Hesjustnotthatin2u Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 (edited) I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months now. He asked me officially to be his girlfriend only two months ago. Before we were official, we would talk all day long, and see each other maybe 3 times a week, which is a lot for me and my schedule but I loved every second of it. He warned me a couple months ago, that come spring, he would be extremely busy and it would be a tough couple of months to get through. He's finishing his last semester of grad school, he coaches three baseball teams, and he works, and he lives an hour away. I get it, he's busy. The past few weeks, I've been seeing him get busier and busier. We went to hanging out only once a week, but still texting non stop with a few phone calls, to now it's hanging out once every week and a half or so. He used to say things like, 'I can't wait to see you' or 'I miss you!', ect, if a period of time went by where we couldn't see each other. I'm trying my best to be understanding of his hectic schedule, but it's getting to be a lot. Over the past week, no longer do I get my usual 'good morning baby' text messages or 'goodnight love' goodnight's. Maybe I'll get a text by mid afternoon, and then maybe one later that night. Nothing nice or sweet, just something about his text he took or baseball game he coached. I've been the one initiated conversations, asking him about school and work and how his days going. He usually gives me a grumpy 2-3 word response, and doesn't ever ask how my day is going in return. Yesterday, he hadn't texted me all day like he usually does. Until about ten at night he said, 'not gonna talk to me today?' and I said, 'I figured you were busy.. so I didn't want to bother you, didn't hear from you all day.' and he replied, 'It's a two way street!'. I guess he had a point. But we barely talked much that night and then he just went to bed. This morning, I tried to give more of an effort and take his two way street advice into consideration. So I texted him in the afternoon in the middle of my 12 hour work day and asked how his day was going. He said he was swamped in reading material for his class. I commented, and that was it. I texted him again tonight, and asked when he'd be free again so I could see him. His response: 'No time in the foreseeable future.' Ok. He then said, 'sorry this is just a lot for me right now, I have too much going on.' And I just said, 'I understand that, but you can act slightly interested.' I'm trying not be a jerk. But from my perspective, it's killing me and I can't act like it doesn't bother me anymore. I couldn't hold it in anymore. I UNDERSTAND that he's busy. SO AM I! But can I just get a 'hey babe I hope your day is going well!' or something!? Anything to let me know he's still there and thinking of me? I get that times are tough, and I'm not shunning his schedule.. but I just feel like he hasn't given any effort. What do I do? Baseball ends in a month a half, and that will free up a little more of his time, but school doesn't end till July... do I just wait around like a bump on a log and wait for him to hit me up when he's good and ready? Maybe I'm just a bad girlfriend. Maybe I'm not understanding enough. I just need to know that he still cares, busy or not. Edited April 15, 2015 by Hesjustnotthatin2u
fitnessfan365 Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 (edited) It seems like he was being passive aggressive in avoiding you, because he feels you're not initiating enough. Then he finally told you what was bothering him. So if you make more of an effort to intiate communication and plan things once and awhile, he'll be happy again. I mean looking at it objectively, it does seem like you make it all about you. You want him to constantly make an effort to validate his feelings. However hasn't he proven himself by now? I mean, this is your BF you've been with for six months. It's not a guy that you're casually dating. So instead of constantly making him put in all the work to prove himself, you need to start taking more of an active intetest. As he says, it works both ways. Edited April 15, 2015 by fitnessfan365
katiegrl Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 >>I texted him *again* tonight, and asked when he'd be free so I could see him. His response "no time in the foreseeable future. Sorry this is just a lot for me right now, I have too much going on."<< --------- OP, this your cue to back off. Stop texting him, stop initiating. He has no time for you, or more accurately, he is too busy to make time for you? Then what "you" do is get busy yourself. As I said just pull back...quietly. Meaning, don't tell him you are pulling back, just pull back. Don't ask him when he is free, don't do anything. Maybe he will miss you, maybe not. But hanging around waiting for him to give a shyt isn't doing you any good, so I don't really see as you have a choice here. His comment "it's a two way street"? Calling BS on that one. You are doing MORE than enough, HE is the one who is "too busy" not you. He is trying to "flip the script" to alleviate his own culpability in the demise of your relationship. Don't allow him to put this on you. Again HE is the one who is backing off...has no time, not even for a simple good morning text. So just pull back....quietly. He wants space, which let's face it, is exactly what his being "too busy" is about, then you give him space. In fact, if it were me, I would just end the whole thing and wish him well. Sorry.... 6
