages sent (not to be confused with the scammer messages sent from Nigeria asking you for money). You can spot a fake profile several ways; most fake profiles aren't completely filled out; if their profile says something like "ask me and I'll tell you" that's a good chance that the profile is fake; the faker scammers will bombard your online dating inbox with poorly spelled messages that describe you as handsome or beautiful, or will ask you for money, or won't respond to your direct questions, or will send you a blanket email that doesn't address anything specific about your profile. If someone you message doesn't respond back to the email you sent them, there is a 50/50 chance the profile you messaged is completely fake. There aren't as many real people using online dating as the websites make you believe because of the high amount of ghost profiles (inactive profiles of members, or totally fake profiles of non members). So when you come across a profile you like, it's hard to verify if that profile is written by a real person who lives in your city and who is who they say that they are.
ZA Dater Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 Is OkCupid fake? Is it full of bots because I got about 17 views since I open my account few weeks ago. I also got about 9 likes and one of the likes I decide to message her but never heard anything back from her so I assume she was a bot. Recently, this quite attractive Filipino liked my profile and I like hers in return but never sent her a message if she is real. I'm beginning to think this site is a complete joke and a scam even though its free but certain features you want you have to pay. I have Indian mixed along with other racial backgrounds in me and its way too hard to believe that American women will even have the slightest interest in me. Definitely not fake, I met one person off Okcupid
Toodaloo Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 I have met more people through OK Cupid than another site I was on... Not fake...
Toodaloo Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 That site is notorious for having "chatters".However, that's not to say there aren't women on there to date. There are plenty that I have gone out with on OKC. You just have to be selective and observant. 1) If she responds without viewing your profile, delete it. 2) If her response only answers your question and says noting else, delete it. 3) If she hasn't asked you at least one thing about yourself within three emails, delete her. 4) If you've exchanged 3-5 emails, ask for her number, and she says "I still want to email more" delete her. But if she views your profile, sends a good first email, and makes an effort to get to know you as well within three emails, ask for her number. If she gives it to you, text her so she has your number. Then set a time to call, call her, and if she's cool, make plans. I would add "get on with it" to this list. If you ask her on a date, she says yes and gives you time she is available, get on a book one of them... don't leave it for a few days get on with it. The men I have "flaked" on are the ones who don't get on with it. 1
Author logan415 Posted April 15, 2015 Author Posted April 15, 2015 I had one fake lady profile reach out to me. She gave me her number in a message and said she looking for FWB.
PegNosePete Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 The site itself is not fake. The individual users, well, use your judgement.
kendahke Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 Not in my experience on there. Then again, it may be the age group you're seeking.
SycamoreCircle Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 No, definitely not fake. Flooded with spam? Yes. I would say it's still a valid way to get a date. Just requires some perseverance.
Author logan415 Posted April 17, 2015 Author Posted April 17, 2015 I get replies on FDating which is a foreign dating website. So this must mean I should quit trying in America and go overseas. I met a girl online who lives in Belarus and she admitted she is interested in me so I'm planning to go see her later this year. Never thought a Eastern European girl would have any interest in me especially when I have brown skin.
MissBee Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 Is OkCupid fake? Is it full of bots because I got about 17 views since I open my account few weeks ago. I also got about 9 likes and one of the likes I decide to message her but never heard anything back from her so I assume she was a bot. Recently, this quite attractive Filipino liked my profile and I like hers in return but never sent her a message if she is real. I'm beginning to think this site is a complete joke and a scam even though its free but certain features you want you have to pay. I have Indian mixed along with other racial backgrounds in me and its way too hard to believe that American women will even have the slightest interest in me. The site isn't fake. For the area I live in, it's actually a little annoying, because I see all kinds of people from my school on there lol, so I know it's real because I see tons of real people I know on there. I've also had dates from there. I'm a little confused about what your insecurities about your racial background and "American women" have to do with OkCupid...
