Is it possible to have a good friendship after making out has occurred?

[LifeandPerseverance]

Just trying to get everyone to weigh in. I'm just curious: In your opinion, Do you think it's possible, to have a good, close friendship ONLY (strictly platonic) between a man and a woman, AFTER making out or kissing has occurred?

 

 

And let's assume in this case, the make out occurred completely sober, there was no alcohol/extreme emotions involved that caused it. And that both parties do find each other physically attractive even still.

 

 

In your opinion, do you think it's possible for these two to have a close platonic friendship, after that barrier has been breached? Why or why not?

[d0nnivain]

Maybe. It depends on the maturity level of the people & whether they BOTH want to be just platonic friends. If one of them secretly wants more it won't work.

[Donate]

Maturity plays an important role as does emotional stability.

[losangelena]

A college friend and I shared a couple of intimate moments back in the day. It was never anything emotional, though, and we're still friends, 10+ years later. Granted, he is married with a kid now, so our friendship is different, but for many years, we saw each other regularly, and what happened in the past never affected our friendship.

 

I think it would work more easily if neither party wants more than a platonic friendship.

[EasyHeart]

Just trying to get everyone to weigh in. I'm just curious: In your opinion, Do you think it's possible, to have a good, close friendship ONLY (strictly platonic) between a man and a woman, AFTER making out or kissing has occurred?

Generally not.

 

Men and women can be friends if neither of them are physically attracted to the other. In a case where you make out/kiss, it's safe to assume there is some sort of attraction, probably from both sides. That's not a formula for friendship.

[salparadise]

Do you think it's possible... both parties do find each other physically attractive

 

Anything is possible... pack condoms.

[LifeandPerseverance]

Let's assume in this case, both parties are in their mid 20's, and single still.

[central]

Sure. I've had FWB go back and forth between platonic friends and friends with sex. Some people can do that, some can't - just figure out which kind each of you are and go from there.

[rester]

It's possible. I have a very close female friend that I've known for about 18 years. We were friends for a few years in our 20s before finding ourselves both single. We slept together a few times, and went back to being friends. She's now married with children and I'm in a relationship and we are still very close. My girlfriend and I are friends with both her and her husband.

[elaine567]

both parties do find each other physically attractive even still.

This is key.

 

How old are the "friends"?

I would guess the older they are, the less likely it is to develop into more if there are barriers to them doing that, but it is not impossible at any age.

 

If they are completely unattached then I agree with Salparadise, pack the condoms, if one is more attached than the other, still pack the condoms, if both are very attached & committed to their partners and they don't drink then hopefully the condoms may not be needed.

 

If your partner is one of the "friends", then I would prepare for drama.