fitnessfan365 Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 Katie, I agree that she's been initiating very recently because he called her out on it. However, he's been the one to do the majority of the initiating and planning the whole time they've been together. That's why I'm guessing he finally started backing off and why he finally said "It works both ways". I mean admit OP. Up until recently wasn't he doing most of the initiating and planning? He would always say how much he missed you, couldn't wait to see you, etc.. But it doesn't sound like you were ever reciprocating back then. Even now, you want him to constantly reach out and see how your day is going, etc.. My advice would be to just trust how he feels and ease up a bit on needing so much validation. However, since you did a bit too much initiating recently to over compensate, I'd give the guy some space. Then once it gets back to normal, just try to be a little bit more invested.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 >>I texted him *again* tonight, and asked when he'd be free so I could see him. His response "no time in the foreseeable future. Sorry this is just a lot for me right now, I have too much going on."<< --------- OP, this your cue to back off. Stop texting him, stop initiating. He has no time for you, or more accurately, he is too busy to make time for you? Then what "you" do is get busy yourself. As I said just pull back...quietly. Meaning, don't tell him you are pulling back, just pull back. Don't ask him when he is free, don't do anything. Maybe he will miss you, maybe not. But hanging around waiting for him to give a shyt isn't doing you any good, so I don't really see as you have a choice here. His comment "it's a two way street"? Calling BS on that one. You are doing MORE than enough, HE is the one who is "too busy" not you. He is trying to "flip the script" to alleviate his own culpability in the demise of your relationship. Don't allow him to put this on you. Again HE is the one who is backing off...has no time, not even for a simple good morning text. So just pull back....quietly. He wants space, which let's face it, is exactly what his being "too busy" is about, then you give him space. In fact, if it were me, I would just end the whole thing and wish him well. Sorry.... this is perfect advice, listen to katie 3
KatZee Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 I dated someone exactly like this. He was a baseball coach too... Hmm... Three words for you: Waste of Time. That's as simple as I can put it. You know what's gonna happen when baseball coaching is done? He'll have something else occupying his time. I gave the guy I was seeing space and waited out the coaching season. Nothing changed when it was over. Still too busy to see me. I called him out on it and I got him to finally admit he wasn't looking for a serious girlfriend that he just wanted someone to have fun with. Calling this guy your boyfriend is very generous. A boyfriend isn't someone you barely speak to, and who you rarely see. A boyfriend isn't someone who tells you: "I don't have time for this." I would also walk away to be honest. It's not going to get better and you're going to want to kick yourself if you stay and then realize you've wasted a year or more of your life on someone who doesn't even have you on their list of priorities. 2
Gary S Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 If they can't see you at least once a week, it's probably not going to last.
losangelena Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 OP, I agree with both FF and Katie. On the one hand, I do think you're expecting a lot from him in terms of needing validation and reassurance from him about how he feels about you. I got to that point with my BF too, where I got so miffed when he wouldn't just text more, or text a different way, until I realized that he's just a bad texter and that he shows he cares in other ways. There's a big difference in relating to someone when you're simply happy to hear from them, versus EXPECTING to hear from them because they (fill the in the blank - are your boyfriend, are supposed to love you, etc.). My guess is that now that you are more established, he's appreciating the fact that he DOESN'T have to do so much work in that area. That being said, since your BF is the busy one, that the ball really is in his court to reach out and ale clear when he's available. Is it just temporary coaching/school season? Or is this the new normal? You don't know yet. I'd say give him the benefit of the doubt right now and see how this plays out. If it doesn't improve in month, reevaluate. To me, this sounds like normal relationship growing pains, rather than anything dire.
katiegrl Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 OP, I agree with both FF and Katie. On the one hand, I do think you're expecting a lot from him in terms of needing validation and reassurance from him about how he feels about you. I got to that point with my BF too, where I got so miffed when he wouldn't just text more, or text a different way, until I realized that he's just a bad texter and that he shows he cares in other ways. There's a big difference in relating to someone when you're simply happy to hear from them, versus EXPECTING to hear from them because they (fill the in the blank - are your boyfriend, are supposed to love you, etc.). My guess is that now that you are more established, he's appreciating the fact that he DOESN'T have to do so much work in that area. That being said, since your BF is the busy one, that the ball really is in his court to reach out and ale clear when he's available. Is it just temporary coaching/school season? Or is this the new normal? You don't know yet. I'd say give him the benefit of the doubt right now and see how this plays out. If it doesn't improve in month, reevaluate. To me, this sounds like normal relationship growing pains, rather than anything dire. losangelina, so as to not confuse the OP, what exactly are you advising here? My advice to pull back and ff's advice to initiate MORE are diametrically opposed, but yet you agree with both of us? Can you clarify?
