Califodm Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 Hello. I am in desperate need of advice. My girlfriend of 2 years has just broken up with me 4 days ago and i'm taking this really hard. I don't know what to do or who to talk to. I try talking to friends and family, but no one can ease my mind. I find myself looking at things she's bought me and I just start to feel really horrible. Everywhere I go, I think "oh, i've been here with her before and now she's not here" Can anyone offer any advice? Please help me.
agnf666 Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 You have came to the right place. It is going to take sometime to move on from the break up. I would recommend putting things she gave to you in a box or something so you don't have to become face to face with it. Try not to do things that remind you of here. So that takes out the places you use to go with her and stuff like that. It's going to be very hard. I wish you the best of luck.
Fallen_Angel Posted April 16, 2005 Posted April 16, 2005 You've absolutely come to the right place! Welcome!! ::hug:: The first few days are the absolute worst. It's now been 14 days for me and while it hasn't gotten any easier, at least I'm no longer in (serious) denial. You need to put away any pictures of her or gifts she gave you until there comes a time where you can look at them without feeling pain. Be thorough too; you wouldn't want to come across something one day and get upset once you start making progress. I've been hearing the same (seemingly trite) phrases from friends and family, such as "If it's meant to be, he'll come back" and "You'll find someone better" and so forth. On the surface it doesn't seem comforting at all, because I want him to come back NOW and I feel as though there is no one better. But there is no really "good" thing to say in situations like these. You feel like $h*t and it's difficult to accomplish the most mundane tasks, like getting out of bed or eating. I've learned to reward myself for doing simple things such as getting out of bed in the morning, going to work, etc. I thought I would want to stay in bed for weeks...but moving on means putting YOUR life back in order and concentrating on YOU. By all means, please keep us posted. I always feel better after reading what other people have to say and sharing my own thoughts. One way or another, you will make it through this.
Author Califodm Posted April 16, 2005 Author Posted April 16, 2005 Thanks a lot. Everyone tells me it's not going to be easy.......but it's so much to handle. It's way too hard!!! I mean, this girl...she's all I know, and she's all I have known for a long time. I can't even picture meeting anyone even close to her. I'm so comfortable around her and I absolutley just love her. Also another thing that's been on my mind...is the fact that i've made some mistakes in the relationship...and I feel horrible when I think of those things. I have been trying to make up for everything, but I still feel horrible. Our 2 year just recently came up and she bought me something and I didn't get her anything.....I didn't really know what to get or where I should shop. Anyway, I feel horrible about not getting her anything and I just want her to know that it wasn't that I didn't care about her or love her (because I love her SO MUCH)...I was just having a hard time shopping....I was afraid that what I got she wouldn't like or something like that.
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