TomerT Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Dear ladies, I need your wisdom here... About three weeks ago, I met very nice girl. We were online chatting for 2 weeks, last week we met and I think we both felt a good connection. The next day we kissed and the day after we were kissing "full on". Then I left for a business travel for a week, but we are already trying to figure out about what we are going to do when I come back (in 5 days). Now, ladies, my question is how (in your opinion) will she react if I will tell her (in person, when we meet, not on text) that "I want to make love with her"....We promised to tell each other what we think...and I just keeping our promise... Just to make clear - I really like her and would like to have long lasting relationships and not looking just for sex. I think she realizes this. So, generally, I can wait, no problem...but I was just wondering how she might react... How would you react ?
smackie9 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 I would wait until things warm up/get hot again before saying it. It might blow up in your face...or it may not. Me personally like things to just happen without saying it. 3
losangelena Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 I'm not the most verbally expressive person, so I'm like smackie, I'd rather it just happen. I might think it's a bit cheesy if a guy said to me, "I want to make love to you." That Boyz II Men song would start playing in my head, maybe. I'm not very romantic, though, so I'd be the wrong lady to pull that with. This woman might be different, though, and I'm sure there are some who would LOVE to hear a man say that to her. I would just snicker (to myself, of course), but probably still sleep with the guy if I liked him. 2
smackie9 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Tell her you want to make sexy time You say that when you are already have been having sex. 2
Vintage79 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 "I want to make love to you" is tacky, cheesy, and will more likely translate into an epic failure than an epic success (although it could go either way). OP, let me ask you this - if you want to have a long lasting relationship with her that extends beyond just sex, why bring sex up as the "thing that you want to do with her" - it makes it seem like that's all you really want. Just pick something else - it's not hard to transition to sex if the chemistry is right - you don't have to blatantly call it out, likely freak her out with the super awkward phrasing (just why you are even considering using the term "love with a girl that have only seen twice is baffling), and then put pressure on everyone. 3
kissmybooty Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 you can say you would like to take her to the moon. It's cheesy and funny. Then, proceed to tell her something else you would like to do (other than making love:eek:) 1
stillafool Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 I don't see anything wrong with you saying that to her. If she likes you as much as you like her she probably feels the same way. Say it low and slow and it might give her chills.
fitnessfan365 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 (edited) If you were already kissing "full on" she knows that you want to have sex with her. So instead of stating the obvious, why not just flirt with her to build tension, continue to be hot and heavy, and seduce her? If you handle things properly, sex will happen naturally on its own. In my experience, women like the spontaneity and passion of just being taken. Verbally saying that you want to have sex kind of ruins the mood. Especially if it's the first time. After you've already started having sex regularly, then you can be a bit more verbal. But until then, just be flirtatious, create tension, and take action. Edited April 14, 2015 by fitnessfan365 2
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 You say that when you are already have been having sex. Nah just have to put on your best Borat voice possible when you say it, and then her panties will hit the floor.
Gary S Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 No, no, no, you don't say that to a lady before you have made love. Listen, when a woman likes you and is ready.... um, you will know, and there will be no doubt All you will do by saying somethin' cheesy like that is turn her off. Guys, you have to know when to keep your mouth shut. This is not the wonerful, wonerful, wonerful world of TV and Movies. 5
Omei Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Nope be creeped out "I want to make love to you" only after a few weeks is near saying "I love you" Can you just have regular sex ? Save the love making for when shes in love with you 1
Diezel Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Just tell her that you want to "Ahhhh... push it... ppppppush it real good." 4
Author TomerT Posted April 14, 2015 Author Posted April 14, 2015 I understand that the word 'love' may sound creepy only after 3 weeks, but I thought that "want to make love" will sound better than "want to have sex"... Anyway...I think I got the vibe...and will act rather than talk... 3
fitnessfan365 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Nope be creeped out "I want to make love to you" only after a few weeks is near saying "I love you" Can you just have regular sex ? Save the love making for when shes in love with you Haha.. This was an awesome post. I'll be the first to say that soft and slow is nice once and awhile. But I'll take passionate, aggressive, hot sex with her gripping the bed sheets any day. 1
Omei Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Just tell her that you want to "Ahhhh... push it... ppppppush it real good." I hear this song everytime at work and want to sing it out loud really bad but everyone will look at me. And I don't know if other girls think the same way but for me first time sex having it be soft and gushy is meh any guy can do that I want to see if you could rock my world. 2
smackie9 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 This is just as bad when a guys asks you if he can kiss you, ugh:rolleyes::rolleyes: 2
FortunateSon Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 When I was younger or in a serious relationship using the term "make love" worked very well, but it's not something I would likely say again to anyone seriously anytime soon....seems like women now would prefer tom hear that you want to **** them or vice versa.
Omei Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 This is just as bad when a guys asks you if he can kiss you, ugh:rolleyes::rolleyes: I personally prefer they ask so I don't have to do the awkward yank backwards if I don't want it 1
fitnessfan365 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 I hear this song everytime at work and want to sing it out loud really bad but everyone will look at me. And I don't know if other girls think the same way but for me first time sex having it be soft and gushy is meh any guy can do that I want to see if you could rock my world. Haha.. This was hot for a few reasons. You sound like a woman that know how to move her body, work her hips, and back her ass up. Secondly, you want a guy to own that p***y. Can't speak for all women. Only the ones I've slept with. But after weeks of seduction and foreplay, they wanted their clothes ripped off and me to take what I wanted. The harder I made them grip the sheets, the more multiples that followed. For me personally, I've always seen sex and intimacy as two separate things. Intimacy comes from emotional bonding outside the bedroom, and sex is about pleasure and lust. 1
GemmaUK Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 No 'I want to make love to you's!!! 'I lust you' and then act upon it works better! I think I might cringe if someone said they wanted to 'make love to me' It's a line and it's cheesy just like flowers and chocolates IMO. 1
BlauFrau Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Depends on the type of women she is. How much experience she has etc. What kind of sex she likes. Personally I take things kind of slowly. I always start with kissing, then move to touching, then oral sex for awhile, then intercourse. I try to make the oral sex phase last as long as I can because that's the most satisfying type of sex for me and once a girl puts out actual sex cunnilingus becomes a rare occurrence.
BlauFrau Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 I personally prefer they ask so I don't have to do the awkward yank backwards if I don't want it Yea and not asking is how rape happens.
wb1988 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 It sounds super sleazy bro. Better say nothing, slowly go for it and if there is any resistance then back off and try to go back to kissing.
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