losangelena Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 (edited) losangelina, so as to not confuse the OP, what exactly are you advising here? My advice to pull back and ff's advice to initiate MORE are diametrically opposed, but yet you agree with both of us? Can you clarify? Haha, what, I'm not making myself clear?? I'm advocating that she sit back and let him come to her, as you suggested. I agree with FF more in terms of mindset. OP is upset because her BF doesn't reach out or text the way he used to, but what I'm saying is, she should figure out why that kind or level of communication is important to her. Yes, it's always nice to hear from our partners, but for myself, it always bothers me more when my BF is less communicative during times when I feel unsure as to how he feels about me. During those times, every text he sends carries some weight, some reassurance that he DOES still have feelings for me. However, when I'm feeling secure in the relationship, I find I need much less contact from him. It doesn't bother me if he's not telling me he's thinking of me everyday, I know he is. More or less, we have now reached a more secure level in our relationship. For another example, I don't talk to my mother everyday. I talk to her about one a week, and see her about three times a year, but I don't doubt her feelings for me. I know she loves me. OBVIOUSLY, romantic relationships are different, but what I'm saying is that eventually, the relationship should be able to stand on its own and be strong enough to allow one or the other person to take a step back and not be as involved for a time. If anything, her BF could use an understanding partner right now, one whose not sitting back, expecting the full court press, and feeling bad that he can't deliver at the moment. As FF said, hasn't this guy proved himself by now? I agree with this particular part of his post, not so much that she should initiate more. OP's BF did warn her that he'd be busy for a time. It's not like he's suddenly dropped off the face of the earth. We don't know at this point if it's truly a temporary phase, or if this is how it's going to be. Perhaps this is an intentional pull out, but my hunch is that this business is not meant as a personal affront to the OP (though it's hard not to take it that way), or truly a reflection about how he feels about her. Now that they're getting further along and more serious, he may be taking this time of less frequent contact to evaluate or reevaluate his feelings, which he's fully in his rights to do. Besides, haven't you ever seen a guy try to multitask? Expecting a text from a guy when his attention is elsewhere is like trying to get blood from a stone. Edited to say: I'm on my phone at the moment, so excuse any typos. Edited April 15, 2015 by losangelena 1
katiegrl Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months now. He asked me to be his girlfriend two months ago. The past few weeks, I've been seeing him get busier and busier. We went to hanging out only once a week, but still texting non stop with a few phone calls, to now it's hanging out once every week and a half or so. He used to say things like, 'I can't wait to see you' or 'I miss you!', ect, if a period of time went by where we couldn't see each other. I'm trying my best to be understanding of his hectic schedule, but it's getting to be a lot. Over the past week, no longer do I get my usual 'good morning baby' text messages or 'goodnight love' goodnight's. Maybe I'll get a text by mid afternoon, and then maybe one later that night. Nothing nice or sweet, just something about his text he took or baseball game he coached. I've been the one initiated conversations, asking him about school and work and how his days going. He usually gives me a grumpy 2-3 word response, and doesn't ever ask how my day is going in return. Yesterday, he hadn't texted me all day like he usually does. Until about ten at night he said, 'not gonna talk to me today?' and I said, 'I figured you were busy.. so I didn't want to bother you, didn't hear from you all day.' and he replied, 'It's a two way street!'. I guess he had a point. But we barely talked much that night and then he just went to bed. This morning, I tried to give more of an effort and take his two way street advice into consideration. So I texted him in the afternoon in the middle of my 12 hour work day and asked how his day was going. He said he was swamped in reading material for his class. I commented, and that was it. I texted him again tonight, and asked when he'd be free again so I could see him. His response: 'No time in the foreseeable future.' Ok. He then said, 'sorry this is just a lot for me right now, I have too much going on.' . losangelina, as I am sure you will agree, when a man's behavior and actions shift as radically as the OP's behavior and actions apparently have, it can be very unsettling and confusing. It's one thing to be busy and have little time to spend together as before...due to a busier schedule. But this guy's entire **ATTITUDE** has shifted... a complete 360 ... from