DoesntGetIt Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 That site is notorious for having "chatters".However, that's not to say there aren't women on there to date. There are plenty that I have gone out with on OKC. You just have to be selective and observant. 1) If she responds without viewing your profile, delete it. 2) If her response only answers your question and says noting else, delete it. 3) If she hasn't asked you at least one thing about yourself within three emails, delete her. 4) If you've exchanged 3-5 emails, ask for her number, and she says "I still want to email more" delete her. But if she views your profile, sends a good first email, and makes an effort to get to know you as well within three emails, ask for her number. If she gives it to you, text her so she has your number. Then set a time to call, call her, and if she's cool, make plans. Worth pointing out if you pay for whatever they call their upgraded status, you have the option of viewing profiles without showing up on the view list. So people can view you without you knowing which makes you #1 point not 100% correct. I used that for a bit because I noticed a few coworkers were on there and I was curious about their profile but didn't want to create an awkward situation. Occasionally I forgot to hit the button that let's you show up as a view when viewing anonymous before sending a message. All of that said, I got several dates very quickly off of OkCupid. None of them turned into a relationship and I since got tired of it and turned off my profile, but I found 99% of the profiles to be the real deal. There are strategies on the internet on how to be more successful when online dating. One of those, unfortunately, is to like every profile you look at whether you actually like it or not. Many people seem to follow this so you will get likes that will never respond to messages.
Jame22 Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 It is not a scam. However it is a huge waste of time. You're better off using apps like Tinder where the girl actually has to approve you first. Girls on POF and OKC get so many messages it's not even funny. Chances are they'll never even read them. In 3 years I've had a grand total of 2 dates combined on OKC and POF. Via tinder i've had probably somewhere around 15. I recently deleted OKC. Like I said before, it's a waste of time.
Author logan415 Posted April 17, 2015 Author Posted April 17, 2015 It is not a scam. However it is a huge waste of time. You're better off using apps like Tinder where the girl actually has to approve you first. Girls on POF and OKC get so many messages it's not even funny. Chances are they'll never even read them. In 3 years I've had a grand total of 2 dates combined on OKC and POF. Via tinder i've had probably somewhere around 15. I recently deleted OKC. Like I said before, it's a waste of time. I could never use tinder because its only based on looks and my looks way below average. If I was a good looking guy I would give it a shot but giving I'm naturally an ugly guy I won't even have the slightest chance.
neowulf Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 well I went on a date last night with a girl I ment from OKCupid, so I'm guessing at least *some* of them are real
DoesntGetIt Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 I could never use tinder because its only based on looks and my looks way below average. If I was a good looking guy I would give it a shot but giving I'm naturally an ugly guy I won't even have the slightest chance. They all are based on looks. Even OkCupid released studies of results on their site that showed it is 99% looks. People browse the photos first, then if they're interested, they'll glance at the profile real quick. When you message a woman, the very first thing she does is look at your pics. If she isn't feeling it she moves on. Hell a lot of the time if the picture that comes up alongside the message (your main pic) isn't interesting enough, they won't even go to your profile. It is how life works unfortunately, dating goes by looks first, then personality and character. Which is exactly why the vast majority of dates don't work out. It should be the other way around, but it isn't. 1
Jame22 Posted April 17, 2015 Posted April 17, 2015 I could never use tinder because its only based on looks and my looks way below average. If I was a good looking guy I would give it a shot but giving I'm naturally an ugly guy I won't even have the slightest chance. Improve yourself. Workout and get in shape if you're not already, find some nice clothes and keep trying. That's all you can do.
Author logan415 Posted April 18, 2015 Author Posted April 18, 2015 Improve yourself. Workout and get in shape if you're not already, find some nice clothes and keep trying. That's all you can do. I'm slim. Here is the issue no everyone can have six pack of abs just like everyone will not be engineers. As far dressing goes, all I can say is I do my best. If a relationship is all about physical appearance then that tells you a lot about America. However, I been on FDating which is a site to meet women overseas mainly in Russia, Ukraine, Belarus, Poland and many others. I been getting few messages and mroe views. I'm currently in contact with a woman from Belarus which means that women over there are way less superficial than in America. I'm thinking of forgetting American women and go abroad. Women in America have ridiculous expectations that are beyond this world.
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