Cinnamonstix Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Anyone else not been able to cry? I feel like it would be soooo cathartic if I did. But I just.can't.get.there. Any time I feel some tears coming, it's as if someone grabs the tap with both hands and cranks it off... like my brain is saying to me... "that dickhead isn't worth your tears mmmmmmkay?"
Kbomb Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Because you are all cried out. I think you must be healing, from what ever happened, I haven't read your story. But thats what happens to me years ago.......after so many tears there are no more. then you begin not to care anymore. I think its a good sign. Instead of wanting to cry for realease - get physical, do sports, surf. Focus elsewhere.
Author Cinnamonstix Posted April 14, 2015 Author Posted April 14, 2015 (edited) I've had some pretty low moments after this BU, but the only time I've cried was a full week after the BU, after I drank too much. And it only lasted a minute. No more depressive substances for me. Maybe it's actually because with other breakups, I beat myself up. This time I know it's all him. I was really good to him and am proud of who I was in that RS. You're right, I will focus my energy elsewhere. I've been trying but I could certainly do more Edited April 14, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
Kbomb Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 (edited) Well you are doing way better than me! Its been two months and I still cry!! I think you are doing really well! Edited April 14, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
hollypolly Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Its because your strong and your not allowing yourself to look for blame. You know you did nothing wrong and I admire your strength.
ZiggyZoo Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 I think as long as you sincerely think that you're ok, there's nothing wrong with it. I know I reach a stage where it's almost like I have to force myself to miss my ex because that's what I'm used to doing, or how I think I should feel. Same here, don't tell yourself that you should feel any certain way. Feel how you feel, and if it doesn't include tears, then I see nothing wrong.
Jimmyjackson Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 I cried when she broke up with me, might not have been the best thing to do in front of her but I couldn't help it. That was about 7 months ago. Broke NC the other night after about 6 months when we seen each other out drinking and she got with my friend and I also found out something about the break up I didn't know. I felt so crap, I really wanted to cry and I just couldn't, I felt like I needed to but couldn't actually do it. I was messaging a friend and I just started crying, turns out writing it out to someone and reading what you're writing really makes you get emotional. If you feel you can't cry maybe try do what I did and write it out, even though I didn't mean to do it haha. Read it back to yourself and it might become real all of a sudden.
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