acting interested and engaged... to acting *grumpy*, disengaged and completely disinterested! ^^Read the above again... this man has majorly pulled back *emotionally* and even seems annoyed by her! Hence his snarky comment that it's a two way street, which makes no sense given the fact thst SHE has been the one to reach out, and HE has been the one who responds apathetically and blows off her attempts to get together. And contrary to ff's ludicrous suggestion to initiate more, the OP is initiating too much! And no not just recently, she has been enthusiastic and responsive from the get go, read her post again. OP again, just leave him alone. As losangelina and I have said, let him come to you. This is a very new relationship, only TWO months since you have been bf/gf. It *could" be growing pains, but it also could be that his feelings have shifted and he has become ambivalent. I hope it is the former... keep us posted.. 1
acapelo_dp Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 Even when a guy is busy he will make the time to text or call you if he is really into you. I would pull back and give him space and let him come to you for now. YOU keep busy. If it doesn't get better you might need to talk to him and tell him he isn't meeting your emotional needs in the relationship. I got the "I'm busy with work, blah blah" excuse and he was just distancing himself from the relationship. Tread carefully I say as it doesn't sound like a "relationship" to me. 1
Redhead14 Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months now. He asked me officially to be his girlfriend only two months ago. Before we were official, we would talk all day long, and see each other maybe 3 times a week, which is a lot for me and my schedule but I loved every second of it. He warned me a couple months ago, that come spring, he would be extremely busy and it would be a tough couple of months to get through. He's finishing his last semester of grad school, he coaches three baseball teams, and he works, and he lives an hour away. I get it, he's busy. The past few weeks, I've been seeing him get busier and busier. We went to hanging out only once a week, but still texting non stop with a few phone calls, to now it's hanging out once every week and a half or so. He used to say things like, 'I can't wait to see you' or 'I miss you!', ect, if a period of time went by where we couldn't see each other. I'm trying my best to be understanding of his hectic schedule, but it's getting to be a lot. Over the past week, no longer do I get my usual 'good morning baby' text messages or 'goodnight love' goodnight's. Maybe I'll get a text by mid afternoon, and then maybe one later that night. Nothing nice or sweet, just something about his text he took or baseball game he coached. I've been the one initiated conversations, asking him about school and work and how his days going. He usually gives me a grumpy 2-3 word response, and doesn't ever ask how my day is going in return. Yesterday, he hadn't texted me all day like he usually does. Until about ten at night he said, 'not gonna talk to me today?' and I said, 'I figured you were busy.. so I didn't want to bother you, didn't hear from you all day.' and he replied, 'It's a two way street!'. I guess he had a point. But we barely talked much that night and then he just went to bed. This morning, I tried to give more of an effort and take his two way street advice into consideration. So I texted him in the afternoon in the middle of my 12 hour work day and asked how his day was going. He said he was swamped in reading material for his class. I commented, and that was it. I texted him again tonight, and asked when he'd be free again so I could see him. His response: 'No time in the foreseeable future.' Ok. He then said, 'sorry this is just a lot for me right now, I have too much going on.' And I just said, 'I understand that, but you can act slightly interested.' I'm trying not be a jerk. But from my perspective, it's killing me and I can't act like it doesn't bother me anymore. I couldn't hold it in anymore. I UNDERSTAND that he's busy. SO AM I! But can I just get a 'hey babe I hope your day is going well!' or something!? Anything to let me know he's still there and thinking of me? I get that times are tough, and I'm not shunning his schedule.. but I just feel like he hasn't given any effort. What do I do? Baseball ends in a month a half, and that will free up a little more of his time, but school doesn't end till July... do I just wait around like a bump on a log and wait for him to hit me up when he's good and ready? Maybe I'm just a bad girlfriend. Maybe I'm not understanding enough. I just need to know that he still cares, busy or not. do I just wait around like a bump on a log and wait for him to hit me up when he's good and ready? -- Absolutely not! You make yourself as busy as possible as well. You let him know your schedule and what your priorities are and what you can be flexible with each week. If he sees that he has to get "into" your schedule and he wants to see you, he will incorporate it