Do you think that if someone truly wants you back, they will swallow their pride

[Jay13094]

... no matter how high it is? Or do you believe that just become one of those "the one that got away". Do you think men/woman regret later on leaving a relationship that made each other happy for lust and infatuation for another person?

 

 

 

4 months post break-up. Dated only 2 months that moved very very quickly and as much as i hate to admit, started to fall in love with. He was in constant contact with me, not to "get back together" but to hang out and be "friends". He would still reach out even tho i told him to give me time. Just an assumption but seemed like he has too much pride and was also lying to himself for not liking me anymore, he said he wasn't ready for a relationship which I understood but he doesn't know what he wants. Am i abnormal? I'm grieving over someone I wish to still be with longer than I actually was with them. (I ended things b/c he was "seeing" someone behind my back, we were in a exclusive but not official relationship, hence I want to be with him but know I deserve better and he seems to not care now)

 

I'm having my "lows" again. think about him constantly and i just wish time could move faster so i can get over him

[HeartOfAPhoenix]

yes, IF they want you back they will swallow their pride.

 

 

But if it was meant to be, you shouldn't be in the position to ask this question... call me a romantic... "seeing someone behind your back" isn't someone you want to devote yourself to.

[elaine567]

... no matter how high it is? Or do you believe that just become one of those "the one that got away". Do you think men/woman regret later on leaving a relationship that made each other happy for lust and infatuation for another person

4 months post break-up. Dated only 2 months that moved very very quickly and as much as i hate to admit, started to fall in love with. He was in constant contact with me, not to "get back together" but to hang out and be "friends". He would still reach out even tho i told him to give me time. Just an assumption but seemed like he has too much pride and was also lying to himself for not liking me anymore, he said he wasn't ready for a relationship which I understood but he doesn't know what he wants. Am i abnormal? I'm grieving over someone I wish to still be with longer than I actually was with them. (I ended things b/c he was "seeing" someone behind my back, we were in a exclusive but not official relationship, hence I want to be with him but know I deserve better and he seems to not care now)

 

I'm having my "lows" again. think about him constantly and i just wish time could move faster so i can get over him

 

I very much doubt he is holding back due to pride.

YOU ended things but essentially he dumped you first by seeing someone else, dumpers often want to be friends with exes as they are not usually emotionally involved any longer, they may miss the connection, but mostly they want to make thenselves feel better over hurting someone else, " See, I didn't really hurt them that much, we are still friends, we can still hang out" BUT it is a big BUT they do not usually want to get back with the dumpee.

His guy cheated on you and he said he didn't want to be in a relationship with you, believe him.

Do not be a FWB in the hope he will take you back, that will lead to even more heart ache for you.

[Jay13094]

YOU ended things but essentially he dumped you first by seeing someone else, dumpers often want to be friends with exes as they are not usually emotionally involved any longer, they may miss the connection, but mostly they want to make thenselves feel better over hurting someone else, " See, I didn't really hurt them that much, we are still friends, we can still hang out" BUT it is a big BUT they do not usually want to get back with the dumpee.

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man.... i really needed to hear this. Thank you so much for putting this back in my head before i made a huge mistake lol. I always forget to see it in the light that he "dumped" me first even though i technically "ended it" so to him, being friends is no big deal since ur right, he wasn't emotionally invested in me anymore. and yes i do really believe that he wants to make himself feel better cz he does feel bad and is sorry about hurting me.. hence the whole "we're still friends and can chill" comes into play. Thank you<3

[Nolan 93]

If someone truly wants you back they will forgive and go through any obstacle to be with you.

 

When my ex dumped me for her ex, she still has feelings for me I can still see that. But she would rather try again with her high school sweetheart, she never wanted to be friends since the break up. I will not be her friend until I want her as a friend and honestly that will be never. Even years from now nope, why would I go through all of this fo be friendzoned nope.

 

But I know her to an extent and she still has feelings for me, but to me it means nothing. Never be friends if you still have feelings for them is the point lol

[ZiggyZoo]

I wonder this sometimes about MY ex. But I came to the conclusion that if their pride is more important than being with me, I deserve better anyway. I'm sorry things are down for you at the moment. Just hang in there, you'll be on the up again, right?

[LifeNomad]

OP to answer your question, if someone really wants to be with you, YOU would be their pride and there would be nothing to "swallow"

 

 

 

 

when someone says they have too much pride to ask you back its just another way of saying they don't want you unfortunately.

[Throldur]

I certainly hope so... that's going to be the biggest hurdle for my ex when her Ontario-excursion ends.