JOkER2 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Tomorrow I'm going to ask this girl out. I know where she works and I was going to ask her out however I'm pretty scared. What's the best way to ask someone out at their work? I met her last week and she seemed interested in me. If she was do u think she would come back to my store soon?
Hawaii51 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 1. You owe me a drink 2. Be up front, casual, confident, and sincere. I advise that you don't even look around the store, just make a b-line if it's possible. Let it be known why you came in there that day. That's me, others will tell you different. 2
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Op if this is the same girl, your window is closing fast. Act quickly! Hawaii is dead on.
fitnessfan365 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 (edited) 1. You owe me a drink 2. Be up front, casual, confident, and sincere. I advise that you don't even look around the store, just make a b-line if it's possible. Let it be known why you came in there that day. That's me, others will tell you different. This is actually GREAT advice. If you walk around trying to work up your nerve, you'll begin to over think and it will work against you. If you walk right up to her, you'll be completely in the moment and it will be natural. Be completely confident and authentic. You know what's funny? Owning that you online date makes for a great opener for meeting women. I have to downplay my confidence a bit. But for the most part, it's completely authentic. "I have to admit. I prefer online dating because approaching women makes me nervous. But seeing you made me want to take a risk. What's your name?" It's awesome for a few reasons. One, she'll be extremely flattered, and feel sexy as hell because she inspired you. Two, almost all women online date. So they instantly relate and have tons of stories to share. Three, it takes major balls to admit your vulnerability. Cheesy pick up artists never want to come across as weak so they over compensate by coming on too strong. But being able to show your human side instantly makes you more relateable. Edited April 14, 2015 by fitnessfan365
Author JOkER2 Posted April 14, 2015 Author Posted April 14, 2015 Thanks for the advice. Barcode y u say window is closing? Also my heart is racing. I'm sure it's cuz I have anxiety but do others have this problem approaching women? I get so nervous. Maybe cuz I've been rejected a couple times asking out women
d0nnivain Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 First you have to tell us what happened when you went to her store last week. Then we can better tell you how to ask (or if to ask)
d0nnivain Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 When I went there she was off So you are still back to where you were last week. She was a customer in your store but we still have no idea whether she has a clue who you are. More re-con is in order. You still can't ask her out because the clock hasn't started ticking. If you are a stranger (meaning she didn't register who checked her out when she was in your store beyond being vaguely aware that somebody -- you-- was operating the register while she made her purchase) you can't march into her store & expect her to go out with you.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Joker your window is closing because it was so long ago. Unless you've been in contact since last week with this girl (have you?) she probably isn't thinking about you anymore. You need to be reintroduced to this girl again to make it work IMHO. You can't just ask her out, you'll need to banter with her a bit and gauge her interest level. Might be hard if this relies on you going into an ULTA Beauty to talk to her... Better find a good reason Lol. Otherwise just write this one off and move on.
Author JOkER2 Posted April 14, 2015 Author Posted April 14, 2015 Well guys I went in there I saw her. She remembered me but I don't think she's interested. Talked to her a little but didn't seem interested. Thanks for all your help tho. Guess of to the next one unless she's running to my store like a cheesy movie
fitnessfan365 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Well guys I went in there I saw her. She remembered me but I don't think she's interested. Talked to her a little but didn't seem interested. Thanks for all your help tho. Guess of to the next one unless she's running to my store like a cheesy movie Did you reference meeting her initially and actually ask her if she remembered you? This shows a lack of confidence right off the bat. Also, some guys tend to over romanticize the smallest things and create this "connection" in their mind. So you making a big deal out of a chance encounter from over a week ago, might have weirded her out. It probably would have worked more to your advantage to chat her up like it was the first time you two interacted. Then if she brings up remembering you, you can go with it. But otherwise just treat her like a complete stranger and try to be in the moment. 1
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Yeah I had a feeling this was going to happen Lol. Ideally you would have wanted to drop in on her at work and flirt with her a bit (without asking her out), and see if she comes back to your workplace to flirt back. Then I would have asked for her number... Of course there's really no good excuse for you dropping by an ULTA Beauty.. Haha. I think she was just being friendly with you last week and you misread her intentions, plus you waited way too long to follow up with her. One chance encounter isn't enough for you to just blindly ask her out a week later
Hawaii51 Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 Totally forgot to mention.. Use the Force! You probably didn't use the force. :/
Gary S Posted April 14, 2015 Posted April 14, 2015 If she knows where you work and has come in there once, I'd wait for her to come back to your store. If she develops a crush on you, she will. If she does not? - you are dead in the water. Plus, you don't risk rejection. Playing hard to get doubles interest.
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