accordingly. If he doesn't, you move on. Be as busy as he is. It will do two things: keep your mind off of not being able to see him and it will make him realize your time is valuable too. You call him once a week if he doesn't call you. If he doesn't answer, you leave the ball in his court. If he doesn't respond, you leave it be. Start pulling back. If he is truly serious about you, he'll close up that space. This is not about game playing, it's about getting yourself centered and focused on your needs and letting him demonstrate his sincerity. If he doesn't, move on. All that being said, he did give you a heads up -- He warned me a couple months ago, that come spring, he would be extremely busy and it would be a tough couple of months to get through. A lot of guys wouldn't even bother letting you know that. It would just happen. It seems to me that he was thinking about the fact that you might be feeling left out and he wanted you to know that he understood that. My SO gets very busy sometimes too, but he always lets me know his schedule. We share our schedules each week to see where we can fit each other in and prioritize. But, he does make me feel secure enough in the relationship that I don't worry in between. If I feel the need to be in touch with him, I'll pick up the phone and talk to him. He hates texting and doesn't give much in that way, but if I call him, he's all over it. If I ever felt like he was losing interest, I'd be pulling back and focusing on myself and preparing to move on if it seemed that he wasn't going to "come around". I would have a casual, non-confrontational conversation with him and say something like "I enjoy spending time with you and I support your outside interests and activities. You are a priority in my life now and I'd like it if we could make a plan for getting together in the next few days. I can be available X day(s) or night(s)". And, let him talk. You can address the communication in between seeing each other by saying "Since our schedule for seeing each other has been cut back, it would make me happy if we could talk more in between". He hasn't fallen off the map altogether so maybe just give it a jump start.
fitnessfan365 Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 (edited) losangelina, so as to not confuse the OP, what exactly are you advising here? My advice to pull back and ff's advice to initiate MORE are diametrically opposed, but yet you agree with both of us? Can you clarify? You misunderstood what I wrote Katie. I said that she needed to initiate more IN THE PAST. That's why he pulled away and finally said "It works both ways". It's obvious based on her post that she was letting him do most of the work up until now. So has she been initiating more recently? Yes. But it's to over compensate because he finally called her out on it. As you've said yourself, a relationship shouldn't be one sided. Since she has FINALLY started to reach out more now, I definitely agree with you that she should back off and give him space. However, once he reaches out and things return to normal, she needs to participate more and not make things so one sided like she did in the past. I mean this is her BF of six months. Not a guy she's casually dating and feeling out. So at some point, a woman should trust that her man is sticking around, and stop expecting him to carry most of the load all the time. Plus, with her constant need for validation of his feelings, she sounds a bit insecure and high maintenance to be honest. Edited April 15, 2015 by fitnessfan365
katiegrl Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 You misunderstood what I wrote Katie. I said that she needed to initiate more IN THE PAST. That's why he pulled away and finally called her on it by saying "It works both ways". It's obvious based on her post that she was letting him do most of the work up until now. So has she been initiating more recently? Yes. But it's too over compensate for him finally calling her out on the fact that she wasn't in the past. As you've said before yourself, things should never be one sided. Since she has FINALLY started to reach out more now, I definitely agree with you that she should back off and give him space. However, once he reaches out and things return to normal, she needs to participate more and not make things so one sided like she did in the past. I mean this is her BF of six months. Not a guy she's casually dating and feeling out. So at some point, a woman should trust that her man is sticking around, and stop expecting him to carry most of the load all the time. Plus, with her constant need for validation of his feelings, she sounds a bit insecure and high maintenance to be honest. That is *not* what you said in your own post number 2, but nevermind. In any event, I don't agree with your assessment, and choose to leave it at that. And no this is NOT a six month *relationship.* It is a TWO month *relationship.* They have been dating six months, bf/gf for two months. Read her post again. Perhaps if you separate with paragraphs, you will comprehend it more accurately...
