shvrk Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 (edited) About a year ago, before I was in a relationship with my boyfriend, I would frequent the online dating sites, and I would just chat with guys, whatever. Well one guy I did talk to for a little, he got my number but all he wanted was to hookup so I dropped it. About 2 months after that, he got hired at the same exact location that I was working at. So okay, it was whatever. He would text me here and there (still had my number, I suppose) and then he would say how I needed to be with a guy like him, and how I look fly at work... just flirtatious stuff that I would not really acknowledge. Well I guess one day, he was sitting down having lunch with the general manager, (I'm close to her) and a few other co-workers. I guess they asked him how he was liking the place and yadda yadda then he brought up how he knew me previously, then apparently implied heavily that he had sex with me. To my manager. To my coworkers. Not too long after he was hired and I guess that happened, I was in the car with my GM, and I told her that the guy would not leave me be, as far as messaging. (we were chatting as friends, and I think he had been fired at this point anyway) He had messaged me again one day, telling me to break up with my boyfriend because we could have had something "dope" and we can't find out until we do. I was just like please **** off... I shared this info with my GM and she acts all serious and says, "I have to ask you something." I said "Okay, what's up?" She then asks how well I knew him before he was hired and I told her that I just spoke to him online for about 3 days and texted a little but that was it. I never met him till he had the job. She then was like "okay... Good...he said that he really knew you, but I figured that was not the case." I just said alright, thinking he just meant as a basic meeting. Or whatever. That still weirded me out. Anyway, moving on, to now. I no longer work there, he no longer works there, but one of my other coworkers that was at the table told me that he shared with her and the 3 others with her, that he had sex with me. I had that reputation on me, and still do, because I never even said anything about it, and I never knew! Sure I talked to him here and there but I mean... to say that behind my back is shady... especially if I do not know who the **** you are... and we share colleagues.... Anyway, I find out so long from when it was started but I'm like... upset. Should I confront him about it or leave it be? And why the **** would he even do that ****? Edited April 14, 2015 by shvrk
BlauFrau Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 It's hard to shake a rep like that. Just tell people straight up that he is harassing you, you don't know him hardly at all. You could also tell him that if he doesn't quit spreading roomers you will sue him for defamation of character. You can sue people for spreading lies about you, especially if they ruin your reputation. 1
Author shvrk Posted April 14, 2015 Author Posted April 14, 2015 It's hard to shake a rep like that. Just tell people straight up that he is harassing you, you don't know him hardly at all. You could also tell him that if he doesn't quit spreading roomers you will sue him for defamation of character. You can sue people for spreading lies about you, especially if they ruin your reputation. I can sue him, huh... Yeah... it's not really something I would want on me, especially since I made it clear that I was not interested.
Gary S Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 There are always going to be people who say mean things. Nothing you can do about it, that's life. You just have to be like a duck and let things roll off your back. ^^^um, that does not look like a duck to me. 1
SycamoreCircle Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 It sounds like you were never really into this guy. So why did you respond to his texts? Why do you want to contact him now? My guess is you, like a lot of women your age, just can't stand to turn down male attention. You mentioned that his flirtatious comments were not something you chose to acknowledge, yet you repeated verbatim one of his flirtatious comments to us. Hence, you acknowledged it. I know next to nothing about golf. I'm not interested in it in the least. I don't own any golf clubs. I don't have a membership. I don't know the rules. I don't watch it on TV. Consequently, there is no one associated with golf trying to get a hold of me. There are no people asking me to go play golf. And there are no people at work asking what my best score is. Catch my drift?
Auspecial Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 there was a time when I would have been very aggravated but blowing it off nowadays I would confront his stupid ass very strongly
Author shvrk Posted April 14, 2015 Author Posted April 14, 2015 It sounds like you were never really into this guy. So why did you respond to his texts? Why do you want to contact him now? My guess is you, like a lot of women your age, just can't stand to turn down male attention. You mentioned that his flirtatious comments were not something you chose to acknowledge, yet you repeated verbatim one of his flirtatious comments to us. Hence, you acknowledged it. I know next to nothing about golf. I'm not interested in it in the least. I don't own any golf clubs. I don't have a membership. I don't know the rules. I don't watch it on TV. Consequently, there is no one associated with golf trying to get a hold of me. There are no people asking me to go play golf. And there are no people at work asking what my best score is. Catch my drift? Not really sure why I didn't, sometimes he would text to ask what's up, maybe he needed me to cover a shift. (He did ask me to do this ONCE) but then after that if he was trying to start something I would turn him down, and he would keep pushing. Yes, I could have just said no and stopped responding. That is my fault.
Author shvrk Posted April 15, 2015 Author Posted April 15, 2015 There are always going to be people who say mean things. Nothing you can do about it, that's life. You just have to be like a duck and let things roll off your back. ^^^um, that does not look like a duck to me. Or I shouldn't let it bother me and just bounce back... ? You're right, I was just pissed in the moment but I am over it and I can't watch my energy stressing over this when I'm in the last three weeks of my semester. Or ever, really. If these people really know what's up then good, if they don't then I guess it doesn't really matter. My reputation though ...
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