losangelena Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 Read her post again. Perhaps if you separate with paragraphs, you will comprehend it more accurately... Jeebus, Katie, take it down a notch, please. Everyone has a slightly different interpretation of these posts. I know OP said they've OFFICIALLY been BF/GF for two months, but there's still six months of getting to know one another and dating. I would consider that a six-month relationship as well. Remember, we only know what OP posts. We are all going on limited info and skewed perspectives, and most of us are simply trying to be HELPFUL. There's no need to suggest that FF has poor reading comprehension because his interpretation of the situation is not the same as yours. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 (edited) There's no need to suggest that FF has poor reading comprehension because his interpretation of the situation is not the same as yours. I appreciate that losangelena but it's all good. I'm more about proving my point through action and citing examples. I think that once people read this, they'll see what I'm talking about and that I have fantastic reading comprehension skills. ;-) I hope Katie does as well. Excerpts taken from her original post : - He used to say things like, 'I can't wait to see you' or 'I miss you!', ect, if a period of time went by where we couldn't see each other. ** He's the one constantly reaching out to her to let her know how how he feels. She never mentions once how she would do the same for him. - Over the past week, no longer do I get my usual 'good morning baby' text messages or 'goodnight love' goodnight's. Maybe I'll get a text by mid afternoon, and then maybe one later that night. *** Once again, she's always sitting back and waiting on him. - Yesterday, he hadn't texted me all day like he usually does (she even admits it) - Until about ten at night he said, 'not gonna talk to me today?' She says "I didn't hear from you today and figured you were busy". ***This is why he finally expresses his displeasement and says 'It's a two way street". Now I'm not saying that she never initiated whatsoever. It sounds like she did from time to time in the past. But based on all this, it does sound like he was doing most of the work in the past. Edited April 15, 2015 by fitnessfan365
katiegrl Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 Jeebus, Katie, take it down a notch, please. Everyone has a slightly different interpretation of these posts. I know OP said they've OFFICIALLY been BF/GF for two months, but there's still six months of getting to know one another and dating. I would consider that a six-month relationship as well. Remember, we only know what OP posts. We are all going on limited info and skewed perspectives, and most of us are simply trying to be HELPFUL. There's no need to suggest that FF has poor reading comprehension because his interpretation of the situation is not the same as yours. Fair point la... thanks for calling me out on that. Guilty as charged... Apologies to ff .... 1
fitnessfan365 Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 Fair point la... thanks for calling me out on that. Guilty as charged... Apologies to ff .... Hey Katie, one reason why I like you is because you're passionate and get fired up. You wouldn't be you without some sass. However, look at my break down demo and you'll see the point I was trying to make.
katiegrl Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 Hey Katie, one reason why I like you is because you're passionate and get fired up. You wouldn't be you without some sass. However, look at my break down demo and you'll see the point I was trying to make. ff, I read your post and yes I can see how you came to interpret the OP's situation the way you did. I still don't agree with you.... ....but I do understand your POV. Again, apologies for tossing you that back-handed insult, that was NOT nice of me at all!! Ugh...not sure what gets into me sometimes...but working on it.
Gary S Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 All that being said, he did give you a heads up -- He warned me a couple months ago, that come spring, he would be extremely busy and it would be a tough couple of months to get through. - Yeah, and it's gonna be a real shocker to him when she dumps him because she fell out of love. I'm just sayin'. You can't just go on vacation from a relationship for two months. Love is kinda fragile, the heart won't stand for it. 2
katiegrl Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 - Yeah, and it's gonna be a real shocker to him when she dumps him because she fell out of love. I'm just sayin'. **You can't just go on vacation from a relationship for two months.** Love is kinda fragile, the heart won't stand for it. Exactly...especially when the relationship itself is only two months old! Okay, dating for six, exclusive for two... :bunny: 2
Redhead14 Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 - Yeah, and it's gonna be a real shocker to him when she dumps him because she fell out of love. I'm just sayin'. You can't just go on vacation from a relationship for two months. Love is kinda fragile, the heart won't stand for it. I do agree with you, Gary. He may just be "clueless". If he's going to be that busy, he should understand how important it would be to keep up with good communication at least. I think she should at the very least, talk to him so he understands that the communication needs to be better. Not only that, I wonder why she doesn't go to the baseball games to show her support for him? Instead of complaining to him, support him. When he sees her doing that, it should make him appreciate her and it sends the message that "hey, I want to see you and I"m willing to meet you in the middle". She sets the example so to speak. If he doesn't appreciate that, then she should just move on. 1
Gary S Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 I agree with you, Katie and Redhead, you are giving the OP good advice. Here's a bunny, just for you ................wait for it............ ......................don't say I never gave you anything
Redhead14 Posted April 15, 2015 Posted April 15, 2015 I agree with you, Katie and Redhead, you are giving the OP good advice. Here's a bunny, just for you ................wait for it............ ......................don't say I never gave you anything "I will Kiss him and love him and squeeze him and call him George"
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